Signs: Single

[ConstantComment]

If they are unable to make plans in advance. A married guy tried to hit on me. He wanted to see me that day.

I'm not sure about phone numbers these days. Many people don't have lanlines and to avoid scrutiny at work, I can understand why they don't want to give out their work number. I just went on 2 dates last week with a guy. This thread has me thinking about him. I have an e-mail address and his cellphone number. Both times, we made plans 2 days in advance. So far so good. He paid for dinner with a card.

 

[NotSoDumb_Blonde]

Mmm, how to tell if a guy is single? Well, if it's online, he isn't available during a lot of 'down' time. Like early evening, or weekends. If it's face to face, it would be the same sort of thing. It takes time I think. If you're asking about just looking at a guy? First meet and greet? Geeesh, I have no idea. Hiding his ring hand??? LOL! Or being too....desperate, like needing to hook up right here, right now?

Why are you asking?

 

[TheScotsman]

I think women know I'm single because, frankly, God help any woman who makes the mistake of wanting to date me. That's why beer-goggles really work in my favour.

 

[voidout]

God help any woman who makes the mistake of wanting to date me.

Dumb.

 

[TheScotsman]

Dumb.

Hey, it's just a friendly warning!

 

[voidout]

Hey, it's just a friendly warning!

a false one!

 

[whatireallywant]

I look for the wedding band.

I tend to like (but they never ask me out!) guys who are well-dressed, so that doesn't work for me - plus I know a lot of married guys who dress like slobs (I see a lot of "rear cleavage" among the customers where I work - yikes!), and some single guys who dress well. Metrosexuals are great in MY book! :smile:

I also like geeks/nerds if they're attractive. I've known quite a few attractive geeks, so hey! And they ARE the ones who tend to go out with me. (Probably because I'm a geek myself! :biggrin1

Although, I really haven't dated much myself (yep, geek here!) - I'm the woman with the years-long dry spells... (which is terribly frustrating, because it's NOT by choice!)

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Not wanting you to have his landline number.

Not being able to commit to a date/plan on the spot.

Being fairly well dressed (unlike some other people I find married men to be better dressed on the whole, their wives buy their clothes).

Not wanting you to bite him/scratch his back.

Arranging to meet at odd hours (it's difficult for him to get out during the week).

His car has fittings for a child seat (an obvious one).

Always wanting to go back to your place and wanting to leave before morning.

Always putting the toilet seat up, replacing toilet roll, folding towels neatly - he's been pre-trained.

If you mention IgglePiggle he knows who it is.

Doesn't want you to meet his mates/family.

I find wanting to pay cash has no bearing, some guys just like having cash in their pocket.

If you give him a gift he wants to leave it at your place.

Having said that I've been fairly lucky in avoiding married men, but I have known women who'll ignore their feeling that the guy is married.

 

[Ethyl]

Not wanting you to have his landline number.

Or, better yet, the screen always reads "private number" when he calls and he complains when you don't answer.

Not being able to commit to a date/plan on the spot.

Yes. Usually in the form of "i'll check my schedule and get back to you" or something equally vague.

Arranging to meet at odd hours (it's difficult for him to get out during the week).

Or he wants to text/IM you only from work - away from home.

Doesn't want you to meet his mates/family.

Huge giveaway.

Having said that I've been fairly lucky in avoiding married men, but I have known women who'll ignore their feeling that the guy is married.

Or they'll embrace it and make excuses. In my case the guy had a girlfriend and he tried to string me along for a while when I decided to cut him loose. I didn't need the headache.

 

[littlemissmuffet]

If you don't get invited to his home or to meet his friends there is an extremely high chance that he is not single.

If you are invited to spend the weekend at his place and his friends come round for a BBQ then I'd safely assume he is single

 

[L_Lynn]

Here's the thing: you meet a guy and if he doesn't bring it up himself, you ask, "Are you single? Married? Dating? Divorced?" and other than a quick glance for a ring mark, you either take his word for it or don't.

I think the signs that we are listing here are things you begin to notice after you start dating him. If he pays for everything in cash and is reluctant to use his card to even hold a room at a hotel, it makes you go, "Hmmm..." because a married man doesn't want a hotel or dinner showing up on his bank statement. On it's own, it could be nothing. But when it happens along with several other signs, the "Hmmmmmm..." gets a lot bigger.

And none of it is fail-safe. As I said, I was fooled once by everything but that odd feeling that something was off. He paid with a card. No ring sign. Made plans over a week in advance. Talked about his life, even his houseplants. Dressed well. Did not pick up or fold towels. Stayed the night. Etc and so forth. The odd feeling only came to me when I asked a question and there was a hesitation before he answered. One little moment that gave me pause. At least he came clean before too much damage done.