We used to swing and even did 3 somes with some very hung guys. I always enjoyed the scenes. however, she wanted to put things on hold so we did. Now that I am having some trouble with erections - not fully hard, etc. - she has raised the issue about doing this again. Since I began having some trouble, my libido has also waned a bit and it does not seem so exciting to me now. You know..watching this guy with 8 inches pounding away at her while she screams in ecstacy while i am hanging around somewhat limp. Should I just comply with her request to keep her happy or should I sort of insist that phase of sex is over for us?