Single but restlessly waiting for a date

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Okay.

Youthful young and supple gay male here who has not been in a relationship even though he wants to be in one.

Any advice for little old me?
Depends on what you’re looking for.

How old are we talking, exactly? (I assume you’re legal?) Do you live in an area where there’s a big gay community? (I see you listed your location as ON: are you in/around Toronto or someplace further field?)
 

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Dating is a numbers game. If you meet enough people, you will find someone compatible. You just need to keep rolling the dice until you get what you want.

I'd recommend making more gay friends. This may be via interest groups, gay charities, gay church groups, etc.

Definitely use dating apps like Grindr etc but be aware of the type of people it attracts. It can be like finding a diamond in a sewer, so don't be disheartened by all the shit floating around you.

If you are meeting lots of guys over a long period but still not successful, usually the problem is you. Maybe you are dismissing guys before giving them a chance to grow on you. Or even worse, you are a typical guy who is looking for perfect. Or you want love at first sight or a 9/10 when you are a 5/10.

It boils down to creating space in your life for someone to come along and fill and also being flexible enough to tolerate people's imperfections.
 

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Okay.

Youthful young and supple gay male here who has not been in a relationship even though he wants to be in one.

Any advice for little old me?
Don't be looking for a relationship... Look to meet people and make friends and acquaintances. A relationship will happen when you least expect it. If you are looking for one, it's like the smell of desperation... and the people who are good relationship material can sense it a mile away.

Just make sure you are in "good working order" in terms of your ability to be in a relationship... good mental health state, good outlook on your future, some direction to your life, and healthy sense of self. Then put yourself out there and meet people.