Size And Dating Women?

[AtYourCervix10]

hey all, I've posted around this area before, sorry if i seem like a broken record... and i guess for the zealous and feral curious you can study my post history, but I feel compelled to post and vent again in an effort for new insight and fresh takes and my own growth and discovery...

I am a single, straight male, who seeks a woman who can keep up with me sexually and appreciate size. however, i've found that women just don't care about size. they want a guy to take them out, get to know, engage their mind, etc... sex is the least of their concerns. Even on the more sex/lifestyle sites, women will list without fail how they need to feel connection, intelligence, personality, far above matters of size. if anything, size or a man who is self aware of his size, is a turn off, because they immediately assume, you're cocky. And I learned MANY years ago, women HATE dick pics. They're honestly bored by it, and if a dating profile mentions it, it's a HUGE turn off.

i just find it all so interesting, as most of the porn i watch, and links here on LPSG are about wide eyed girls, dropping their jaws and salivating at the sight of a huge, monstercock, yet... i've found this completely the opposite in real life.

Don't misunderstand me, yes women comment on my size... IF we get to bed, but it's just a passing moment, and it by no means guarantees a second date... as they always want to go out, do things, shop, dinner, hike, brunch, travel, etc... things that dont involve a huge cock.

looking forward to your feedback, your personal stories, experiences and cognitive feedback. thanks!

 

[dickapick]

Would you date any woman just because she has a huge pair?

 

[AtYourCervix10]

absolutely.

Would you date any woman just because she has a huge pair?

 

[Obelisk8]

I guess I generally agree with what I think your point is. For my experience, the (few) women who wanted to date me eventually saw my size as an entirely extraneous benefit, and for the (very few) women who were interested in my size, none of them wanted to date me.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

i can validate your experiences and i have had the same.

i just find the disconnect very interesting.

i also have talked to many women doing onlyfans, and while they all post content of occassionally doing a guy with a big dick, they all have boyfriends or husbands.

also, i find it interesting that many pornstar women have boyfriends and husbands.just sort of underlying my point, that women want sound relationships over inches. despite that their on camera persona would have you believe different.

I guess I generally agree with what I think your point is. For my experience, the (few) women who wanted to date me eventually saw my size as an entirely extraneous benefit, and for the (very few) women who were interested in my size, none of them wanted to date me.

 

[Obelisk8]

i can validate your experiences and i have had the same.
also, i find it interesting that many pornstar women have boyfriends and husbands.just sort of underlying my point, that women want sound relationships over inches.

And while I might want to date a large-breasted woman merely because of that fact, I doubt if it could possibly last on such a footing. I also value sound relationships over cup sizes. (I can't believe I'm writing that... )

 

[engineer805]

In an evolutionary context, women bear the consequences of sex, making them genetically predisposed to consider issues like "will this guy stick around and help me raise the kids?" and "Is he smart and a good provider?" So a big cock is much lower on their priority list. Also, to think that the women in porn have anything whatsoever to do with the real world is, IMHO, a huge mistake - it's entertainment intended to feed male egos, pure and simple.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

well i would certainly date a large breasted woman.

however the issue would be that she wouldn't want to date me, as i know the relationship would descend into activities outside the bedroom that i have no interest in... she would want to go shopping, hiking, bunch, etc... and i just couldn't suffer that, so the relationship wouldn't last long sadly.

And while I might want to date a large-breasted woman merely because of that fact, I doubt if it could possibly last on such a footing. I also value sound relationships over cup sizes. (I can't believe I'm writing that... )

 

[AtYourCervix10]

oh, i totally agree and have mentioned this logical part of the discussion, many times before.

however, many women find these observations about evolution, offensive, sexist and misogynistic.

In an evolutionary context, women bear the consequences of sex, making them genetically predisposed to consider issues like "will this guy stick around and help me raise the kids?" and "Is he smart and a good provider?" So a big cock is much lower on their priority list. Also, to think that the women in porn have anything whatsoever to do with the real world is, IMHO, a huge mistake - it's entertainment intended to feed male egos, pure and simple.

 

[wallyj84]

Is this your fetish? I ask because you write about this a lot.

 

[deleted716371]

I'd say, to most women the benefit of a big cock is small compared to most other qualities. It's not those extra inches that make you laugh, take care of the children or bring comfort when you are sad. Who can blame them.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

well i would certainly date a large breasted woman.

however the issue would be that she wouldn't want to date me, as i know the relationship would descend into activities outside the bedroom that i have no interest in... she would want to go shopping, hiking, bunch, etc... and i just couldn't suffer that, so the relationship wouldn't last long sadly.

So in what activities sans bedroom are you interested?

I know women who do historical reenactment, video games, various sports from cycling and rock/mountain climbing to softball and car racing.
most hikers I know are technically training for major trails or canyoneering. But I’m in the intermountain west.
One of my clients is planning on summiting K2 in 2022. She’s done part of Everest.

Ive got woman friends who like punk, metal, jazz, opera; many perform.

 

[BigDickMale]

I am a single, straight male, who seeks a woman who can keep up with me sexually and appreciate size. however, i've found that women just don't care about size. they want a guy to take them out, get to know, engage their mind, etc... sex is the least of their concerns. Even on the more sex/lifestyle sites, women will list without fail how they need to feel connection, intelligence, personality, far above matters of size. if anything, size or a man who is self aware of his size, is a turn off, because they immediately assume, you're cocky. And I learned MANY years ago, women HATE dick pics. They're honestly bored by it, and if a dating profile mentions it, it's a HUGE turn off.

i just find it all so interesting, as most of the porn i watch, and links here on LPSG are about wide eyed girls, dropping their jaws and salivating at the sight of a huge, monstercock, yet... i've found this completely the opposite in real life.

I think you are over-generalizing, even if those are your experiences. Although your central experience with woman seems fairly accurate, I have met many many women who prefer a bigger dick and although they prefer not to announce it openly, aren't dick pic haters. As long as the guy puts in the verbal work to charm her, a dick pic can be very welcome.

The disconnect you feel may relate to the fact that ladies very often prefer not to openly admit their preferences, even despite the mainstream media pushing big dicks more than ever before. There are 3 reasons for this: 1. The world may be more receptive to women being more promiscuous and vocal about the pleasures of a bigger dick, but many still hold back from saying that too loudly. It just has too much negative historical connotation of them being sluttish.

2. Many (most?) men have been known down the ages to want just one thing from a woman: sex. Many (most?) women have never liked this because it just proves that men use and objectify them for their big breasts etc. That dislike of a manwhore is quite ingrained in women and the last thing they want to do is be seen to become that themselves - zone in on a man just because he's got 8 inches. So although many may do that, quietly and without advertising it, it's not something that is going to be the cultural mainstream anytime soon.

And 3: women are not men. They may (and often do) prefer the pleasures of a bigger cock and seek it out, but unlike some men, they don;t put one bodily feature above everything else in a relationship, and sometimes even in a fling. Intelligence, fitness, good looks, hygiene, kindness and humour will all benefit a man with an average (or occasionally a small) cock if the man with a thick 8 incher has none of those qualities.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Is this your fetish? I ask because you write about this a lot.

That’s rich.

 

[Obelisk8]

well i would certainly date a large breasted woman.

however the issue would be that she wouldn't want to date me, as i know the relationship would descend into activities outside the bedroom that i have no interest in... she would want to go shopping, hiking, bunch, etc... and i just couldn't suffer that, so the relationship wouldn't last long sadly.

I think what you've hit on is that shared interests and goals for life are more important for a relationship than the almost-certainly-not-shared interest in large breasts, and that this is true for each of us.

For me, enduring love is not at all dependent on her being well endowed. I'm just spectacularly lucky that she is.

 

[Obelisk8]

oh, i totally agree and have mentioned this logical part of the discussion, many times before.

however, many women find these observations about evolution, offensive, sexist and misogynistic.

I'd like to think that, given we humans have developed language and long-term monogamous relationships and a respect for the value of individuals, the evolution that got us here from our pre-chimp ancestors is no longer relevant. I'm not chained to only primordial desires; I can think and act for myself and treat the woman I'm in a relationship with as a person. This may not be in my genes, but it's in my upbringing and experiences, and hence in my personality. We're no longer purely the product of genetics.

 

[mako shark]

Something that I learned as I got older is that "physical attraction" wears off and "mental attraction" is far more important.
I spent many years married to a beauty pageant winner, humped like crazy for the first few years but as time went by we never carry a conversation that had any depth...

 

[BillM]

In Collage one of My best friends was horse hung and when word got out the hot ladies were at his door every night and it was not for planning for the future, it was only to have their brains banged out!!

 

[stevelhub]

Being older (67) me and my wife don't have sex too often, but I still please myself often which keeps me proud and I think growing. The last time we had relations she mentioned how thick I was. After 34 years I assume she would notice a size change. This tells me she likes big cock and makes mistakes in admitting it with comments like that.

Women hide the fact they love big cock for some reason. PPossiblyto maintain control over SEX!

 

[wallyj84]

That’s rich.

He's been complaining about this for years. "Women want to go to farmer's markets instead of worshipping my dick!" That is his every thread.