Should I Tell My Fiancé About My Dream?

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So to start, I have been with my partner for almost 6 years and this involves one of our current roommates. The roommate is straight and has always expressed no desire to try to look for anyone other than women, even when he was in a spot where he didn't know if he should take a break or not. He is fairly attractive, goes to the gym 4 days a week and is well educated. I have never felt anything towards him other than platonic friends. Well, I woke up this morning wearing a pair of cum soaked boxer briefs and all that I am able to remember about any dream was that I was sucking him off and he came all over me while we were at a party. It's wasn't a secret either, I can remember that people walked in on it happening but was disrupted. My fiancé wasn't involved in my dream at all.

I haven't mentioned anything to my fiancé as he leaves earlier than I in the morning but I can help thinking that maybe I should? What do you guys think?
 
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Most of the times a dream about sex with someone indicates a longing for more emotional bonding or time with this person. That’s why we can have sexual dreams about close friends, collegues and relatives. It’s different from a fantasy we have when awake.
 

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Very Interstink...

Sounds to me you would like your Fiance' to participate in your fantasies even though she was not present in your dreams, although she is very much present in your conscious mind......You had better work out your priorities before your life commitment.
 

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Many men have homosexual dreams, that have nothing to do with their desire in real life. Keep it to yourself unless it becomes a reoccurring thing, then you might want to reconsider your sexual orientation
I always used to tell my partner for the last 15 years as a joke when she said to me " How come you know all this shit" I used to say to her it's because I am number 4........................

Hahahahaha...then the movie 'I Am Number Four' came out..........she was so disappointed I couldn't blow shit up or glow in the dark :) :)

As far as dreams go....................we all have two minds. Conscious and Subconscious. There is a bridge between the two, never stop enjoying the dream.
 

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Dreams have hidden and multiple meanings. For example, although I am more gay than straight, I have had suggestive (not explicit) sexual dreams about women. The are pleasant and I feel confident. In these cases, I suspect it's more about confidence than sex. You are probably the best judge as to whether your fiancee would consider this dream an allegory or a threat.
 
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Many men have homosexual dreams, that have nothing to do with their desire in real life. Keep it to yourself unless it becomes a reoccurring thing, then you might want to reconsider your sexual orientation
But... He's gay. And he is engaged to a man. Why would he need to reconsider his orientation because of sexual dreams about another man?
 

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But... He's gay. And he is engaged to a man. Why would he need to reconsider his orientation because of sexual dreams about another man?

I missed that part I thought he was talking about a girl. Sorry, I should have looked closer. You are right and I stand corrected
 
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I do wish people would make these things more clear right from the outset. :)
He put his sex and orientation on his profile. He spelled fiancé correctly. He referred to his fiancé as his partner, and by masculine pronouns. Everyone immediately recognized him as male. What more do you want from him?
 
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To the OP:

It really depends on how secure your partner is. For myself, my partner and I tell each other our dreams all the time. Sometimes they are erotic, and we get a chuckle out of them. "You had a dream you were fucking who??".

But, if your partner is insecure it might bother him. If that is the case, keep it to yourself until a future time when you can regale him with the story of you waking up to cum soaked underwear.

It is a dream, not an affair.
 

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Take it to the grave with you. Lol but seriously don’t tell him. Put yrself in his shoes.... how would u feel? Would u start to wonder if u were attracted to him? Would it help or hurt do u think?
 
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