hey guys, i am 28 years old, i have a really good job, i'm a nice person, i have a kind personality and fun to be around, in general a good looking person, slim, take care of myself, dress nicely always smell nice. i have been single for about 4 years now, not by choice but because of the fact that i can not find a guy i like to date with.
i am a person who loves being in a relationship but i have been so unfortunate in my love life that i never had the chance to have a real relationship ever. my first ''boyfriend'' when i was 21 was a six months ''relationship'' when he dumped me for someone else and broke my heart. i started meeting guys on grindr after that but most of them were one night stands and after a couple of years i met my other ''boyfriend'' on facebook. he flirted me but lived really far from me so it was kinda hard to keep a relationship with him. i did travel to go meet him and we had a great time, i still believe he was my other half, i was never bored with him, i fell very deep in love with him, we matched very very well but unfortunately he then left me for someone else. there i am again with a broken heart, frustrated. i still think about him till today but we don't talk anymore.
it's been 4 years since our relationship ended, i don't like one night stands anymore, i really need to find someone to have an actual relationship again, just sex means nothing to me, my problem is that i can not find anyone. i live in a small town where it's really hard to meet other gay men, i try planetromeo, grindr, instagram or tinder and no results yet. when i like a guy he won't like me back. or he likes me but he's not my type. or he's confused etc. i feel like i am doing something wrong. sometimes i might be chatting with someone and the next day he won't text me or won't reply. sometimes guys say that they're looking for a relationship but i finally realise they just want sex.
i met another guy on instagram, he looked really nice, we talked and we were all sexual etc. we were planning to meet, suddenly he also disappeared. we were texting each other daily and then suddenly i did not hear from him for 3 weeks ''he was really busy with work'' he said, but i could see he was posting photos on instagram... i did not make it a big deal but i asked him to chat with me on Skype a few days later. he agreed to skype with me at night, i was waiting for his Skype call at night when i got a text message from him ''i had to go out with friends...'' never answered back to him again.
i was flirting with another guy on facebook who also lived far away, we used to talk daily i did buy Valentine's day gifts to send to him before i met him in person, he was very happy. i did book tickets to go meet him ,he suddenly wasn't interested anymore, stopped answering stopped caring about me. i did try to contact some guys i dated or had one night stands in the past, they were not interested or pretended they did not remember who i am lol (how can you forget someone who had your dick in your mouth?)
i met this other guy on badoo he was all flirty and happy talking to me. until we met, he just wanted a blowjob and then he said he was str8 and it should never happen again. we shouldn't meet again. he texts me every month for the last 2 years asking to meet me again for a blowjob though. i don't want that.
i have hundreds of similar stories to share, i don't want to make this post very long but i think you get my point.
i feel exhausted trying to find someone to date, with a potential of a relationship and i feel like i have a problem communicating and flirting with a guy. i am really scared i am going to be forever alone no matter how hard i am trying and i have no idea why., i find it surprising, rude and weird someone talking to you and suddenly disappearing not caring. does it happen to you guys or is it just me? how can someone be all flirty and interested and suddenly pretend you don't exist? is it just how things are in our days??? i remember 5-6 years ago gay men where kinda nicer on dating apps....
i feel really sad and lonely and desperate... sorry for the long post
i am a person who loves being in a relationship but i have been so unfortunate in my love life that i never had the chance to have a real relationship ever. my first ''boyfriend'' when i was 21 was a six months ''relationship'' when he dumped me for someone else and broke my heart. i started meeting guys on grindr after that but most of them were one night stands and after a couple of years i met my other ''boyfriend'' on facebook. he flirted me but lived really far from me so it was kinda hard to keep a relationship with him. i did travel to go meet him and we had a great time, i still believe he was my other half, i was never bored with him, i fell very deep in love with him, we matched very very well but unfortunately he then left me for someone else. there i am again with a broken heart, frustrated. i still think about him till today but we don't talk anymore.
it's been 4 years since our relationship ended, i don't like one night stands anymore, i really need to find someone to have an actual relationship again, just sex means nothing to me, my problem is that i can not find anyone. i live in a small town where it's really hard to meet other gay men, i try planetromeo, grindr, instagram or tinder and no results yet. when i like a guy he won't like me back. or he likes me but he's not my type. or he's confused etc. i feel like i am doing something wrong. sometimes i might be chatting with someone and the next day he won't text me or won't reply. sometimes guys say that they're looking for a relationship but i finally realise they just want sex.
i met another guy on instagram, he looked really nice, we talked and we were all sexual etc. we were planning to meet, suddenly he also disappeared. we were texting each other daily and then suddenly i did not hear from him for 3 weeks ''he was really busy with work'' he said, but i could see he was posting photos on instagram... i did not make it a big deal but i asked him to chat with me on Skype a few days later. he agreed to skype with me at night, i was waiting for his Skype call at night when i got a text message from him ''i had to go out with friends...'' never answered back to him again.
i was flirting with another guy on facebook who also lived far away, we used to talk daily i did buy Valentine's day gifts to send to him before i met him in person, he was very happy. i did book tickets to go meet him ,he suddenly wasn't interested anymore, stopped answering stopped caring about me. i did try to contact some guys i dated or had one night stands in the past, they were not interested or pretended they did not remember who i am lol (how can you forget someone who had your dick in your mouth?)
i met this other guy on badoo he was all flirty and happy talking to me. until we met, he just wanted a blowjob and then he said he was str8 and it should never happen again. we shouldn't meet again. he texts me every month for the last 2 years asking to meet me again for a blowjob though. i don't want that.
i have hundreds of similar stories to share, i don't want to make this post very long but i think you get my point.
i feel exhausted trying to find someone to date, with a potential of a relationship and i feel like i have a problem communicating and flirting with a guy. i am really scared i am going to be forever alone no matter how hard i am trying and i have no idea why., i find it surprising, rude and weird someone talking to you and suddenly disappearing not caring. does it happen to you guys or is it just me? how can someone be all flirty and interested and suddenly pretend you don't exist? is it just how things are in our days??? i remember 5-6 years ago gay men where kinda nicer on dating apps....
i feel really sad and lonely and desperate... sorry for the long post