Should I say something?

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So hypothetically, let's say a friend has been dating someone in secret for a couple months and they finally tell you. They tell you the name and show you a pic. And you were getting a sense of dread at the name but the picture clenches the situation. You know the guy, he's your other friend's long term boyfriend. You get the sense homeboy wants to keep everything low key cause he's in the closet and a lying filthy cheater. A quick check on FB and insta confirm he's still with her. So I tell my first friend right away. There's tears, shouting on the phone, breaking up, and ice cream. Now the question is do I tell my other friend? Idk what to do there. He's a cheater but I'd also be outing him. Even if he never cheats again I think my girl deserves someone who loves her. She has a temper though and she might out him completely in revenge and idk how I feel about that.
 
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No. Mind your own business. Maybe she knows and they have an open relationship on the dl, maybe she has an idea but looks the other way to keep him in the relationship. There are lots of possibilities that you may be unaware of because it’s none of your business. He did not make a pass at you, you only found out through hearsay. It’s gossip, pure and simple.
So you wouldn't tell your friend she's been cheated on?
 

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On one side of the coin.. I would say no.. sooner or later the man will screw up and get caught — men always do

On the other side of the coin I say yes but only considering — how long you know her./him.. and go from there

If it was me.. I’d a friend of mine knew my boyfriend was cheating on me and didn’t tell me— then when I find out he is cheating on me and my friend knew all along .. I’d be pissed at all then
 

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On one side of the coin.. I would say no.. sooner or later the man will screw up and get caught — men always do

On the other side of the coin I say yes but only considering — how long you know her./him.. and go from there

If it was me.. I’d a friend of mine knew my boyfriend was cheating on me and didn’t tell me— then when I find out he is cheating on me and my friend knew all along .. I’d be pissed at all then
Holy shit I just realized I've known her for 9 years. But also the whole things is a moot point now. My gay friend decided he wanted some revenge. Ended up just threating to out the guy if he did break up with my other friend. Worked out since they aren't together and guy still has his secret. Hopefully, dude comes out on his own terms or if failing that, hopefully he finds a willing beard.
 
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No. Mind your own business. Maybe she knows and they have an open relationship on the dl, maybe she has an idea but looks the other way to keep him in the relationship. There are lots of possibilities that you may be unaware of because it’s none of your business. He did not make a pass at you, you only found out through hearsay. It’s gossip, pure and simple.
Nah I could never and would never let a friend of mine be cheated on and I would never let a friend of mine be some DL dudes fuck toy. Both friends deserve better and the cheater deserves to rot
 
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