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I wanted some help with how to get closer to a guy I like which I think could be into guys, starteda thread but while typing the server timed out and my whole opened heart went down the drain.
but, idk how, it got me wondering, there are much more girls in the world, in my country way more, and yet there are more and more gays, im surely changing my percentage every now and then.
for me it's female psychology, I'm not comfortable with their ways, and it's a common place, so I was wondering, shouldn't they try to change something in their minds, because frankly there will be many unborn kids and lonely cat- ladies if they don't.
sorry if I was harsh, but to me it seems like a painful truth...
 

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There are many men, gay and straight, who are simply more comfortable in the company of men than with women. Men and women on average ARE different.

Your sexual preference is a separate issue, but if you think you might relate positively to men sexually, then you owe it to yourself to check that out.

If you're bisexual, you have the best of both worlds, because you can choose the partner whose gender you best relate to head-wise.

As far as how to approach your friend who you think may have similar same-sex interests: I'm not sure what to tell you, because you know him better than I do. But,with the increased acceptance of gays these days it seems easier to just pop the question without fear of negative repercussions.

Good luck whatever you do. Choose a partner that you really love.
 
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You don't understand women is your problem. Things can seem oblique, but once you understand women what they want is crystal clear. When they want me I know, so they don't have to spell it out in big letters. And they do want men, trust me.
 

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no, im pretty confident about my sexuality whatever the percentages are, I am bi. but like you said, ONCE you get to understand them,...
that was the question, why do we need to spend so much time trying to understand girls, I personally don't think is worth and give up as soon as I see she's playing hard to get. and it's not an issue for me, I do not need a relationship. one day someone will come along but until then I've much more important and interesting things to do other then trying to figure them out.

edit: for me, girls in my history are the reason I got interested in boys
 

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The women are not playing hard to get. For you, they simply, frankly, literally are hard to get. If that means that your response, rather than to grow as an individual and find out why you can't even get along with half the population, is outright avoidance, so be it. But let's be clear: it's not women, it's you!
 

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The women are not playing hard to get. For you, they simply, frankly, literally are hard to get. If that means that your response, rather than to grow as an individual and find out why you can't even get along with half the population, is outright avoidance, so be it. But let's be clear: it's not women, it's you!

I have to agree! I find you difficult to understand and you've had time to consider what you want to get across in writing. I can only imagine how confusing you must be in person. And your attitude to women seems to stink. You know sometimes in life we have to say "It can't always be someone elses fault" and take a good look at ourselves. I suggest you find a mirror.
 

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You know sometimes in life we have to say "It can't always be someone elses fault" and take a good look at ourselves. I suggest you find a mirror.

I am the first who always thought something was wrong with me, I'm not doing it right, what did I do, say, etc and finally, growing older and wiser, I realized, it's not me... my criteria is very high but I never want to let anyone, especially a partner, be it a man or a woman, to make a fool of me, to make me behave in a way that most people laugh at me, and good friends pity me for being, well, brainwashed.
I'm sorry if I'm hurting someone, there are nice girls who can be your friend and have sex with you at the same time but they are a drop in the ocean. I never ever met a female who doesn't enjoy doing exactly the opposite of what is normal, saying or doing things I don't like ( we all don't like some things) just to see how I react laugh as tho they did sth very smart, pushed it too hard and then don't understand why I left...
 

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I am the first who always thought something was wrong with me, I'm not doing it right, what did I do, say, etc and finally, growing older and wiser, I realized, it's not me... my criteria is very high but I never want to let anyone, especially a partner, be it a man or a woman, to make a fool of me, to make me behave in a way that most people laugh at me, and good friends pity me for being, well, brainwashed.
I'm sorry if I'm hurting someone, there are nice girls who can be your friend and have sex with you at the same time but they are a drop in the ocean. I never ever met a female who doesn't enjoy doing exactly the opposite of what is normal, saying or doing things I don't like ( we all don't like some things) just to see how I react laugh as tho they did sth very smart, pushed it too hard and then don't understand why I left...

Now you're just getting paranoid...
 

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If you were close to your momma and sisters, you will like being around women. If you were close to your dad and brothers, you will like being around women. If you have comfortable with both you are blessed by being "normal", whatever that is.
I love being around women.
Nuf said.
 

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I wanted some help with how to get closer to a guy I like which I think could be into guys,
I think this sums it up rather much for you.


, it got me wondering, there are much more girls in the world, in my country way more, and yet there are more and more gays, im surely changing my percentage every now and then.
not so much more gays, more like there are more being able to allow themselves to acknowledge their sexuality.
and again, you comment that you are changing your percentage every so often.

for me it's female psychology, I'm not comfortable with their ways, and it's a common place, so I was wondering, shouldn't they try to change something in their minds, because frankly there will be many unborn kids and lonely cat- ladies if they don't.
sorry if I was harsh, but to me it seems like a painful truth...
yeah for you it's about the female psychology......what exactly does that mean? Please explain.
Okay you aren't comfortable with how they are. That's you. Many men are comfortable with women and love them and how they are.

Rather insulting that you think women who don't have children will become 'lonely cat ladies'. Many women choose not to have children, their choice and they don't end up with dozens of cats. Maybe the problem here johnny is that you just aren't that much into women and because you may have some deep seated issues about being gay you have decided to make it seem as if it's all the woman's fault. Time for you to do some self examination.
 

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I have to agree! I find you difficult to understand and you've had time to consider what you want to get across in writing. I can only imagine how confusing you must be in person. And your attitude to women seems to stink. You know sometimes in life we have to say "It can't always be someone elses fault" and take a good look at ourselves. I suggest you find a mirror.

+1

i read the original post several times and i'm still not sure what the poor ass is talking about. something about blaming girls, i think.
 

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I wanted some help with how to get closer to a guy I like which I think could be into guys, starteda thread but while typing the server timed out and my whole opened heart went down the drain.
but, idk how, it got me wondering, there are much more girls in the world, in my country way more, and yet there are more and more gays, im surely changing my percentage every now and then.
for me it's female psychology, I'm not comfortable with their ways, and it's a common place, so I was wondering, shouldn't they try to change something in their minds, because frankly there will be many unborn kids and lonely cat- ladies if they don't.
sorry if I was harsh, but to me it seems like a painful truth...

What... Thefuck? *blink*

To hell with this entire post. I think women are doing themselves a HUGE favor if their ways are putting you off. I'd MUCH rather be alone than with someone like you. Maybe they're fully aware that they're not appealing to you... And probably counting their lucky stars. My condolences to the guy who has to put up with your arrogance.
 

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okay, I see I'm not getting much support here on the matter...
I am very kind, and nice (i shouldn't be saying this for myself but since nobody else here knows me...) and gentle when I want to be, all of you who pity someone or other are wrong, you've mistaken me for some moron who hates everyone. most of my life I have been around women and I think it's enough. I am bi, I said that already.
of course there are people who choose to be alone and I respect that, my best friend is one of those, but it's in human nature to be afraid of loneliness and that's why most people must have a relationship, and why someone said I'm only saying this cause I can't find a girl. I understand your fear, but i'm over that.
now what you all are saying is that no girl gets on your nerves ever? if you can say that, I withdraw my question immediately with apology. somehow I doubt that will happen...
 

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No one is saying that no girl ever gets on anyone's nerves. All people sometimes get on someone's last nerve. What you've said is not the same. You've said that all of the women you've encountered have put you off all women ever. Youv also implied that there is something wrong with the very nature of women, and that it is turning more men gay, and that women as a whole need to reexamine their ways. All women. Not just the handful you didn't know better than to fuck with.

Well, that's just stupidity at best, misogyny at worst! The truth is, you probably have far more bisexual attraction to men than you can comfortably admit to yourself. Perhaps the guilt you feel drives you to search for an explanation for increasing interest in getting fucked in the ass. I dunno, but I definitely think the issue is a matter of self acceptance, rather than there being a problem with an entire gender, worldwide.

Remember, if it gets to a point where you believe the problem lies within that many people, the problem probably is within you. It just isn't possible for that many to be wrong, and you're th only on right.
 

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Remember, if it gets to a point where you believe the problem lies within that many people, the problem probably is within you. It just isn't possible for that many to be wrong, and you're th only on right.

I'm so sick of that line. the problem probably is in me but not necessarily... stop saying i need to accept my sexuality, I'm on perfect terms with myself and I know how to control myself, and don't need someone next to me just so I have them, but only who I want. and I do think all the females drew me away of them
 

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Right. The females you knew caused you to leave them. That is what happens. Just like all of my exes caused me to leave them. However, here is the difference between you and well-adjusted people. You think because it hasnt worked out so far with the women you've known, that not only could it never work out with you and any women anywhere, but loving relationships cannot work out for any women, anywhere, with an increasing number of men, becaus there is something wrong with all woman-kind. Typically, most well-adjusted people are instead inclined to think that they just haven't met the right person for themselves, whatever gender that person will turn out to be. Typically, sexual orientation is accepted as something originating inside oneself, not something outsiders can change for you. You complain of women not behaving in a way you perceive as normal, but you in fact have an abnormal understanding of the world. What you say is stupid at best, and hateful at worst. I stand by that.

As for you being sick of being told that when that many people (an entire gender) are in agreement, and you stand alone you are probably the one in th wrong, I guess you just can't handle the truth, and you ar more arrogant than anyone thought. Women worldwide have just dodged a bullet!
 
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Noticed your avatar. My brother owns a beagle. I seriously can't stand that fucking dog. Never was there a beast that whined, howled and barked all day long like this Hell hound does. Noisy little fuckers. A squirrel farted and that dog would go into this combination howl/bark berserk mode for 5 minutes straight, no lie. The neighbors just must want that dog to choke on bone and die. Anyone who's ever been around a beagle knows exactly what I'm talking about. So god damn annoying. After seeing how they behave I would never own one. What can I say, they turned me gay. All I want now is pussy.
 
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