I can remember when we found this forum to be a place to discuss issues about having a larger than average size and we learned from one another or shared common ground and yes, "supported" one another. I don't know that we even thought that much about having to "prove ourselves" regarding our statistics. We answered our questions. We spoke of being big; our replies stated we were big. We mentioned obvious concerns resulting from being big. We didn't seem to question each other if we WERE big. We believed we were big! This "trend" of doubting and needing to prove ourselves began only about a year or so ago around here. I can well hearken to just about the day, too! What was it? That guy with the 24 inch erection, I think.
Our community membership and our focus seems to have changed. (And, I'm still wrestling over how I feel about some of those changes.) But then, I'm not the only one here!
I'm currently still able to maintain the personal discipline (without blowing up) to be able to skip over and tune-out what I don't care to become involved in. Thankfully, we still have some members (and some newly-enlisted members, too every now and then) who will come along with a genuine topic or a question which I feel absolutely compelled to address. Those occasions to respond and help another is why I feel so good being around here. I don't have to see pix and find out "who has what" necessarily (to feel like I've spent some good quality time at the computer.) But again, that's just me and not other members who are (seemingly) flocking here these days for that very expressed purpose. I just find it a bit disconcerting. It conflicts (somehow?) with the origins of the forum.
I'm not as urked by those not living up to their purported sizes afterall (once the pix are downloaded) as much as the fact our community here is becoming so focused now on "showing and revealing". If we're not careful, we ARE going to become just another website leaning towards porn. I always considered the LPSG as so much better than that! and never felt uncomfortable being here. I'm sensing that's changing though, at least for me. And, it worries me of late. A lot, in fact.
There will always be those who doubt our sizes. Many of our members choose, for their own reasons, NOT to electronically publish their pictoral "proofs of size". I'm okay with that because I'm one of them. And, I don't mean to necessarily speak ill of those who do. They have the right to do so and I respect that.
Forgive me for my usual prolonged rambling. 'Guess I just long for the days when our forum here had more info and less slant toward showing off our wares. And feeling as though we needed to! ....for some strange reason...whatever it is.
The LPSG still accomplishes much good and we needn't allow it to be ruined by bickering and fighting over who actually measures up and who doesn't. One needn't have a big penis personally to have need to be here and welcomed here. Many people have issues resulting from having a big penis within their life's relationships. THEY need to be here for the help and the advice that we still manage to eek out-- when we're not obsessed over the "other" tangents resulting from our subject matter.
I admit that while it can be disheartening to discover dishonesty and being misled that what was promised (in size) turns out to be a phony, for me-- it's not necessarily the end of the world as such. It doesn't even make me mad.
I can somehow almost immediately see behind the fact that it occurred and I somehow start allowing for some genuine insecurity showing through--much more a serious problem for the man in question than his smaller size being revealed in cyberspace. Having to lie about his penis size is only the tip of the iceberg. He has problems....real issues to confront....deep-down issues.
