Shower With Your Steady?

If you are in a steady long-term relationship do you shower with your partner?

  • Rarely, or never. (A few percent of the time or less.)

    Votes: 21 38.9%
  • Infrequently. (Up to around 25% of the time.)

    Votes: 12 22.2%
  • Commonly. (25% to 50% of the time)

    Votes: 9 16.7%
  • More often than not (50% to 75% of the time)

    Votes: 6 11.1%
  • Most of the time. (At least 75%.)

    Votes: 6 11.1%

  • Total voters
    54

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A few months ago I made an off-handed remark that was met with surprise, so I'm wondering how the folks here relate to the idea.

If you are in a steady long-term relationship (married, living together, regularly staying-over with each other, etc), do you shower together with your partner? How often? Is it an overtly sexual experience?

My wife and I started showering together not long after we married, over 46 years ago. As life circumstances changed we did it anywhere from about 33% of the time, up to around 90%. In the early years, when we were in our 20's, it was part of the foreplay prelude to sex around 10% of the time, and sex happened in the shower itself around 1% - 2%. (Since we often did our serious lovemaking first thing in the morning, our shower play was much more often part of the afterglow rather than foreplay.)

For the most part, our shower time is more relational than sexual. Yes, the embrace of wet bodies is DEFINITELY a sensual experience, and I invariably grope her curvaceousness with my grubby paws. But being in such close quarters generally gets us talking about things like who will taxi the kids this weekend, how much time we should be spending with aging parents, where we'll get the money for a set of new tires, whether I should apply for a promotion, etc.
 

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I love the idea of that as an intimate experience that doesn't necessarily lead to sex.

I have showered with my husband in the past but it's very rare and tbh we haven't really had showers big enough to enjoy it properly. :joy:

It generally does lead to erect dicks and a bit more but nonetheless like you say it is a very sensual experience. Maybe I need to do it more!
 
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My second wife and I showered together every now and then especially if we were traveling. My first wife wouldn't allow me in the bathroom much less the shower.

I've showered with my FWB on occasion. It's been a long time since I've shared even a bathroom with anyone.
 
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for the usual morning shower my husband and myself shower separately and that's mostly true of an evening shower too, when we have the opportunity for daytime sex then when we're done after lying together for a while we'll usually shower together then. Apart from that any showers we took together would invariably end up in sex anyway pmsl.
 
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love to shower with my bf when i can, both as a sensual experience and prelude to sex, During Covid we've even taken to the covid hair cut on each other. If its just to get ready to go to work then nope prefer a shower on my own, as otherwise leads to boners and complications (fun ones but time consuming if in a rush in the morning) and we do usually shower most evenings together, its just really nice to do.
 

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. . . . but sex in the shower really isn't as sexy as tv makes it seem.
I probably agree with that. We did shower sex for the variety, or the unusualness; or when we were in a playful mood; or simply surrendering to a spontaneous impulse; or because the shower provided a ready-made solution to the problem of her time-of-month.

Shower sex is always somewhat acrobatic. What is possible in the shower depends on your size (and I don't mean penis size, though that is a minor consideration), and your partner's size, and your shower's size. You definitely need a good grippy mat or surface on the floor of the shower, lest you succumb to a broken neck. And the fixtures - faucets, soap dish, etc - can be darn near lethal if you get jammed up against them.

One game we played a few times in the shower was to put one of my plain white tee-shirts on her. Fondling her through the wet tee-shirt was a rather different sensation for both of us. And depending on how she positioned herself under the water, and how and where I applied soap, there are interesting (and artsy) visual images.
 
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Partner and I shower together more often than not. Probably 90% or more o the time. It is a nice way to touch n be touched, bond, be intimate, without sex necessarily being involved. Their libido is real low so while I certainly enjoy the view n touch, it is not really a sexual act, as far as us fucking in the shower or using it as foreplay.
 
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Partner and I shower together more often than not. Probably 90% or more o the time. It is a nice way to touch n be touched, bond, be intimate, without sex necessarily being involved. Their libido is real low so while I certainly enjoy the view n touch, it is not really a sexual act, as far as us fucking in the shower or using it as foreplay.
Yeah, that's pretty much how it is for us, too. From the survey tally, we're definitely in the minority.

P.S. - About 20 yrs ago I may have stayed at the Dreamland Motel for a few days in January. The family had never been to a place that had voluminous quantities of snow, so I used vacation time to correct that deficiency. About 6 weeks ago the wife & I took 4 days to drive from Tahquamenon to St Louis - by way of Houghton, Dollar Bay, Copper Harbor & Ontonagon. Message me if you want to chat.
 

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I used to have a routine with my exgf with shower sex

I would play football on sunday mornings, and she would pick me up right after to drive me to her place. She didn’t want me to wash in the locker rooms because she got off on the smell of my sweat and musk, lol….at hers we would shower together and I would fuck her standing up and bending her over doggy while she grabbed onto a side rail, until I came inside her, then she would wash it out. A shame I could never make post game beers with the lads…but it was worth it!
 

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I used to shower with my ex after she would come home from work and it was rarely sexual bc we'd wait to be in the bedroom.
My wife and I have showered probably 3 or 4 times but it was difficult bc it's a small shower and I'd just be standing behind her getting cold.
 

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First wife and I owned a house that had been built with a walled in outdoor patio off the master bedroom. It was big enough for sunning, relaxing and had an outdoor shower head. We spent a lot of time using that shower.
 
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If I only went by showers, then it would be rarely; but if one was to include baths, then it would be more like infrequently.

On days I come home from work, we always take separate showers because I have so little time for anything else, including sex. But on off days, while we sometimes take separate showers as well if we want to get washed quick, but I usually prefer a bath because I have more time to relax and it is the only place besides the commode that I can catch up on my reading undisturbed :D.

In that case, we do every now and then take a bath together, even though the tub is not all that big. She loves me to wash both her body and hair and it always leads to sex afterwards, especially me going down on her freshy scrubbed pussy.
So not only do we take showers together even less, but I believe the last time we did was in a hotel a few years ago. Of course I am only answering the current frequency, as back in our earlier days they would have been much more common with maybe half the time.