Hey,
So having a bit of a headfuck moment and wondering if I need to stop or not.
So I hooked up with a guy a couple of months ago from good ol' Grindr. I knew hooking up that he was in a relationship but from the second hook up I realised that he was not happy. At the time, I suddenly felt he was a really good guy so we exchanged snapchats. We spoke for ages. At the time I was casually dating someone and knowing he was in an unhappy relationship, we just chatted - sometimes flirty sometimes just like mates.
I've stopped seeing the person I was for unrelated issues and I've since found out that this guy does want to leave his partner but needs to save money to leave. He's said that they haven't had sex in well over a year. Me and this guy have both done new sex stuff that we haven't done before.
Now I'm really starting to fall for him. Like hook line and sinker. I see him active on Grindr but he's always at home (I can see the map on SC) and me and him talk EVERY day. I had a nap the other day and didn't reply so he spammed me with messages. He even offered to drive me an hour to my family on xmas eve.
In other conversations, before we started getting proper chatty, he said that he's in a bit of a dark place and once he has separated from the boyfriend then he probably needs to be alone to work on himself, potentially move away.
Now, currently, I'm not stupid - I'm not waiting around for him whilst he's with this guy so I'm still using other dating apps etc. but do I tell him how I feel or do I wait until they've separated and then take the plunge. We have said that we wanna meet up and will do when we have the time. Or should I just cut ties now?
Cheers,
So having a bit of a headfuck moment and wondering if I need to stop or not.
So I hooked up with a guy a couple of months ago from good ol' Grindr. I knew hooking up that he was in a relationship but from the second hook up I realised that he was not happy. At the time, I suddenly felt he was a really good guy so we exchanged snapchats. We spoke for ages. At the time I was casually dating someone and knowing he was in an unhappy relationship, we just chatted - sometimes flirty sometimes just like mates.
I've stopped seeing the person I was for unrelated issues and I've since found out that this guy does want to leave his partner but needs to save money to leave. He's said that they haven't had sex in well over a year. Me and this guy have both done new sex stuff that we haven't done before.
Now I'm really starting to fall for him. Like hook line and sinker. I see him active on Grindr but he's always at home (I can see the map on SC) and me and him talk EVERY day. I had a nap the other day and didn't reply so he spammed me with messages. He even offered to drive me an hour to my family on xmas eve.
In other conversations, before we started getting proper chatty, he said that he's in a bit of a dark place and once he has separated from the boyfriend then he probably needs to be alone to work on himself, potentially move away.
Now, currently, I'm not stupid - I'm not waiting around for him whilst he's with this guy so I'm still using other dating apps etc. but do I tell him how I feel or do I wait until they've separated and then take the plunge. We have said that we wanna meet up and will do when we have the time. Or should I just cut ties now?
Cheers,