A general question, I am straight, but it may apply to gays as well I guess. I am a "grower", so my size isn't that obvious. When solid, I am 28 cm or about 10 3/4". When I know we are headed to the bedroom, should I mention my size, or would a woman prefer to find out on their own? I'm 48, and its only been lately that I've had women of my own age group coming out and flatly saying "no way" once I get to full size. Though I will usually get at least a BJ or HJ, it's a pretty poor second choice. Would a brief mention cut down on the number of women who just wouldn't be interested?