Perhaps I shouldn't have confused my original question with the link.
A lot of people seem to assume that if you don't condemn something that you support it.
I don't things are that simple. Over half of people (according to the best estimates of people who study these things and all the data available over the last ten years) admit to infidelity. If you add lying, stealing, cheating, you'll find, in the famous words, that "none of us are innocent".
It would be nice if humans were different, but we're not, and I completely trust your good intentions of taking ownership of all your actions. The problem is that we find excuses, some bad and some as good as a starving person stealing food.
The problem I have, as has been shown here, is that we want sanctions to hurt people who fail our expectations, justified or otherwise. We, well some of you, want to shame them in public, hurt them emotionally, and damage them financially and you want this with "extreme prejudice". This may be human nature, and it may be just as human as to lie cheat etc, bot to me it creates the same so called moral majority that criminalised people for their sexuality only a couple of generations ago.
I don't support contracts as a stick to beat people with, just because they fall out of love with you, or fall in love with someone else, let alone develop their sexuality away from what it was when the contract was signed, or even what they hoped it would be. Yes, agreements end or fail all the time, and yes it is painful, but that doesn't give you the right of vengeance.
I can live with the mantra of taking ownership of your own actions, I can't live with the desire to take ownership of other people's sexuality and sexual needs.
To whom here, specifically, are you referring?