Should I just go along with my wife's request?

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  1. D_Themistacles Wombbroom

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    We used to swing and even did 3 somes with some very hung guys. I always enjoyed the scenes. however, she wanted to put things on hold so we did.

    Now that I am having some trouble with erections - not fully hard, etc. - she has raised the issue about doing this again. Since I began having some trouble, my libido has also waned a bit and it does not seem so exciting to me now. You know..watching this guy with 8 inches pounding away at her while she screams in ecstacy while i am hanging around somewhat limp.

    Should I just comply with her request to keep her happy or should I sort of insist that phase of sex is over for us?
     
  2. Eisenhower

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    Get on top of your own problem, man. Go see your doctor, tell him what you're experiencing and let him check you out. Could be hormone levels, blood flow issues, diabetes, a whole range of things. He will also likely prescribe you some Viagra (or similar) and get you rock hard again. Don't just give up - there's help out there.

    Eisenhower
     
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    Well, you are in a very tough place, as far as I can see. My experience with women is that (I might be wrong, though) it is very very difficult to keep saying "no" to a woman. The day will come when you will have to give in.

    As the other poster said, you should look into your condition. How old are you? Maybe you simply need to do something about your diet and lifestyle.

    But if at the bottom of your heart, you really don't feel like taking part in any of those things again, whether you regain your hardness or not (hopefully yes), then maybe you need couple counselling. Or a divorce?
     
  4. D_EdgarAllenPooh

    D_EdgarAllenPooh New Member

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    what he said
     
  5. dad4you

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    Men do go through Andropause.. the male version of menopause.. I am 59 and diabetic. I got back some of my desire with DHEA 100 mg per day. My Doc put me on Testosterone which was a disaster for my balls. After 3 years of being OFF testosterone and working with DHEA my balls are almost back to their original size, and I have about 2/3 of my original desire back. Check with your doctor or a good herbalist. Is it sex with your wife you don't desire, or just sex in general. It sounds like a bit of emasculation is going on there too, which isn't good for getting and staying hard.
     
  6. Jonesy98

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    PE will do wonders for your erection quality.... seriously... start kegeling!
     
  7. avg_joe

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    Yes, you should comply with her request. But this time, find a guy with 9" dick like Matt Hughes. PURECFNM.com
     
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    What he said! See your doctor and take care of first things first. If he does put you on viagra there's nothing wrong with that. Not to mention it will give a helluva boner! Then, if the swinging is still brought up decide then. Don't ever give in to doing what you don't want
    to do or like. If you aren't ok seeing her do other men then don't. Consider a
    toy or another way of satisying her, but never do what you aren't wanting to do.
     
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    Well, the cat is out of the bag..no going back, sorry. However, if that is what she is still really into and you aren't anymore, you need to ask yourself one question. Is is that I am not into this anymore, or, is it an ED problem that is making me not like it anymore? If it's ED, to the doctor pronto. If it's the other, stop participating with her for a while. Let her do her thing while you find your groove through something else. Not to spite her or get her upset, but to insure longterm success of the relationship - if that is the objective...

    Always keep the wanting....and never chase !
     
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    I definitely would not recommend doing it if you aren't excited by the idea. It could make things worse as you might develop anxities around not being able to please your wife. The anxieties manifest themselves as more problems in the bedroom. If you don't wanna do it - don't do it.

    But you will need to DO your wife (pun intended). Go see your doctor and discuss this with him. Find out what options are best for you. Let your wife know what you're doing and ask for her support. Don't go it alone - you married her for a reason. She's your partner.
     
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    Dude I had a similiar situation and the thing that cured it was the male ego so just stick with the wife
     
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    Hey is it possible that she may be requesting it for you dude. Maybe she thinks that it will put the spark back in your libido. If that is the case tell her that you would like also to swing with her and another female.
     
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    Diet & exercise if that is an issue and then off to the Doc to get your hormones levels checked.
     
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    :rolleyes:

    Looks like Matt had been downsizing. He was 13", then 11", now it's only 9".

    I think he has a nice looking dick and I like it a lot (seen plenty of his vids), but it's not impressively thick by any means and he's probably about 8-9" long realistically. One more inch doesn't mean jack for length.
     
  15. D_yexysoy

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    In my experience, if one half of the couple does it because the other wants it it just harbors resentment. Sounds like you are concerned about being left out of the action, not so much that you aren't into the swinging itself (you mentioned standing around watching limp...is where I got that idea).

    My DH and I have an agreement as I think most couples do, both or none. Doesn't mean I wouldn't want to if he decided he was done, but the relationship is more important than the sex. He had an issue awhile back with staying hard, but in his case, sorry he was just being silly. We have sex every day, sometimes more than once, and occasionally he couldn't keep an erection. In my view I was thinking what's the big deal? You're 45 and having sex sometimes twice a day and sometimes it doesn't stay hard..I would think that's normal. To him, it was a problem. So..to the Doctor we went. He's fine, but we learned that often, it's a vicious cycle between whatever physical problem is causing it (if there is one) then it becomes mental, and it just keeps cycling. Thing is, it was more the idea that he might not be able to than anything, and now that he had a little 'help' he's fine and back to normal.

    So...is the erection the issue, or the swinging? Is it that you don't like that she still wants to and hasn't addressed the idea that maybe it would bother you? Maybe that is the underlying issue, that she is focusing on having sex with a hung stud instead of wondering how to help you with how you feel about what's going on?

    Good luck.
     
  16. D_Suckleberry Hound

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    Talk to your wife about everything.
     
  17. D_Themistacles Wombbroom

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    Well..thank you all. Really appreciate the sincere effots to help.
     
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    get a physical, a prescrip for viagra or similiar, doc gave me free samples to try.
     
  19. hud01

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    +1

    I'm not sure if it is true, but I read that half of the erection problems could be cured by PE and it much healthier than ED drugs.

    What stands out to me is your comment that your libido has waned. This also needs to be solved. What came first the erection problems or the loss of libido?
     
  20. Roudiest

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    I for one would never share my other half with any other man. Woman yes but not man.


    Hope this helps.
     
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