Showing to my Sisters-in-Law

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  1. damarcher

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    So I am a pretty modest guy. My wife and I have been married for 5 years and I know she doesn't really talk about my size to her sisters or friends (She has told me as much). I also don't really show off too much, I keep myself pretty well tucked (I'm about 7.5 - 8 soft, shower not a grower).

    Lately I've had this urge to show off to her sister's. I can't wear tight jeans or anything with my wife around because she hates that and certainly doesn't like me doing that in public or around her family. If I am ever hanging out with her fam when she's not around, I try to let myself hang down my pant leg to make an effort to show (I also buckle my pants a little tighter for emphasis). I can see in the mirror that it is obvious.

    I have been doing this whenever I get the chance for about the last 6 months, but I haven't noticed a single reaction from her sisters. I think I have noticed them glance down there, but nothing that would make me believe they know I am hung.

    I can't come right out and ask them and certainly can't have that kind of conversation with my wife or in front of her. I just think it would be cool if they knew I was well endowed, but I really have no way of knowing?

    I know this is creepy, but can't help it. It's just a fantasy. I guess I can't expect any answer other than "that's the way it is", but was wondering if anyone had any advice besides "get naked infront of your sister in laws". =P

    Thanks guys (and gals),

    damarcher
     
  2. ConanTheBarber

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    I know it's past Labor Day, but maybe you should just freeball in white linen pantz.
    The problem is, you're such a modest guy.
    (I have a feeling this thread will be a doozy.)
     
  3. gwmasiahk

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    Your wife won't like it, neither will her family!!
    Keep it in your pants!!
     
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    Where is this urge coming from?
    'I can't help it' is a real cop-out on your part; of course you can help it. You are choosing not to because there is something about your in-laws that is making you feel rebellious, but whatever it is, continuing to justify your behavior as 'uncontrollable' is the road to jail and family discord.

    Think more clearly about why you are doing this.
     
  5. Intrigue

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    seek help my friend, before you ruin your marriage and the family. I understand how you cam have an urge, but this is family. Keep it locked up. Or risk alienating your wife and the family. I usually dont come out with strong advice one way or the other but this is a serious risk that you are taking. Keep it a fantasy and maybe start some open dialogue with someone, a therapist eventually your wife. But for the love of family dont go swanging your meat around just to get a thrill. That shows such a lack of care and concern for them and their well being. Even if the sisters are curious they know what I know... Don't shit where you eat. Just my dos centavos.
     
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    Strong advice and sober words. Thank you all.
     
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    You could always ask them if they want to see your penis.
     
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    ^ Yah? And what then? What happens of they freak out, like most would, and tell his wife aka their sister? Its called a shitstorm.
     
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    they probably have noticed and don't care

    and trust me, if they did notice and they knew you were making a concerted effort to make them notice it would disgust them and they would probably tell your wife

    unfortunately real life isn't like a porno or sex story...
     
  11. damarcher

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    This seems like a pretty reasonable response. They probably have noticed.

    Just to clarify, I'm not talking about "whipping it out" and I'm NOT talking about wearing spandex infront of them or anything extreme like that. I'm just talking about stuff like wearing boxers with dress pants or making the bulge in my pants noticeable. I mean, it is just a bulge right?

    I've been lurking in here for a couple of years and people talk about showing all the time.
     
  12. damarcher

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    Thank you for your response. I'm not sure I ever said "I can't help it", but appreciate your response. I think the reason I am posting this on here is to help me think more clearly. I certainly am not trying to justify what I am doing, but also don't think what I am doing is all that extreme.
     
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    You did:


    Now might be a good time to point out that you're right, we can't help the fantasies we have. But we CAN help our behaviour. You have no right to inflict your fantasies on non-consenting individuals.
     
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    Whoops! Retract post #12. =P Sorry. Thank you subgirrl.

    I also think you are right in saying, "You have no right to inflict your fantasies on non-consenting individuals."

    As I had said in the beginning, "I keep myself pretty well tucked". And I have for almost my entire life.

    What if I softened my approach a little bit and just allowed my bulge to show a little. That can't be wrong can it? That is just normal for most guys with an endowment like mine to show a little isn't?
     
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    If it's her sisters, don't you think they talk? She'll (wife) will find out what you're doing.
     
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    Dude, you will be branded if you don't have the will to separate fantasy from reality. This will not bode well for future relationships. It's very difficult for me to get inside the head of an exhibitionist, but I know there is something driving them to do what they do. I'm quite the opposite and have an almost fanatical desire to keep hidden.

    But that's given me a reputation for being a prude among casual friends, and nothing could be further from the truth. I just don't feel like being labeled a creep, which I figured would be easy to do.

    Get help, friend.
     
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    I think he meant that he can't help that it's creepy and he's doing it anyway... not that he can't help his fantasy or his actions... You have to think like a guy here
     
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    Why is this one hard for guys?? :confused:

    A very wise 2 cents if you ask me.

    I have 2 sisters. One's husband is attractive in his own quirky way, the other not so much now, but when he was younger in his 20's VERY good looking. My sister knew I thought he was attractive, and she was proud of that. Attractive? Yes... Sexual? Nope! But in all the years these guys have been around me (and if any of you know me....well) I have NEVER once checked out their packages.

    Why? Because they BELONG TO MY SISTERS! Because I have zero desire to know what they are packing. Because the thought of checking them out is a bit repulsive to me... (and you guys who know me here...know that I like to look at packages.)

    And yes, sisters talk. First thing they are gonna say to your wife when they get her alone is this: "Why does your husband dress differently when you are not around?"

    Think~ Your rebellion is based on a fantasy of incest. Not a good place for you, or anyone, to be. Agree with Intrigue, you may need a little help dealing with this one.

    Just a girl's perspective.... one with sisters... :biggrin1:
     
  19. D_Rosalind Mussell

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    I have one brother-in-law that I caught checking out my friends in high school.

    He was in his mid 20's, my friends and I were between 16 and 18. We were moving my apartment across our complex to another in the middle of summer so we had bathing suits on. It would have been one thing if he looked only once but he was checking them out all day long during the move.

    I tried talking to my sister privately but she saw no harm, as it was "just looking". Unfortunately, there was harm because:

    1) it upset my friends, family and myself, as his constant leering made everyone feel all manner of discomfort. This created some strife in the family because my sister defended her husband's actions, which were inappropriate at best, and

    2) he was labeled the creepy pervert brother-in-law for at least 10 years afterwards and it affected our social events. His behavior was an embarrassment to me and I purposely didn't put him and my friends in the same room after that. And the thing is that my friends are considered family in my house so it was really upsetting to alter how we socialized because of him. Could I have just not invited him? Sure, but that would have punished my sister's kids and I didn't think that was fair to them.

    Unfortunately, I think they are already talking, OP. Do yourself a favor and cut the bullshit. Nothing good can come of this and alienation between sisters is not something you want to deal with. Trust me on this.
     
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