Size - Do You Even Notice?

[redbear52]

I guess I am somewhat between the two of you (rawdog and bjook). I don't think I have the degree of sensitivity that rawdof describes, but I can tell when I am making contact with a cervix or the end of the vaginal canal, and certainly not all vaginas have felt the same to me.

For me, there is a significant difference in sensation when a woman's vaginal walls are snug against the whole length of my cock and when they are not.

As for my take on women's feelings about penis size, I agree that within a wide range of size they don't take a lot of notice. It seems that only the biggest one (or two) or smallest one (or two) tend to stand out in their memory.

I have, however, been told by a few women (that I believed) that they appreciated a significant difference in sensation with different sizes and lengths.

 

[At.your.cervix]

From the other end of the stick, so to speak, I'd say the same about the female partners I've had over the years. Some had vaginas which were memorably short or memorably tight, and I've had a few partners who had exceptional depth and a couple I felt loose in. But for the most part, their vaginal capacities weren't what I remember most. Like as been said before, the fun we had in bed (or the lack there of) sticks on my mind, although sometimes the physical aspects are memorable. The girls who squirted--yes they definitely do exist, and I'm not talking about urination here. Those who treated kissing as an artform. My partners who had unique erogenous zones. Their voices, both in and out of passionate embraces. And sometimes even the smell of my partners I can recall. Since sex is so, so, so much more than just a series of ins and outs, it's not surprising that the memories that I hold of my various partners over the years extends far beyond the body parts involved with those ins and outs.

 

[EllieP]

I was not a measurer as well, and truth be told I only know of one partner who I wonder consider well-endowed and that's my husband. But it even took me a while to notice, too, strange enough. Like someone said I'm more into the relationship and what's happening at the time than to worry about physical attributes. OK, he's shorter than most guys I've dated, I knew that, but other than that I was just in a golden fog with him. It was wonderful. And then somewhere along the way during our first encounter I said to myself "Whoa, horsey!" That's when I realized that he was a good deal more than I had ever dealt with before. Since then I've been absolutely spoiled and have somewhat turned into a measurer! LOL! Well, just for him you see.

Of course, he claims he wasn't a breast man before he met me but I converted him as well.

 

[TinyPrincess]

So I guess my question is, do you notice size? Do you do some automatic categorising thing in your mind? Are you like me, not noticing size at all unless they are at the extreme end of the scale? Or do you do something else entirely (maybe measure every one and keep a list)?

Well, I prefer girth - lots of girth. And I notice it - perhaps because girth makes a much bigger difference than length.

I keep a mental list and have of course measured a few

 

[TinyPrincess]

so it's odd to hear about a person having say 5 8"+ cocks in a row

'odd' is not the word - liar is... :biggrin1:

 

[cougar_domme]

'odd' is not the word - liar is... :biggrin1:

Makes me feel lucky I have only had 4 then, lest I think that such comments are directed at myself.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

This is actually really interesting - men don't have that level sensitivity at all so I'm guessing we might conceptualise sex in quite different terms. I actually went and had a discussion with an ex of mine after this about this idea and she said she notices and has a preference although not a strong one...

It always interesting to learn something new :smile:

please speak for yourself. as for me, i have all different kinds of areas that i like stimulated differently. ranging from my brain to having my scalp massaged, my nipples are very sensitive. i like having my ass massaged and i enjoy anal play and prostate stimulation. my inner thighs love the feel of light fingernails as well as a sensitive tongue. i have big calves and rubbing them deeply and lightly is a big turn on. not much into my feet, but if you like them, then i like it. my ears, neck and cheeks love hot breath and a soft tongue........

 

[basincreek]

Well, I prefer girth - lots of girth. And I notice it - perhaps because girth makes a much bigger difference than length.

I keep a mental list and have of course measured a few

How accurate is this mental list? Like could you estimate what the size distribution for what you had is?

I'm not asking you to post it I'm just wondering if you could recall with enough clarity to estimate it in your own mind.

 

[tgirlsrgreat]

How accurate is this mental list? Like could you estimate what the size distribution for what you had is?

I'm not asking you to post it I'm just wondering if you could recall with enough clarity to estimate it in your own mind.

basin! go to bed!! don't want to see you on here at 6 in the morning again!! you should be out at a club or on match.com or, heaven forbid, at a church social!!! put down the fucking mouse and walk away!!

goodnight!!

 

[D_Sir Winston Choadhill]

Oh I didn't mean whole body - I meant specifically while the penis is in the vagina - I can certainly tell when i'm hitting different parts but as a general rule for me I can't feel with anything like the precision of a finger tip for example. If i slide a finger inside a girl I can feel far far more than i can with tip of my cock. Which isn't to say thats a bad thing it just interested me that some women might be able to feel things much more intensly and accuratly than i can.

 

[Drifterwood]

Interesting thread SG, and my women friends and lovers have said pretty much the same things.

If it's of any interest, I could describe very accurately every pussy I've ever been down on or fucked, and that is a three figure number. I can't remember names, but I remember pussy intimately.

 

[B_subgirrl]

Thanks to everyone for their responses :smile:. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy when I post something that people feel is worth answering :redface:.

Oh, and in case some people are confused, I'd just like to make it clear that most women can FEEL even half inch differences if we focus our attention on it. The thread isn't really about physical feelings (although the tangents are interesting).

It's more about whether or not we consciously notice and care about the size of each and every cock we come across.

I started noticing in my 30s, and using known dimensions of certain body parts I know the measurements of both the male partners I have had. I haven't written it down or anything, it's not that hard to remember 2 people accurately though.

Pre-LPSG I wasn't all that interested in actual sizes, just general categories. I could still do guesstimates with the larger guys because I'd had a 7" and a 'huge' partner (my FB), so I guessed larger sizes in relation to these two. Plus I knew that ones the size of the 7" guy and bigger felt good because they did things that others couldn't (I've since found out about the posterior and anterior fornix).

Since I joined LPSG I've become more interested in specific sizes, so I've started asking or using hand measurements.

I too always wonder about the folks who've encountered so much big cock. Only one of my 30s partners (1 out of 2) exceeds average size. I'm sure what I've encountered is in keeping with statistics so it's odd to hear about a person having say 5 8"+ cocks in a row. It gives me pause anyway.

I've been known to say I've had 'more than my fair share' of larger ones. When I went through my list, just before starting this thread, I discovered I've had 8 that were 7" or over (most not measured though). It's certainly not a majority of my total of 27, and I don't think they occurred in a row (I'd have to go back and check), but statistically it is definitely 'more than my fair share'.

I didn't want to post on this thread (thought it rude to interject my opinion from a woman addressed to women) but I thought this deserved a response.

I'm interested in the male point of view too. And you're always welcome on my threads, whatever you're saying. It's usually bloody interesting, however off topic it is :biggrin1:.

I can certainly tell the difference when I'm rubbing the g-spot and I can tell where the cervix is (with some women) and I can tell when I pop into the CDS. Furthermore, I can tell when her orgasms happen, where the spasms are concentrated, and lastly the massive temperature difference between the introitus and her backstop. Surely, I'm not the only guy?

I doubt you're the only one, although you DO have an advantage over many of the others in that you don't have to use condoms.

I apologize in advance for this tangent.

The tangent is interesting! Besides, I'm the queen of off-topic rambles :redface: - I can hardly complain.

Since sex is so, so, so much more than just a series of ins and outs, it's not surprising that the memories that I hold of my various partners over the years extends far beyond the body parts involved with those ins and outs.

Nice to hear from another guy. The physical parts of sex are . . . well . . . what I have sex for, but they aren't the ONLY part of sex that matters. The other parts make it special.

I was not a measurer as well, and truth be told I only know of one partner who I wonder consider well-endowed and that's my husband. But it even took me a while to notice, too, strange enough. Like someone said I'm more into the relationship and what's happening at the time than to worry about physical attributes.

This seems to be the general trend (with a few exceptions).

And then somewhere along the way during our first encounter I said to myself "Whoa, horsey!" That's when I realized that he was a good deal more than I had ever dealt with before.

ROFL :biggrin1:. I knew my FB was rather large (definitely MY largest) but I didn't realise HOW big until I asked him exactly what he measured.

Well, I prefer girth - lots of girth. And I notice it - perhaps because girth makes a much bigger difference than length.

I keep a mental list and have of course measured a few

Why am I not surprised? :biggrin1:

My initial post was probably quite length focused (because I am length focused :biggrin1. I notice girth even less than I notice length. In fact, if I went through my list again with girth in mind, I'd probably only be able to guesstimate for 3 of the people on my list.

I wonder if others notice girth more or less than length, or if they are as likely to notice either?

Interesting thread SG, and my women friends and lovers have said pretty much the same things.

Thanks :smile:

If it's of any interest, I could describe very accurately every pussy I've ever been down on or fucked, and that is a three figure number. I can't remember names, but I remember pussy intimately.

Definitely of interest (although listing them all HERE would probably be excessive :tongue. I find it quite intriguing that the males who have answered experience things so differently. Some can feel a lot of physical difference, for others all girly-bits feel much the same.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Pre-LPSG I wasn't all that interested in actual sizes, just general categories. I could still do guesstimates with the larger guys because I'd had a 7" and a 'huge' partner (my FB), so I guessed larger sizes in relation to these two. Plus I knew that ones the size of the 7" guy and bigger felt good because they did things that others couldn't (I've since found out about the posterior and anterior fornix).

Since I joined LPSG I've become more interested in specific sizes, so I've started asking or using hand measurements.

I've been known to say I've had 'more than my fair share' of larger ones. When I went through my list, just before starting this thread, I discovered I've had 8 that were 7" or over (most not measured though). It's certainly not a majority of my total of 27, and I don't think they occurred in a row (I'd have to go back and check), but statistically it is definitely 'more than my fair share'.

This is, statistically, highly improbable - very highly improbable - no, extremely highly improbable. As far as I can work out from the available studies that have any scientific base 5% of men have a penis of 7" or over. You are saying that in a group of 27, 8 men had a penis of 7" or over. That's more than 29.5%.

Damn near impossible unless you sexually select your partners based on penis size.

How many have you asked / measured and what sizes did they report / measure at? Is the method you refer to above of guesstimates based on how the measured 7" felt the only other way you've judged? Were some of those judgements retrospective?

I find it very hard, no, I'll be honest, impossible to believe that your estimates are correct. I suppose that doesn't have to mean a damn thing - what I do and don't believe is probably, or at least should be, immaterial to you. But think about this - all the average blokes reading here that this woman or that man has had 30% well-hung partners, or 50%, or some other unlikely number, are going to be thinking 'damn, what if I run into a girl like that and I'm real disappointment to her because I'm average....'. It's not fair. We should either report properly what we've experience or at least be honest and say, like you said in the OP "I don't know what sizes the cocks I've had were - I guess they were average". But instead you have turned this thread on it's head by stating that you have retrospectively worked out that you've had about 30% hung lovers, which kind of implies that the rest didn't leave that much of an impression apart from the small guy. Great. Wonderful way to inspire confidence.

Maybe those guys you are guesstimating at 7" were a happy 6" or 5.75" and hit a well executed / lucky angle. Maybe you are remembering bigger because it felt better (due to other factors) and you have come to associate the two. Basically it is not fair to report as fact something that is retrospective supposition. Especially not in an area that guys are so damn sensitive about.

 

[basincreek]

basin! go to bed!! don't want to see you on here at 6 in the morning again!! you should be out at a club or on match.com or, heaven forbid, at a church social!!! put down the fucking mouse and walk away!!

goodnight!!

I actually do have a Match.com profile up.

This is, statistically, highly improbable - very highly improbable - no, extremely highly improbable. As far as I can work out from the available studies that have any scientific base 5% of men have a penis of 7" or over. You are saying that in a group of 27, 8 men had a penis of 7" or over. That's more than 29.5%.

Damn near impossible unless you sexually select your partners based on penis size.

I ran the figures for 27 partners through this and it came up with 1 partner over 7.5 inches. So she must have been somehow selecting them for size.

 

[B_subgirrl]

This is, statistically, highly improbable - very highly improbable - no, extremely highly improbable. As far as I can work out from the available studies that have any scientific base 5% of men have a penis of 7" or over. You are saying that in a group of 27, 8 men had a penis of 7" or over. That's more than 29.5%.

Damn near impossible unless you sexually select your partners based on penis size.

I agree that it's damn near impossible. And I've never once selected a partner based on size - an old rule of mine is that you don't promise and not follow through. But it still seems to have happened.

How many have you asked / measured and what sizes did they report / measure at? Is the method you refer to above of guesstimates based on how the measured 7" felt the only other way you've judged? Were some of those judgements retrospective?

I find it very hard, no, I'll be honest, impossible to believe that your estimates are correct.

Indeed they may not be. Most have not been measured so my guesstimates may be based on completely wrong standards of judgment.

Way back in the days when I picked up most of my partners, I had one guy tell me he'd measured and was 7". I probably have about 80% confidence that he was telling me the truth and that he measured accurately. He could also hit my deep spots, which does generally take 7". A lot of my later guesstimates were based on his size though, so if he WAS wrong, that would bring some of the other sizes down as well.

The only other one who was measured (although again, not by me) and I have a definite size for was 10". I am 99.9% confident that he measured correctly and was telling me the truth. His claim of ten inches is supported by the fact that he is visually the same size as my two 10" toys, which I HAVE measured.

Of the others:

One was measured by me. He was 8 point something. I can't remember his exact size. It didn't really matter to me and I wasn't really doing it to find out his size. He was a fair bit bigger than Mr 7.

Another was visually a little larger than the 8 point something guy. Or rather, the 8 point something guy was a little smaller - I slept with him after this guy. This guy was also a fair bit bigger than Mr 7.

One I measured against my hand recently. My spread hand is exactly 7 inches from pinky tip to thumb tip. He was longer than my hand by quite a bit.

Two are very much retrospective and quite possibly not very accurate. One of those I only had sex with once and it was when I was quite young. The other I am a little more confident of, as I slept with him a few times over a period of several years (and when I had a little more experience). So while I feel fairly sure that they were both at least 7", and possibly a fair bit more, it's based on gut reaction only.

The final one I had sex with in the same period as the first guy mentioned. He was a little bigger than the first guy, so if the first guy was really 7", this guy was more. This guy is one of the few I could guess at girth with - his girth was large enough to be very challenging.

I suppose that doesn't have to mean a damn thing - what I do and don't believe is probably, or at least should be, immaterial to you. But think about this - all the average blokes reading here that this woman or that man has had 30% well-hung partners, or 50%, or some other unlikely number, are going to be thinking 'damn, what if I run into a girl like that and I'm real disappointment to her because I'm average....'. It's not fair.

But they shouldn't be thinking that at all! Remember that I've also had sex with 17 guys who, I'm guessing at least, were smack bang in the average range, and most of them did perfectly fine sexually. My second best sex partner of the lot, was one of those 17. And it was nothing to do with him having a big cock, because he didn't have a big cock. He couldn't even reach my oh-so-loved deep spots. But he was amazing! Because of all the other things that have been talked about in this thread - those things that aren't related to cock size at all.

We should either report properly what we've experience

I hope my earlier detail will clarify things a little.

or at least be honest and say, like you said in the OP "I don't know what sizes the cocks I've had were - I guess they were average".

What I said in the OP was true for me then, and is now. With most of them (17) I didn't notice their size, so I guess they were average. Add into that one whose size I can sort of guesstimate, and you have all the ones who weren't at one of the extreme ends of the scale. I did in fact say in the OP that I do notice if they are at an extreme (for me that means 7 or over, although it may mean something different for you).

But instead you have turned this thread on it's head by stating that you have retrospectively worked out that you've had about 30% hung lovers, which kind of implies that the rest didn't leave that much of an impression apart from the small guy. Great. Wonderful way to inspire confidence.

The rest didn't leave much of an impression regarding size. Which was the point of the thread - that size really doesn't matter unless there is something extreme going on.

That doesn't mean they didn't leave an impression in other ways. In fact, I could probably describe sex with the majority of them (not the few drunken one night stands), and some of the average guys beat some of the bigger guys hands down.

But my point in starting this thread WASN'T to point out that size doesn't matter at all in bed. For me that would be a lie, because I DO prefer lengthier guys. Nor was it to point out that size is only one more factor that counts towards a guy's sexual rating. Although that would be the truth (for me), it wasn't the point. Nor was it to say that we can't tell the difference physically between two similar sizes (I think most of us could).

My initial point was simply that I don't think about what size a guy is unless it is bloody obvious that there is something extreme about him. I don't sit there thinking 'Gee, I wonder if he's 5" or 5.5'. Penis size just doesn't enter my head at all if he is somewhere in the average range, and I wanted to see if others felt the same way. Apologies if I wasn't clear enough in the OP when I asked my questions.

Maybe those guys you are guesstimating at 7" were a happy 6" or 5.75" and hit a well executed / lucky angle. Maybe you are remembering bigger because it felt better (due to other factors) and you have come to associate the two.

Both of these things are possible.

Basically it is not fair to report as fact something that is retrospective supposition. Especially not in an area that guys are so damn sensitive about.

I did make a point initially of saying they weren't measured, and had earlier said that two were just 'holy fuck'. My posts are usually lengthy enough as it is, so I try to avoid excessive detail. I thought I'd made it clear though that they weren't 'official' sizes, but obviously not. It's now been explained in more detail and with as much truth and honesty as I can offer. I'll try to be clearer in future.

 

[thehighheelsgirl]

I kinda have a thing for measuring cocks, and I've measured every guy I've dated since I was 18 or 19. If we just had sex once or twice I never did, but if we dated I definitely measured.

I'd say it's pretty true that there's not a big difference between a guy who is 7 inches and the next who is 7 and a half. Now, go from a guy who is 7 inches to a guy who is 9 inches and wow is that is a difference!

 

[RawDog]

I'm interested in the male point of view too. And you're always welcome on my threads, whatever you're saying. It's usually bloody interesting, however off topic it is :biggrin1:.

Thank you! I appreciate the compliments.

I doubt you're the only one, although you DO have an advantage over many of the others in that you don't have to use condoms.

Good point I hadn't thought of, and constantly take for granted.

 

[basincreek]

I kinda have a thing for measuring cocks, and I've measured every guy I've dated since I was 18 or 19. If we just had sex once or twice I never did, but if we dated I definitely measured.

I'd say it's pretty true that there's not a big difference between a guy who is 7 inches and the next who is 7 and a half. Now, go from a guy who is 7 inches to a guy who is 9 inches and wow is that is a difference!

And a seven incher would already be pretty big. So going from an average sized guy to a nine incher would probably be pretty freaky/mindblowing.

 

[KTF40]

Recently I told someone that women are only likely to even notice a guy's size if he's particularly big or small, and that for most of us, size just doesn't matter enough that we stop to think about it. This is certainly true for myself and my friends. Even as someone who likes length, I still won't even notice size unless they are at an extreme end of the spectrum.

It seems to me that many men are so obsessed with size that they don't even realise that women often don't think about it at all (or at least, I THINK women often don't think about it - hence the thread to find out).

I think with these two statements, it's pretty easy to understand why guys are so obsessed with size. Even to your own words, a girl with only notice a dick if it is big (or small). Don't you think most guys would actually like a girl to notice his dick? Perhaps even appreciate it? (which is hard to do if you don't even notice much about it) I'm sure as a girl you would like guy's to notice, pay attention, and appreciate your pussy, right? It's as if no matter what kind of sex I can give a girl, she won't remember much about my dick, but she'll never forget the guy with the big dick before me because she "noticed" him. This isn't meant as an attack or anything, just further explanation as to why size is so important to us.

 

[Pitbull]

I'm not being funny here - but go get a small, thin carrot, a medium carrot and a big fat carrot. Shove them up your arse in turn. Report back with your observations.

Observations:

Three dirty stinky brown carrots.