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I'm not trying to be funny here man! That single mama is busy, sometimes she working two jobs and she going to get some sex wherever she can and whenever she have the time. I'm not calling them freaks for that, right! When I say she wild, is because she just loves sex and every minute with her like BANG, even when she only has fifteen minutes alone! Wow! This exciting to me! She's alive like all women are alive and needing to be loved and held by a man. I'm telling you the truth, that single mama is fucking every time her kids back turned and out of the house.
You're a warped individual. I sincerely feel sorry for those kids that you and your woman friends send "to the basement" while you get it on. The kind of woman you're talking about is not the same kind as I am.
 

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I would have no problems at all dating a single mom. In fact, I dated one for about a year who had three kids (from ages 8 - 14). It was probably the best sex I've ever had. However, we both knew it wasn't going anywhere. She was about thirteen years older than me for one, and I wasn't looking to get married.
 

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Then there is the question: Would you women date a single Father? Sounds a little silly, doesn't it...?

Is it because 9 times out of 10 children live with their mother? I question sometimes if that is most advantageous for the children, but every family is different. Men for some reason (generally, speaking about the whole male population - there are exceptions) are more willing to live apart from their offspring, and thus are painted with the 'single parent' brush less-so than women.

Personally, as a single mother I would have KILLED to find that guy that stops the stroller in the middle of the store aisle to smile and coo while he's wiping spit-up off of his baby's face. If he were THAT kind of father - I would answer the question with an emphatic YES.

On the other hand (I know I'll get flamed for this), I don't think that I would date a "weekend" dad. My humble opinion, for what it's worth, is that a man that has his children much less than half of the time isn't much of a parent at all. Here's your grain of salt: Some men get screwed and are allowed only weekends to spend with their children, or the mother moves away, or whatever. Some men FIGHT for 50/50+ parenting time. Fine. Many men DON'T. This is the type of single father I would not date. Any man to whom his children are not top priority (and yes, that means above the chick - me - they're trying to date) is not worth much to me. And just for the record... if my daughter lived with her dad and he moved to Antarctica, you'd better bet the next flight out would have me on it. One way.

Full-time, Involved Single Father: Yes.
Part-time, Rather-Be-Fucking-Me "Dad": Nope.
 

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Man, I could never answer this.

Hockeytiger already posted the process that I'd go through, though.

First of all, if I had a choice between a single mother and not, and everything else was equal, which it never is, I would choose the non-mother. Kids add stress and complications. In choosing a partner, you need, to a certain degree, to be selfish. At my age, 33, that is not a no-go, but it would give me pause. I would want to know the circumstances of why she is a single mother. If she is a widow, then there is little additional problem at all. If the guy just up and walked out, then I have to question her judgment (that and be tempted to beat the crap out of him). If the child was an accident, then I again have to question her judgment, but less so. That only requires a momentary lapse in judgment. But still a lapse over a VERY serious issue. If it was intentional and there is no partner, apart from the biological requirement, then it becomes much more circumstantial.

I'll add a couple things, either of which may be unfounded concerns or not...

I'm normally concerned that a woman would want to marry me only because of my job (government = great health care benefits), and I'm even more concerned about it when it comes to single mothers. There are times when I'm suspicious, skeptical and mistrusting, and this is one of those times. It really sucks, too. There's a pretty nice checkout employee (single mom) at the grocery store on my block, and she's said that she wants to find a man so that she can stop working.

Oof. I'm not ready for that.

Another thing is that kids just piss me off too much of the time. They can be unpredictable, unreasonable, schizophrenic, and just plain psychotic. The good times with children are fantastic, but the bad times make me glad that I don't have to live with them.

Altogether, though, the question of "would I date/marry a single mom" is still one that I simply can't answer when I don't know that particular single mom.
 

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You're a warped individual. I sincerely feel sorry for those kids that you and your woman friends send "to the basement" while you get it on. The kind of woman you're talking about is not the same kind as I am.

She is only ONE woman. She has a good job, but she has a small place and her kids keep their toys in the basement of her house. She not rich, so when she is not working or with her children, sex is one of the only thing we free to enjoy. You saying that because she is not a rich woman living in a mansion that I cannot make her happy? You dont even know her and you calling her a bad mother because she like being with a man? To feel passion? To be fucked? If a man insult her in the street like you doing, I'll kick his fucking ass.
 

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She is only ONE woman. She has a good job, but she has a small place and her kids keep their toys in the basement of her house. She not rich, so when she is not working or with her children, sex is one of the only thing we free to enjoy. You saying that because she is not a rich woman living in a mansion that I cannot make her happy? You dont even know her and you calling her a bad mother because she like being with a man? To feel passion? To be fucked? If a man insult her in the street like you doing, I'll kick his fucking ass.


I don't think I heard anyone insult her here... except for you.
 

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All I'm doing is giving my opinion here, okay. I hear guys telling each other don't date her "she got kids". She tired all the time! She going to make you a babysitter! She boring. And they wrong! Single moms are very sexy and love to be fucked. What is wrong with this?
 

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She is only ONE woman. She has a good job, but she has a small place and her kids keep their toys in the basement of her house. She not rich, so when she is not working or with her children, sex is one of the only thing we free to enjoy. You saying that because she is not a rich woman living in a mansion that I cannot make her happy? You dont even know her and you calling her a bad mother because she like being with a man? To feel passion? To be fucked? If a man insult her in the street like you doing, I'll kick his fucking ass.

LOL! Idle threats over the internet. I love it!:rolleyes:


As for you meaning only one lady, I'm sorry, but you made it sound as if you were speaking in general terms about "American hot mamas" and women you had been with. I understand there may be a language issue, but still.

But, please, do go on. You're revealing yourself to not only be warped, but also unstable.
 

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I'm not trying to threaten you, okay? She is a good mother and I'm not going to hear some asshole call her a freak because she enjoys to be with a man like every normal woman, and I will kick their ass. This some stupid shit if a woman cannot enjoy her body because she is a mother? Her feelings, her passion suppose to stop when she has kids? It is only my opinion but that isn't right.
 

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its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too :)
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!
 

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DJG,

May I ask why you asked this question in the first place? I obviously am not a man but I have definite thoughts about it...

I had a conversation with a friend of mine that is a single mom, and she doesn't have any trouble 'getting laid' but is having a very hard time finding someone to really have a relationship with, she is 28, in decient shape, and a nice person, but she has to put her kid first. *as she should.
and she is having issues.

She is very close to me, and I care for her.. She doesn't know about this site, and I thought I would bring it up to the group to get thier views on single moms.. my mom was a single mom, and I think she did a hell of a job, even though I can be a bit of a pain in the ass:)
 

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did you know that in the state of california, even if the kids are NOT yours and you marry a single mother, and get divorced, you may be liable to pay child support?
nice eh?
shitty law...but my ex chooses to pay child support for his step daughter. his view being that h changed diapers, cleaned puke & taught her to ride a bike so she's his, regardless of genetics. ive never had a man seem to be put off by the momdom...but then i am impossible to resist :tongue:
 

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Background: Born to a single mom. From age 2 to 10 mom had a live in boyfriend. At age 10 they married and now have two children together, my half-brothers. I have referred to my stepfather as "Dad" since the day my parents got married and refer to my half-brothers as "brothers".

My position in life: Desk job, BA from a Top University, Preparing to go to Grad/Professional school

Would I date a single mom: I am dealing with this issue right know. There is a woman at work that is HOT, my age, and has a 10 year old son. She has her BA and has been accepted to Grad school every year since she graduated from college but was never been ready to commit to a program . . . and she wants me. I want her too but I do have a hang-up about her being a single mom because I know all the turmoil that comes from being in that situation. Although, her son does seem like a great kid.

. . . I'll keep you posted.
 

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Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.
 

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Well i am a single mother and i find this thread interesting, it amazes me how many deep rooted stereotypes still exist on this subject, i have to say ive found very few men who said children are a problem but i have found that while many say they dont mind they dont really take on board what it means to be involved in the life of a mum.

1) Most IMPORTANTLY - What type of parent is she? If she is an abuser or is an incompetant parent etc, there is no way I can stand by and watch an innocent life pay the price - the relationship would never last, so why start it in the first place?
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Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2).

why is it u assume a single mother would be a bad mother or one thats drinks and uses drugs anymore than any other mother, i think this is in a very small minority of cases

hockeytiger said:
If the guy just up and walked out, then I have to question her judgment (that and be tempted to beat the crap out of him). If the child was an accident, then I again have to question her judgment, but less so. That only requires a momentary lapse in judgment. But still a lapse over a VERY serious issue.

i bet if you asked most single mothers it was never their intention to be a single mother its not what anyone plans to do, there are many reasons and i think you shouldnt be so quick to judge anything

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I'm normally concerned that a woman would want to marry me only because of my job (government = great health care benefits), and I'm even more concerned about it when it comes to single mothers. There are times when I'm suspicious, skeptical and mistrusting, and this is one of those times. It really sucks, too. There's a pretty nice checkout employee (single mom) at the grocery store on my block, and she's said that she wants to find a man so that she can stop working.

Oof. I'm not ready for that.

Another thing is that kids just piss me off too much of the time. They can be unpredictable, unreasonable, schizophrenic, and just plain psychotic. The good times with children are fantastic, but the bad times make me glad that I don't have to live with them.

just because a mother is single does not automatically mean shes looking for someone who is a paycheck although i would give the girl on the checkout a wide berth, and if thats how u feel about children then u shouldnt be around them
 

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If I had a steady job, yes. It wouldn't be fair if I didn't.

Why would you need a steady job? I am a single mother, have a good paying job and support myself and my child. When I date a man I'm not looking to him for support, or thinking "He better make good money to be with us". My money is my money, I don't need yours.

The second reason why I would see that child/ren more as a gift than a hindrance, is because about 2-3 years ago, my wife went for her annual check up at the gynae, she had to go for scans etc and the radiologist told her that she had so many fibroids that she may as well have a hysterectomy - she will never fall pregnant. Because they weren't cancerous, we decided to let things be...and as difficult as it was, accepted the fact that we would never have children of our own. About six months later we found out that she had fallen pregnant - A huge, wonderful surprise....Two months later she miscarried. I don't think that a parent realises the value of a child until they want one, expect one and then lose one. That is why, when it comes to children - not one of their little hairs must be harmed...or else!

Your answer was my favorite on this entire thread. Very well thought out and made a lot of sense. You and your wife will surely be blessed with a baby somehow. I'm so sorry for your heart ache, but I always believe there is a plan for all of us. It sounds like you will be a wonderful father too, best of luck, xx.

its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too :)
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!

Actually DJG, your comment was a pretty douchebag thing to say. You commend him? For what? Fucking a single mother? Thanks! Thats much more degrading that anything he's said, IMO. Yeah, his delivery is shitty...but I get his point. He's saying that the stereotypical ideal of single mothers is wrong. We do like to fuck, we do like to have fun and we are hungry for some passion....simply because almost 24/7 our lives revolve aorund our kids. I commend him too, but not for being so brave as to fuck a single mother, but for coming on here and talking about it with such passion. He obviously likes to fuck this woman - :eek:.....just because a little person calls me Mommy doesn't mean I don't like to be FUCKED.

That rant wasn't directed toward you DJG, only the "commend" part...the rest was my take on aztecks comments.

Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.

Do you date "non-single moms" that drink alcohol? If so, why is the fact that she's a mother who drinks alcohol any different?

I'm not trying to threaten you, okay? She is a good mother and I'm not going to hear some asshole call her a freak because she enjoys to be with a man like every normal woman, and I will kick their ass. This some stupid shit if a woman cannot enjoy her body because she is a mother? Her feelings, her passion suppose to stop when she has kids? It is only my opinion but that isn't right.

I hear what your saying....and thanks for saying it. You could've said it more respectful probably, but I took no offense. I would've had I heard you saying "Yeah, she locks those little brats up in the basement so I can go pound her pussy the way she likes it"....that's not what I heard you say. I heard you say "This single mother likes to fuck anytime anywhere, and just because she has kids doesn't mean she can't be a freak".
 

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This is a question for the guys..
younger guys... ages 21-35..
would you go out with a single mom?
If you would tell me your profession, and your position in life.
I post this because of a discussion I had with a single mom.
I will NOT tell you my position on it.
I was raised by a single mom, so I have a ton of respect.
Lets hear what you have to say.:confused:

I went out with a single mother in my early 30s. Since turning 35, I have been out with a couple of other single mothers.

Why?
 

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Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.
Am I the only one who finds this to be extraordinarily amazing?