Size as a turn-on during Sex

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    Icarus213: I talked with a woman today who's dating a guy with a very large penis, and she mentioned that he will talk about his size during sex to turn them both on. Size is very arousing to her, so she loves to hear him talk about it in bed. He finds the fact that he is large very erotic, so he loves doing it, too. This was sort of a new thing to me, since I somehow associated bragging about size as a negative thing instead of a sexy thing.

    Do any of you do this? Thoughts?
     
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    [quote author=Icarus213 link=board=sex;num=1059825767;start=0#0 date=08/02/03 at 04:53:47]I somehow associated bragging about size as a negative thing instead of a sexy thing.
    Thoughts?[/quote]

    Very negative. I can't view self-congratulation of one's own cock size during sex as a turn-on. Conceit just doesn't do it for me.
     
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    7x6andchg: Icarus-

    I can say that I find HER talking about it (not incessantly, but a short comment or two is nice) somewhat erotic...

    Not sure about the other way as you describe...I have a hard time imagining myself saying things like "it's thick, isn't it?" and "is it ripping you apart it's so big" or some such ilk...that, to me, is NOT a turn on.

    7x6&C
     
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    SRV524: I do that sometimes to turn a girl on. I don't really view it as self-conceidedness, but just to turn a girl on more and all.
    I'll say thinks like "you like my big dick?" or somethin to turn her on, bc she and I both know I have one. Not big, but "above average" lol....you know what I mean.
     
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    gigantikok: Never done that, nor do I see how it could be a turn on for either person. I would assume during the act of sex you'd be busy with.. the act.. of sex.

    "ooh *groan* I'm so big *groan* OOOH I'M SO HUGE OOooO *groan*"
     
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    aj2181: When my girlfriend and I first got together she made comments about my size which i found erotic but it would get old doing that all the time.
     
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    SpeedoGuy: I sure don't tallk or brag about myself at all, its a turn off....

    ...however...

    I've never gotten tired of unsolicited size-related comments, exclamations and questions from partners. I enjoy them to the max. I particularly relish questions and subsequent discussions regarding my erection size, volume of semen, etc.

    SG
     
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    I actually met one of those guys. He had about 8" ... so he was actually smaller than me. He kept saying shit like, "Does that huge dick turn you on? you really dig my big cock, don't you?" I told him, "Obviously not as much you do." That was the only time I ever got out of bed during sex, put on my clothes and left. Stroking his own ego like that seemed too much like masturbation; he didn't need me for that.
     
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    Icarus213: Those are good comments, all. It struck me as sort of a different thing to do, I don't think it works for me, either.

    Good to know we take pleasure in more things during sex than just ourselves. :)
     
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    wranglersRbad: I think this conversation could take a different turn though...I think that sometimes size can be a turn on if it isn't talked about so much. I know my wife was VERY turned on by the sight of me (flaccid) when we first met. But it wasn't quite the same at full salute. More fear than anything else. We have been together about six years now and when I get out of the shower she just grins and says I'm not impressed ::)
     
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    Doubtless_Mouse: Hmm...I know that occasionally talking about size can be fun, I have been married for 10 yrs, and every now and then I like to hear her tell me she loves my big whatever...every now and then I will ask her if she likes the big whatever...I think most men (but not all) are first and foremost visual, secondly we are auditory. We like to hear things from out partners...my thoughts nothing more.

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    prepky: I thought sex was about what BOTH of you like....so if the other person likes hearing those types of statements, then by all means say them, I am sure they say and do things that they may not like, but they do them cause they know you like it, .....Just because someone likes hearing it, doesnt make it a bad thing ;D
     
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    Jimbo: I essentially agree with prepky's comment.  I think the point here is that the guy's PARTNER loves to hear it because it turns her on, so maybe he is accomodating that request and making it a "win-win" situation for them both, and it is not just bragging on his part.  The fact that he likes to talk about himself and finds it erotic rather than pretentious just makes it easier for him to give her what she likes, in this situation.  Whether or not his other partners like it, is a matter of their taste and someone in tune to their partner should be able to pick up cues and NOT put so much emphasis on their size if their partner does not find that kind of sex talk appealing.

    Even though I seldom talk about my size during sex (or am very verbose in general), I had a girfriend who loved to hear me talk as MUCH as I could during sex telling her how good/tight her pussy felt, asking her how she liked my big dick, etc., etc. and when I did so, it sent her into a higher level of orgasmic pleasure.  So even though I am not a "talker" by nature, I did it for her and it made sex together better for the BOTH of us since I like to feel that I am satisfying my partner to the best of my ablity, not just "getting off" on her.

    Therefore, I would not judge this couples' sextalk or sexplay as "good or bad".  Sex to me is about mutual satisfaction and not just each partner "getting theirs" but also by doing what the other partner likes to heighten their sexual experience.  So unless you have some deep-rooted aversion or repulsion for a certain activity, that you partner wants you to do, "just do it".   You may discover new sexual avenues and levels of pleasure for yourself you never knew you had.   ;D.
     
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    aussiechick63: Applauds DMW. I love that you actually got out of bed during sex. :D

    I definitely do not find stroking a guys ego during sex a turnon. Nor would I find him telling me how big he is erotic. Sex is for sharing emotions not egos I think.

    Each to their own. If that is what these couples find arousing and erotic then let them be. We are all turned on by different things. So I say go for it. Keep doing what you obviously both enjoy doing.
     
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    throb919: Hey, DMW--Either he'd seen too many Jeff Stryker movies or he was Jeff Stryker...! (That he was smaller than you just makes it...well..."tacky," as we say in the South.)
     
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    sammygirly: Welllllll - I'm not overly fond of a whole lot of sex talk, honestly makes me giggle.

    However, in small doses - I both enjoy hearing and making comments on those things about my partner that turn me on (coincidentally when I'm in these moods, the raunchier the words the better). So a VERY select few "You like how my big cock feels?" or something along those lines would be just dandy for me in the right context.

    Besides, likes already been said - if you both like it, do it!
     
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    [quote author=throb919 link=board=sex;num=1059825767;start=0#14 date=08/06/03 at 10:23:42]Hey, DMW--Either he'd seen too many Jeff Stryker movies or he was Jeff Stryker...![/quote]

    I've had the dubious privelege of meeting Mr. Stryker. He was as interesting as a fucking brick and twice as dumb as one. He made Jonah Falcon seem like a rocket scientist by comparison. But he's good at what he does. I just can't get turned on by people who can say, "Yeah, man; suck my big fuckin' dick. Fuckin' A!", but couldn't write it to save their lives!
     
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    [quote author=aussiechick63 link=board=sex;num=1059825767;start=0#13 date=08/06/03 at 10:05:26] Applauds DMW. I love that you actually got out of bed during sex.   :D

    I definitely do not find stroking a guys ego during sex a turnon. [/quote]

    I think probably the question is more, Would HE, if you did it occasionally and subtly, find it a turn on? For most men, I guess the answer would be YES. We all like having our "good" points, whatever they are, acknowledged and praised. Not all the time, but never to say it, that might be a total turn-off for him.
     
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    gigantikok: [quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=sex;num=1059825767;start=0#16 date=08/06/03 at 11:54:24]

    I've had the dubious privelege of meeting Mr. Stryker. He was as interesting as a fucking brick and twice as dumb as one. He made Jonah Falcon seem like a rocket scientist by comparison. But he's good at what he does. I just can't get turned on by people who can say, "Yeah, man; suck my big fuckin' dick. Fuckin' A!", but couldn't write it to save their lives!  
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    I think anyone who feels content with making their living and their mark on the world using their penis doesn't really have much going on up top...

    Can't bank much off of their creativity or intelligence, so i guess they turn to their dicks... :-/
     
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    CardiffDillon: We all use the talents we're born with to earn a living and in that respect a big dick is no different to a mathematical brain, physical strength or whatever. I personally wouldn't condemn someone for choosing a particular career path. I think we've all been grateful for guys like Mr Stryker at some time in our lives, some of us more than others:)

    Jeff Stryker may appear dumb but he's been one of the most successful male adult stars of recent years and has made a lot of money from having an above average sized dick. He's shown quite a lot of good business sense by branching out into merchandising, production and direction rather than just flaunting his dick. After all, being a porn star, like being a footballer, is only ever going to be a relatively short career.

    cheers

    Dillon
     
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