Showering/changing with friends - do you look at it?

[LittleBuzzSaw]

The way I was raised it is considered rude to look at people's private parts in these scenarios. The showers are there for the functional purpose of cleaning up, not to put the person taking the shower on display.

I was raised this way also, but after being in the military as well as traveling to many different places around the world I see how ridiculous that mentality is. Americans (mainly) are the ones who started the whole “privacy” invasion thing. It’s the human body. If you don’t want to be looked at, find a stall. There are lines not to be crossed, but looking isn’t one of them.

 

[JohnDoeXXXm]

I think lpsg is meant to foster goodwill and destigmatize genitalia so that means between friends at a locker room team shower I might give a buddy a good natured jab about his third leg or maybe needing to mow his yard... and then damn right I have to admit to looking. Rightly so. He’s my friend, and he’s naked.

 

[JohnDoeXXXm]

And by extending this logic just a little bit more, since people are naturally selective of where nudity occurs and with whom, I get to count myself in the select group of those who are permitted to see the nudity... so it reflects back on me that I am trusted and accepted within that group. So, Texas, would you be pissed off if a friend looked at you? Would you avoid the social event if you knew that meant that your stuff was seen by friends?

 

[Beanie]

I’m sorry but guys look. If they are gay, straight, trans, bi, or anywhere in between they are looking. And why not? What ever you have, flaunt it!

 

[Buddie]

I have been naked with most of my male friends at some point or another. Some of them frequently. In general, I act no differently than when we're clothed. I don't go out of my way to stare at or look away from their crotch when we're clothed and the same goes for when we're naked. Part of being naked with another guys is seeing each others' dicks. I don't understand what I would be protecting myself from by awkwardly averting my eyes. I assume it has to do with size? Part of being comfortable with someone is not having to worry about these things. I'm a bit shorter than average, so I'm often smaller than my friends. It makes no difference to when a friend has observed that he's bigger than me. To me, shared male nudity is a bonding, masculine experience and the fact that I've seen their dicks and they have seen mine brings us closer.

Being with your friends in the buff is a male bonding, there is no shame and your open an comfortable being around each other, especially at a spa that is fir being unclothed.

 

[Uniballer]

I know the size of my friends from hot tub parties, one must be nude to enter the water. We sit on the edge to cool off the get back in. These parties are always co-ed. So I know dick size and pussy shape on all the girls.

I got in trouble in the gym shower once. Some roidrage dude got pissed at me for looking at his junk. Came over yelling at me and my workout partner.
I may have been looking his way but I did not see him. I shower without my glasses, with him being more than 5 feet away I did not see shit.
He calmed down once it was explained I am about blind without glasses and he came in range of seeing and it was not worth looking at to start with. Back in the 90’s when roids where all the rage.

Yes I know the size of most of my friends dicks as they know mine. I also knew their gf’s as they knew mine.

 

[JohnDoeXXXm]

Lol exactly this. Its like calm the F down, right?

 

[622675]

It makes me cringe that so many grown men voted that they look at other people's dicks and I hope that's inflated by the nature of this message board cuz overall it seems like shit manners to me.

Accidentally catching a glimpse is one thing, intentionally looking is something else.

I am reminded of that classic statement in the children’s book Peter Rabbit when Peter’s mother tells Peter, “if you can’t say anything positive, then don’t say anything at all”.

You are welcome to think as you do, and I can certainly recognize the nature of your upbringing. But bottom line is your comments have both a condescending and pejorative tone.

Other than for the opportunity to presume some moral high ground (as you think you do in a communal shower) why have you bothered to comment here?

 

[lesterbegood]

A straight friend would never use communal showers and urinals so I never got to see his equipment until his girlfriend told me he would not stop sending nude selfies so I told her next time he sends you one send it to me I will forward to him. I had the pleasure of sending a photo to him of his very hairy uncut stump. He does not send selfies anymore.

 

[1148144]

I caught a guy looking while at a rest stop bathroom...didnt bother me at all. .

 

[Kieckhe3]

Absolutely

 

[Buddie]

Being with your friends in the buff is a male bonding, there is no shame and your open an comfortable being around each other, especially at a spa that is fir being unclothed.

Totally agree

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I've observed that there are seven types of crotch watchers:

1) The look-at-any-place-but-the-crotch guys. They always seem extremely interested in the grouting on the shower-room wall directly in front of them or, when facing me, my nostrils. Their whole being, their every thought is concentrated on one thing only: "Don't look! Don't look! Don't look!" If they ever saw another man's cock, they'd die of mortification. They'd be outed! They're not to be confused with #2. . .

2) They're also look-at-any-place-but-the-crotch guys, but these are just oblivious. They've never thought about cocks or balls or vaginas or the birds and the bees. For them, the penis is truly only for urination. They supposedly fill up our nudist camps and resorts where no one ever ever ever looks at a naked body with anything but scientific detachment.

3) The sneak-a-quick-peek-and-hope-no-one-sees-you type. They time their genital surveillance when they think you're looking elsewhere. They'd make great submarine captains. "Up periscope!" for a quick scan of the sea above, then "Down periscope!"

4) The down-and-to-the-siders. They think you don't know they're scoping out your junk because their faces are directed toward you. They're probably developmentally retarded; babies still in the cradle learn to follow where someone's eyes are directed.

5) The casual lookers, like myself. The it's-there-so-why-not-take-a-look? type. We've accepted that when faced with a nude male, the cock is much more interesting than the floor, wall or ceiling (unlike #1 who think these are endlessly fascinating.)

6) The gawkers. The it's-there-so-I'll-stare-as-long-as-I-want-to type. These have a somewhat bulldog tenacity. A pink giraffe could enter the showers and go unnoticed by these fellows. They're on a mission.

6) Very similar to #6. The casual, natural gawkers. The keep-their-eyes-trained-down-below-while-naturally-carrying-on-a-conversation-with-you type. They're undoubtedly oblivious to their gaping. In their minds, they're carrying on naturally. They may occasionally look back up for a few seconds as the conversation requires, but their eyes quickly drop back down for crotch surveillance. I seem to get a bunch of #6 guys.

I'd like to comment on #2.

As a nudist, the general guidelines at social nudity scenes is to not make others uncomfortable, ever. That means absolutely no touching beyond a handshake (hugs are something to work out once you actually know each other), no comments about physical attributes (and for me that means don't talk about others to me behind their back), and no staring. That definitely does not mean "scientific detachment". People are beautiful. I have friends well into their 70's who are sexy mofo's, as well as my friends in their 20's and 30's. I look, and I know they look. We all look. No different than in "textile" social settings. Just don't be a creepy asshole. We have that, and those people are told, not asked, to leave.

 

[love2compare]

View attachment 1028794 Absolutely

mmmh damn! i wanna see the rest hehe....

 

[Lynx]

I've had different experiences: Have seen some gay/straight friends who were impressive/less impressive but it did not effect my emotions and I've peeked a good friends's cock and felt guilty about it afterwards. Trying "not" to see is like trying to avoid seeing someone's elbow, its awkward and usually ineffective.

 

[Lynx]

Yeah! Keeping the eye contact is key haha...

of course i try to usually catch a look when they are not looking. Just with that one very competitive friend i checked him out with my eyes almost closed so i could only see a blur shape and damn, it was a fat hanging shape mmmh, that lucky guy!

For being named love2compare you sure don't seem to want to

 

[919507]

All guys check each other’s bulge out automatically without realising a lot of the time. Straight or gay.

 

[long_uncut]

I was raised this way also, but after being in the military as well as traveling to many different places around the world I see how ridiculous that mentality is. Americans (mainly) are the ones who started the whole “privacy” invasion thing. It’s the human body. If you don’t want to be looked at, find a stall. There are lines not to be crossed, but looking isn’t one of them.

I was raised this way too but the military definitely changed all of that in a hurry.

 

[love2compare]

For being named love2compare you sure don't seem to want to

haha, admittedly yeah it's a big tease not to look; usually i do look, not stare of course.
normally you're in "some engaged conversation" anyways so it's very casual that you catch a good glimpse of it ;-)

 

[chrisjason]

I don't usually look unless invited. When I've showered or changed with good friends, always something comes along that invites a look. Friends have said:
"Do you think I need a trim?"
"Damn, I'm still chubbed up over that waitress."
"Whoops, curving right today."
"Does it look like I'm dripping pre?" (With some soap)
"Balls are itching today."

Sometimes, friends comment on mine, which I assume is permission to look at theirs.
"Nice dangle."
"You happy to see me?"
"How'd you pack that in your trunks?"
"Bet those balls bounced like crazy on the treadmill."

In short, with friends, it's all good.