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It is astonishing how conservative people are here. In a website all about large penises. It's absurd. Like people here can claim to be some kind of saints?

I don't do it often, but I've wanked in private shower cubicles at my gym. So long as nobody sees too much, and you flush the "product" away, I see no real issue. Pressing your body against the frosted glass door would be a no-no but other than that I can't see what would be a problem. Keep the grunting toned down too...

I think doing it in open showers might be an issue. Or walking around with an erection.

But a pre- or post- shower chubby isn't much of an issue.

I'm not far from London. Maybe I could "spot" for you some time?

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Is it conservative? I don't think so. I think it's more an issue of being courteous and respectful. People should have a say in whether or not they care to be a part of your sex (self-sex or otherwise). How do you figure that's it's ok to force that on someone?... And why? Because you feel like jerking off so fuck everyone else and what they want? Your desires are more important than everyone else's? Call me crazy but I think it's my right to be able to go to the gym without having to be exposed to someone's orgasm. I don't think it's a right to be able to jerk off whenever you feel like it... And the law is on my side.
 

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Is it conservative? I don't think so. I think it's more an issue of being courteous and respectful...

Agreed. I'm all about sex-positivity and body-positivity. Personally, I wouldn't be bothered if someone in a private stall in a the gym I went to were rubbing one out (unless there were kids about, in which case it would definitely bother me).

But...

It's no kind of inconvenience at all to wait to beat off at home. If it's against the rules of the gym you go to, don't do it.
 

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Not necessarily disagreeing, but just for the sake of discussion, of course you shouldn't have anything forced upon you, but are we really that uncomfortable with male sexuality in a single-sex, adult setting? I've seen straight couples fooling around on nude beaches and it really didn't traumatize me. Should we relax a bit about erections and masturbation in some settings?
 

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Not necessarily disagreeing, but just for the sake of discussion, of course you shouldn't have anything forced upon you, but are we really that uncomfortable with male sexuality in a single-sex, adult setting? I've seen straight couples fooling around on nude beaches and it really didn't traumatize me. Should we relax a bit about erections and masturbation in some settings?


Nude beaches are slightly different than a gym, no?
Gyms are not a strictly adult setting and they also don't have "nude" right in the title. As an adult choosing to go to a nude beach, you are making a conscious decision to enter into a recreational situation where adults are interacting naked. Gyms are there for fitness, not naked recreation... And the showers are there to clean sweat and stink off of your body... Not masturbation.
 

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Not necessarily disagreeing, but just for the sake of discussion, of course you shouldn't have anything forced upon you, but are we really that uncomfortable with male sexuality in a single-sex, adult setting? I've seen straight couples fooling around on nude beaches and it really didn't traumatize me. Should we relax a bit about erections and masturbation in some settings?

Agreed. I've seen the same, didn't bug me in the slightest. But, that's just me. It does bug other people, though, and in my opinion this is one of those things where it's best just to hold off until you're home.
 
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It would be an interesting discussion to look at the issue cross-culturally and throughout history; Victorian morals and the levels of privacy that we enjoy today are relatively recent developments. Male sexuality cross-culturally and through time has probably been a sensitive issue not to be discussed very openly, resulting in little recorded evidence; however, there are pieces here and there we can look at. I was interested to find some discussion about Melville's 1851 Moby Dick, for example; in chapter 94, A Squeeze of the Hand, Ishmael is describing himself and the crew working the spermaceti out of the Sperm Whale:

Squeeze! Squeeze! Squeeze! All the morning long; I squeezed that sperm till I myself almost melted into it; I squeezed the sperm till a strange sort of insanity came over me; and I found myself unwittingly squeezing my co-laborers’ hands in it, mistaking their hands for the gentle globules.

This passage is regarded as a play on words, with reference to masturbation, with some debate about its meaning and the practice of group masturbation, or at least solitary masturbation, among sailors of the day. I'm sure other examples like this can be gleaned from the historical and cross-cultural record; an author who served in the armed forces wrote a biographical account, The Trained Killers (2011), set in the 1950s, which describes Cuban soldiers openly masturbating in the barracks, for example.
 
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You're talking about examples of situations where men were housed for extended periods of time under conditions where they had little to no privacy. How does that apply to a modern day, civilian, gym situation? I guess if you're just interested in discussing societal acceptance/opinions of male masturbation... Fine... But that's not really relevant to this thread, is it?
 

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You're talking about examples of situations where men were housed for extended periods of time under conditions where they had little to no privacy. How does that apply to a modern day, civilian, gym situation? I guess if you're just interested in discussing societal acceptance/opinions of male masturbation... Fine... But that's not really relevant to this thread, is it?
True, you could argue it's comparing apples and oranges, I guess my point is just a general one about the grey areas of sexuality in all male, adult settings. You're right that I'm probably straying too far and it's a discussion that deserves its own thread.
 
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I get horny at the gym and after it. I don't have a wank AT the gym, I have enough self control and awareness that doing so in what is basically a public place, regardless that it's a changing room or shower, is messed up. Especially if, has already been mentioned, there's the chance of minors being around. Which is pretty much every gym.
 
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I agree with SoCal; self control is a very important skill for one to possess. I am also a firm believer in a little adage called "Time and Place". I am no proponent of public personal displays of affection, whether alone or with a partner.

But damn, thinking that there is some type of politeness/etiquette that would somehow mitigate doing something at the gym you shouldn't be doing at the gym is messed up.
 
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I agree with SoCal; self control is a very important skill for one to possess. I am also a firm believer in a little adage called "Time and Place". I am no proponent of public personal displays of affection, whether alone or with a partner.

But damn, thinking that there is some type of politeness/etiquette that would somehow mitigate doing something at the gym you shouldn't be doing at the gym is messed up.
Well, I do believe there's more than a few people in your state who would consider you "messed up" for the simple fact of your orientation.
 
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As far as it being a gray area… It's not really gray. This is all pretty simple, really. If someone reported you to the gym or the police for jerking off in the shower… Would you get in trouble? Yes or no? There you go. End of story.

The answer is actually "it depends". People seem to be referring to or picturing different situations in this thread and they aren't the same. One situation is masturbating in a private shower stall with a door/curtain. The other is masturbating in an open shower or locker area. If you're simply masturbating in a private shower and the only way someone would know/report you is if they were spying on you by looking over a partition wall or something, you would not get in trouble. The person spying on you and invading your privacy would be a bigger issue. If you're masturbating in a private shower but making sounds or something like that, the police likely aren't going to do anything but gym management will probably say something. If you're masturbating in the open, that's gym management and the police.
 
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The answer is actually "it depends". People seem to be referring to or picturing different situations in this thread and they aren't the same. One situation is masturbating in a private shower stall with a door/curtain. The other is masturbating in an open shower or locker area. If you're simply masturbating in a private shower and the only way someone would know/report you is if they were spying on you by looking over a partition wall or something, you would not get in trouble. The person spying on you and invading your privacy would be a bigger issue. If you're masturbating in a private shower but making sounds or something like that, the police likely aren't going to do anything but gym management will probably say something. If you're masturbating in the open, that's gym management and the police.

I don't necessarily agree.

A person who “intentionally make an obscene display or exposure of his person, or the private parts thereof, in any public place or in any place where others are present” is guilty of indecent exposure. This is under the code of the City of Virginia Beach and many other laws are similar.

If you're engaged in a sexual act in a shower stall, simply standing behind a plastic curtain, a few feet from other people, you will likely be found guilty of indecent exposure.

The fact remains, you're in a public building, there is no locking mechanism on the door, you are a few feet from other people and you're engaged in a sex act.

A young person could open the door accidentally, someone could trip and rip the shower curtain, someone hard of hearing could open the door widely to check if the shower is in use, the curtain or door could accidentally swing open sufficiently to place you in plain view of others.

All of the above, combined with the fact that a person is in a public place where others are present would be reasons they would likely be found guilty of indecent exposure.

You have to remember that being charged with indecent exposure does not only mean you were purposefully trying to expose yourself to others. The charge can also be applied to other behaviors where others can discover you engaged in a sexual act or nude in an area where nudity is not permitted.
 

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The answer is actually "it depends". People seem to be referring to or picturing different situations in this thread and they aren't the same. One situation is masturbating in a private shower stall with a door/curtain. The other is masturbating in an open shower or locker area. If you're simply masturbating in a private shower and the only way someone would know/report you is if they were spying on you by looking over a partition wall or something, you would not get in trouble. The person spying on you and invading your privacy would be a bigger issue. If you're masturbating in a private shower but making sounds or something like that, the police likely aren't going to do anything but gym management will probably say something. If you're masturbating in the open, that's gym management and the police.
I don't necessarily agree.

A person who “intentionally make an obscene display or exposure of his person, or the private parts thereof, in any public place or in any place where others are present” is guilty of indecent exposure. This is under the code of the City of Virginia Beach and many other laws are similar.

If you're engaged in a sexual act in a shower stall, simply standing behind a plastic curtain, a few feet from other people, you will likely be found guilty of indecent exposure.

The fact remains, you're in a public building, there is no locking mechanism on the door, you are a few feet from other people and you're engaged in a sex act.

A young person could open the door accidentally, someone could trip and rip the shower curtain, someone hard of hearing could open the door widely to check if the shower is in use, the curtain or door could accidentally swing open sufficiently to place you in plain view of others.

All of the above, combined with the fact that a person is in a public place where others are present would be reasons they would likely be found guilty of indecent exposure.

You have to remember that being charged with indecent exposure does not only mean you were purposefully trying to expose yourself to others. The charge can also be applied to other behaviors where others can discover you engaged in a sexual act or nude in an area where nudity is not permitted.
 
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Please don't tell me this jack ass is ejaculating all over the shower, which someone may come into physical contact with. Why don't you just wait until you get home or at the very least use a bathroom stall? Why do you have to breathe heavily and make it obvious to others that you are jacking off? Yes, people will be freaked out by that and think you are a weirdo for behaving in such a way.
 
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For those of you being werided out by this, you might want to frame this in some actually scientific context.

After a heavy gym workout, hormone levels tend to increase especially the hormones testosterone and the many types of endorphins. With the endorphins functioning to bind with opiate receptors that are found mainly in the brain, it means after a heavy workout, they make you feel great and more often then not, combine to leave a guy feeling very frisky and horny after a workout.

The principal function of endorphins you have to remember, is to inhibit the transmission of pain signals (hence why your body is producing them after a strenuous workout in the first place) but the side effect of that is that of the short term feeling of euphoria (and the subsequent altered mental state as well).

The effect's duration varies from individual to individual, but no doubt londonDood notices the effects after the gym workout. I can't blame him for wanting to indulge on what his body's hormones are influencing him to do and the euphoria is influencing his judgement a bit as well.

If the stalls are private enough, then I would imagine he should be careful and weight out his pros and cons, before he decides to have a wank next time. If he gets arrested or into trouble well, you could always just site the scientific literature lol.... but yeah be careful londonDood ;)

You realize that as your body goes through a hard training session your body's testosterone levels plummet, stop trying to justify being a weirdo in the gym locker room.
 
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