Should there be a warning?

[longbaugh]

What would you consider a tactfull way of letting a woman know that you have a huge cock before you are past the point of no return?
I just can't see being on a date and and finding an oppertune time to say "Oh, in case you were thinking about having sex with me later, I need to let you know what you are in for ..."

 

[madame_zora]

I'm sure I'm not a good example of what "most" women would like, but I, personally, would love it if a guy wanted to use information like that to tease me with. Something along the lines of "In case you're curious, I've got a huge schlong- you're gonna love it" would be nice. I think you'd pretty well have to know who you're talking to first to know if they'd respond well to that though.

 

[longbaugh]

Ahem......Ok......Well.......Here goes.........

Madame, do you like the wine?

Well er um... In case you're curious, I've got a huge schlong- you're gonna love it.

Could you pass the olive oil please?

 

[13788]

dark_moon:

Originally posted by longbaugh@Sep 25 2004, 10:06 AM
What would you consider a tactfull way of letting a woman know that you have a huge cock before you are past the point of no return?
I just can't see being on a date and and finding an oppertune time to say "Oh, in case you were thinking about having sex with me later, I need to let you know what you are in for ..."

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I guy I was dating had a very tactful way of letting me know there was something 'unusual' about his penis. We had been seeing each other for a few weeks. Had slept together once or twice. Things had progressed to a point that it was a resonable conclusion that we might have sex real soon.

Earlier in the evening he had said something along the lines of, "Since things are to a point we might be intimate, I need to ask you something. Do you have condoms?" I assured him that I did.

Later, I was brushing my teeth and he was standing just outside the bathroom door, in the kitchen, when he said, "There is something I need to tell you about myself before things go any further between us."

I froze. Everything you could possibly imagine passed through my head. Everything that is except for what he was about to tell me. I said cautiously, "what is that?" :huh:

He said, "I have a piercing" Then went on to describe it to me. A "prince albert"...the size of the ring. Which all meant squat to me.

We went to bed. After we had been laying there not sleeping for probly an hour, I said, "Ok, let me see it."

It was kind of weird to be checking out a man's penis in such a way before we ever had sex. But I think I would have pretty much freaked out if he hadn't told me and just let me discover the thing mid romp.

A less tactful man I dated told me ahead of time about his size. His timing and approach, not to mention lack of preparation, was...well, not good. We had been seeing each other for a couple weeks and things had gotten pretty smoldering between us. So I had felt his erection through his pants. But I was clueless just how big it was just the same. We were headed to the lake for a weekend. Had stopped for gas. In the middle of the convenience store he says offhandedly, "I'm bigger than most men." I said, "Oh sure that's what all men say." And that was the end of it.

Weeeeell, later that night I found out he was not at all being inacurate. I go to slip on a condom and it was WAY too small. He was 8' long and very thick. And we were in a situation where running out to the store was not an option.

After that experience I have made a habit of being prepaired with larger size condoms on hand. But I still have gotten caught in awkward situations. Like the time I had to say, "Damn, this condom is not going to fit, excuse me." Then had to get up and go to the dresser for a Magnum XL.

Now, what's a girl to do? Keep a mixed box by the bed side, check out a guys package, then dig for the right size? :blink: Ok, I tried that. I got caught. He wanted to know why I had so many sizes.

So I'm on the side of letting a gal know when your packin serious heat. And there are ways to do that without it coming out the wrong way.

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by longbaugh@Sep 27 2004, 06:24 AM
Ahem......Ok......Well.......Here goes.........

Madame, do you like the wine?

Well er um... In case you're curious, I've got a huge schlong- you're gonna love it.

Could you pass the olive oil please?

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Longbaugh, I don't drink, thanks for the info, let's skip the olive oil and go straight for the astroglide!

 

[longbaugh]

Slow down baby, We've got all night

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Dark Moon, that's a really good point you bring up y'know! I think it's good that you're so into protection, but the men you seem to know are so goddam lazy! Why are you stuck buying the condoms. It'd be easier if they knew what they needed, although easier said then done in some cases..

 

[13788]

qwertylicious69: there shouldn't really be a warning. it's like opening the beautifully wrapped gift under the perfect christmas tree and finding a stunning cartier watch staring in your face with stunning diamonds.

you should warn, however, when she is going down on you and you feel the need to errupt sometimes we feel like a "nutt" sometimes we don't

 

[Max]

Originally posted by qwertylicious69@Sep 29 2004, 12:39 AM
there shouldn't really be a warning. it's like opening the beautifully wrapped gift under the perfect christmas tree and finding a stunning cartier watch staring in your face with stunning diamonds.

Qwerty.

Beautifully put, and I would agree 100%, were it not for the fact that some women react very differently to an oversized penis ... alarm, concern, and even revulsion are possible.

If like me you are a man who approaches relationships with women on a lifetime basis, this gets to feel very important and risky. Hence my conviction (as I mentioned in a previous post) that I needed to give some sort of a "warning" very early on.

 

[madame_zora]

Yes, and the problem with any kind of advice given is that the people receiving it are all coming from a different place as well. What would work well on one woman might be seen as pretnetious or revolting by another. What one man would find easy to say would humiliate another, so on and so on. A rejection that one man might shake off easily might crush another for years, thus the ongoing problems in human relationships. My best advice is to consider carefully the person's most apparent personality characteristics. If they are outgoing, be bold. If they are shy, be subtle. If they are uncomfortalbe, be delicate. If the are humorous, be funny. Use your best judgement to assess the situation you're in. Most of us are better at this than we give ourselves credit for, but we often fail to listen to that little voice in our head that tells us how to handle things appropriately.
In all honesty, if your penis is a size large enough that you've been turned down for sex in the past, I can see why you would not like to leave it to chance to see if that horrible experience would be repeated. I would give some indication in advance to test out the waters. I would think approaching it as matter-of-factly as possible might put most women at ease, even mentioning it as something that has been a problem in the past. There are always those moments in conversations that are more serious when the "pregnant pause" comes in, then you could say something like "You know, I've been thinking about us a lot lately. I like being with you and you seem to keep answering the phone when I call, so I guess you like me too. Seems likely we might sleep together sometime, so there's something I wanted to mention first- I'm kind of above average in the endowment department, how do you feel about that?" This gives thenm a chance to get used to the idea, and you can see if you've aroused some curiousity or frightened them away. I seiously doubt the latter. Most women, given a chance to consider it, would probably be curious. In my opinion, the refusal would be more likely if they were suddenly "confronted" with it without warning. Many women are not at ease with themselves sexually, and the thought of taking on a very large guy might seem overwhelming. But even then I would think giving her a chance to mull it over would arouse some instinctual curiousity. Just my thoughts.


LB, dammit, I'm too eager, aren't I?

 

[longbaugh]

Madame that is really deep, I couldn't agree more.

BTW, I can go as fast or as slow as you like.

 

[robert617]

Thanks for the thoughtful input Madame Zora. I have run into the turn downs before. It was just not that often. What prompted me to write was several in a row, all women over 40 and I was wondering if this was just coincidence or a foreshadowing of things to come.
Granted every situtation is unique, and up until now I rarely brought the subject up beforehand as most women were quite delighted with their "discovery". It was this particular string of turn downs that had me questioning the "fun" of surprising them.
Dark Moon- I ALWAYS provide my own condons, that way I know they fit, and I really wouldn't want to be worrying about that at that particular time.

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Zora, your input is already "Lightening the load". Thanks, you've given my something to mull over, although as always, I'm a master of theory and not in practice!

 

[madame_zora]

Orca- as beautiful and intelligent as you are, the woman who gets to you will be a lucky girl indeed. The fact that you've actually put time into thinking things through before rushing into them will be a delight and true pleasure to your lovers in the future, I think you're such a cool guy.

Robert617, I would have to assume that what you've been experiencing is a rude coincidence, but I'm just one person talking. I'm also in the over 40 crowd, and in my experience, women my age are not as sexually agressive as yuounger women, but I only know from talking to them not from practical experience. I have never lived "within the bounds" sexually, and have often shocked my peers with my frankness about sex, so this has left me wondering how frustrated a lot of men must be!

Longbaugh, I'm one of those girls who likes desert before dinner- not too good at patience.

 

[naughty]

MmeZ,

I have to say you are the bomb! I love your affirming responses to the guys and we could all male or female straight or gay take a lesson from you.


Naughty

 

[Bluespeedoz]

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Hey,
I'm just over your length with a large girth. I've had a number of sexual relationships and have never mentioned my size to chicks in advance - it's very difficult to drop this into conversation! One chick refused point blank to have full intercourse with me though she was keen to suck me to full size. She had brought along a dildo - she was into toys - and taught me just how to use it on her! All my other conquests have had no hang ups about my size but have asked me to be considerate particularly during penetrative sex. My current girlfriend loves my size though she can't take all of me yet - but we're having lots of fun trying different positions and getting there!

 

[Standard Deviant]

Originally posted by robert617@Aug 12 2004, 11:07 PM
I'm 48, and its only been lately that I've had women of my own age group coming out and flatly saying "no way" once I get to full size.

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I'm close to your age and I think it's FASCINATING that "only lately" has this happened. I see a really interesting cultural shift taking place. As penis size has become a more open topic, and porn is everywhere so that women have seen the possible size range by the time they become active, they are for the first time in my memory not as WOWed in a positive way by extreme size. Like you, I never detected this happening 10-25 years ago.

 

[robert617]

I guess culture is opening up in some ways but not in all ways at all times- I find I have to take sort of the "minefield" attitude and just be careful most of the time. Its better now than in my grandfather's day, but young guys probably have it better than us lol

 

[madame_zora]

It's funny, as things become more open to talk about, new attitudes and influences begin to surface. Just like in the 60's when the women's movement began, that marked the breakdown of the nuclear family, but less women had to live in situations where they were being brutalized just because they couldn't support themselves. Until recently, male sexuality had a kind of mystique to it, I've talked to several men my age and older who were indignant about being objectified, even though they may be the first to tell you they're a "leg man" or "breast man", clearly identifyng which parts of the female anatomy they prefer. No woman is ALLOWED to be a "cock woman"- she would be both a bitch AND a whore if she said that! But buckle up, guys, we're in for a bumpy ride as we are now talking about men's issues in public. Some of the secrecy and privacy that you've previously enjoyed (that women have not) will probably become less and less. Ultimately this bring us closer together, even though it may feel uncomfortable for a time. Now that the cat's out of the bag that penises do look different and come in different sizes, some women may actually begin feeling they have a right to have a preference there, just like you do with our body parts. This only makes us human, not bitches. People don't just automatically owe anyone sex, just for the asking, so size is just another part of "sexual preference". Many women who know much about themselves and the cock sizes they've encountered really don't want to be hurt, and really don't want to work as hard as you have to work on a truly huge cock, so it is a very good idea to find the ones who think what you have is awesome (because there's plenty of those too) and go with it. Just a bit more honesty than most of us are used to, but I think it's all good in the end. My .02.

 

[robert617]

We're all living in the new millenium, whether we like it or not. Good news, for me anyway, at the "coffee and chat" stage with a woman. It is a bit tough to be at this stage during Christmas, but hopefully we can get through it ok.