Should I Pursue Or Hold Steady

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I have a question. So I been single for at least 4 or 5 years. I am not really looking for a relationship but...

With all the covid stuff going on, where I work we have to get a our temperature taken before we can proceed into the building. The woman that takes everyone's temperatures comes across as if she is flirting with me, not saying she is as i am the guy in her age range. I am kinda blind when it comes to flirtation or advancement. That kind of why I am writing this to get a woman's perspective and opinion of what might be going on.

She has offered me snacks, to get stuff from the corner store while she's on her break among other things. Like telling me that she'll look for me as I am working or what happened on this past Friday that she'll think about me on her day off when I have to work.

She's not exactly what I would pursue on my own. She is older by 4 year's(I like being the older one) has 2 kids that are still in school and has full custody of the kids.
Out side of that I find her attractive and think she has a good personality.

I am confused. I don't know if I should make a move and ask her if she wants my number to chat away from work to see if there might be something or if I should hold off. I am fine in either case. Just don't want things to get weird if all she is doing is being nice and having fun.


Ask questions if you need to. I don't know if the question is apparent or if what I wrote is easy to follow.
 

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You know what? Just say, “do you ever want to get a coffee together?” If she says no - there’s your answer. Don’t over analyze her behaviour too much. If you want to take a chance, take it. A nice non-threatening coffee.
 

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While I understand most people's apprehension about dating at work, I think you should take the opportunity to suggest a shared activity when she offers to do something for you (like going to the corner store together) and slowly build contact from there.
I'll tell you where I'm coming from: I drooled over a coworker for almost two years. I tried the slow approach; the offering favors/asking for favors; talking about something cool that was going outside of work and then inviting him and finally asking him out. He said yes and we had a beautiful time together, which was cut off by the fucking pandemic. He's now back in his country. My only regret was not approaching him earlier...
 

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I watched a beautiful office romance turn terribly South. It affected the entire office for a long time because the more productive of the two requested a transfer and got it. She was left holding the bag of blame, poor thing.
 

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Oh, I didn’t get that they worked together - just that she was from somewhere else and her job is pandemic related. But if they do work together? That’s a no-go. It’s great when it works out, but ballistic when it doesn’t.
 

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Thanks to all for the replies. It does appear to have gotten off track.

Just want to make it clear for any others. She is not my coworker. When this covid stuff is done the company that she works for will no longer be necessary.

I would ask for her number, talk a little and see. Maybe take a walk together or something. Love isn’t easy to find. I am all for seeing what happens.
 
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Still. Ya both are on the job. No telling what policies her company has on client mingling.

Casual lunch with further inquiry?

I am overly cautious with anything that might interfer with an ability to keep ends in close contact.
 
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