size obsession in men

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by shocked, Jan 25, 2006.

  1. shocked

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    my gf and me

    she said me that Im the best in bed for her, so she admited it , tomorrow we have talked about my penis size. She has asked me how thick was my cock.
    I thought she was thinking that Im big, but she said that she was not sure enough thick. then I asked "whats the biggest she ever had" , first she didnt want to talk about it. after my insistences she told me that she has never measured a cock before but Im absolutely not the biggest for her.

    I was disappointment , cause I was 8.5 x 6, I have asked how big was he, she said that she didnt know.but said Im not the biggest. and said size is not important too. Of course I m not the biggest cock in the world. but I think a have good package. hearing that made me so bad, maybe rubbish but its happened.

    Now I havent mood for making sex with her, thought she still claiming Im the best for her in her whole life. What a rubbish obsession is that.So what do u think guys/girls... impressing women with my size and performance is the biggest turn on for me.so I feel bad now and havent mood for sex.
     
  2. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    Dude, quit worrying about your dick size. 8.5 by 6 is HUGE!!!
     
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    If you look at a lot of the studies, you will see that you are easily in the top 10% of all males. Yes, there will be guys bigger than you, but not a whole lot. She probably got lucky in finding someone bigger than you based on the law of averages.

    Don't worry about not being big enough. Instead, focus on the prize - you are getting some action! There are many guys out there (and here - just read the threads to see how many virgins there are) who aren't getting any at all, let alone still being virgins.
     
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    guy, by your avatar, your a physical catch...sounds like the cock is very large...she needs to adore what she has got in you ...or i will take it away from her
     
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    If its only about impressing a woman then you are setting yourself up for disappointment - and it sounds like the moment is here unfortunately. That was a question that should not have been asked.

    Shouldnt it be about a mutualy satisfying experience? Its not just about what turns you on - but what turns her on as well.

    Being so focused on not being the biggest means that you dont appreciate what it is that you have; there are men who might have been bigger and who would have been smaller. There are plenty of men that are very low on technique; and as she is telling you that you have been the best of her lovers - then that isnt a problem for you and her needs are being met... If she isnt size-obsessed then you are in the best possible position you can be in!
     
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    Forget the cock size it doesnt matter how big you are it is all how you use the thing being bigger is just something that makes sex more exciting.
     
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    It is true that being bigger or thicker or whatever makes sex more exciting or the thought of sex more exciting regardless of what sexual fantasies we may have. I do think that many of us who are well endowed have a real, day to day, minute by minute awareness of that fact. I think large cock size gives us a constant awarness of what is in our pants and can be a turn on in itself. I find that many men who are small or average do not have this awareness unless and until they are horny...I think many of us get horny from the size in the crotch and the constant reminder that it is there as a major part of our anatomy. Doug
     
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    I think that is what people worry about. It is hard to say "it doesn't matter" in one sentence and "it makes sex more exciting" in the next and have people walk away with their fears quelled.
     
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    shocked -- You don't mention love in your relationship. Since your g/f finds you "the best in bed that she's had", could it be that she loves you? We men often think sex is just using our cocks to get a woman off, whereas the female gets emotionally attached to us as an individual. Men love their dicks, but there's a matter of degrees here and your being so hung seems to keep your interest focused on your big cock and how its going to be served during sex. If your interest were focused on your g/f, wanting to please her above your getting pleased by her being impressed with your dick size, maybe there would be no problem. I think you should try to overcome your dick size hangup, my friend, since you asked what we think.
     
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    shocked,

    Your situation sounds somewhat like mine in that my girlfriend also claims to enjoy sex with me more than she has with anyone else she's slept with despite having had sex with a person possessing a larger penis than I do.

    It seems that about the only difference between you and I, then, is that I still have mood for making sex with her.
     
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    Yeah I'm about that size too Shocked, I wouldn't worry. Obviously either the guy she was with or the cock hanging off him (probably both) weren't right for her. So she's not with him anymore and by the sounds of it doesn't even have any contact with him.

    So if she was into big cocks surely she would have stayed in touch with someone who was so big...but she didn't. Also she hasn't dumped you and you're still together so you must be doing something right.

    Just don't worry about it. There's always someone bigger than you. At your size though, a lot of people are smaller. Just don't go around thinking 'I've got the biggest cock any girl is going to see'. I DID used to think that but then my ex told me she was with a guy who was thicker than me. I was slightly disheartened for a second then I thought, good for you, you psycho :p

    Just be happy with what you have - a girlfriend who cares about you, a BIG penis that would scare most girls, and if thats your body in your avatar then you're built too :p

    Good luck, just don't worry, be happy :)
     
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    i wouldnt worry, she said youre the best she has ever had.....im not big by any means....but i seem to satisfy my gf quite easily, and she said i am the best sex she has ever had in her life. and i know im not the biggest in the sack department she has had. but hey, if i can give her the pleasure, sexual and non-sexual, thats what makes the relationship! whether it be by me eatting her out, or intercourse, i give her more then what any other guy has given to her, and THAT is what im happy about. our love also goes into our sex, making our touch, the feel of eachother when making love, bar none, the best feeling ever.
     
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    How dare she...:mad: to have actually found a cock that is bigger than yours even befor she knew you ...how many guys she must have went though to find him even, 100's perhaps 1000's how can you live with it? You better just dump her forget what a good woman she is and all her nice qualities,how good she makes you feel when your down, what a good friend she is well you get my point.:dunno:
     
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    thanx for comments guys/girls , damn I do not care what women think since now. Cause I know that Im big. She is moaning as hell when she was with me. Maybe she she is bad to visual comparing with cocks lol...
    I think it is important what u have done ,not what u have got.

    yes thats avatar is my pic ;)
     
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    All three of us are bout the same size. Whip it out with pride!
     
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    Well my BF is here almost everyday that's why I did this membership to check it out. The problem is some people just want sex, they don't really care about touching kissing and all that stuff. It's like they say " A woman need a reason to do sex, a men just a place and a gay guy just a Dick" I desagree and agree with that expression... I was married got divorced had some bad relationship on the past, now I am with another guy and looks we are doing good, but he likes to see Big Dickssssss here, so what should I care you may have a big one to play with, but just play to play I'd rather play with myself! :wink:
     
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    Some women who have had sex with a guy whose cock is huge have discovered it is too much of a good thing.
    If the guy she knew before was bigger than you, that may have been Too big for her own comfort and that is why she said you were the best.

    There's pain you can ignore cause the pleasure eclipses it and then there's serious pain......and apparently the guy who was bigger was too much for her to enjoy.

    And relax......you're huge !
     
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    Whereas men have some sort of inbuilt biological need to be as big as possible, like it's a dominance signal (y'know the same way that antler size is used as a dominance signal in male deer), women just don't see it in the same way at all. If you asked her why she's in a relationship with you (as opposed to him), dick size had chance to come a fair way down the list. I asked my wife about why she decided I was 'the one' for her, she started off mentioning about how I'm a caring person, how I can make her laugh more than anyone else she's ever been in a relationship with, that she can talk to me and I'll listen to what she has to say etc. Even on the physical attraction side, she mentioned about liking my eyes, that I had a sexy smile etc., only at the end of all that (being aware of how fragile the male ego can be) adding, in a slightly comic way,"and because you've got a huge willy".

    Remember, if you had a crap personality and weren't a very good lover in bed, it wouldn't matter if you had a dick the size of a third leg, she wouldn't consider you as someone she wanted to be with. As it is, she thinks you're the best lover she's ever had, is one of the nicest people she's ever met etc., so having a big whanger is a very nice extra, but not one of the most important things to her.
     
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  20. B_Hung Muscle

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    Shocked, you know I think you are a total STUD. Huge cock and a very hot body. I don't blame you for being surprised to hear that your gf has been with bigger guys. But she says she loves sex with you. We have nothing to do with our cock-size. It's something we're born with. But you have perfected the art of loving-making, and that's something you accomplished. Your achievement is much more important than having 1/2 inch bigger dick.

    I'm just shy of 9 long and 6 around, and I've heard from sex partners that they've seen bigger. I assume they say this to signal they can handle it, so I flip them over and fuck them just a little harder.
     
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