Size-queenism.

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I have this fascination with big dicks. Like most of you here I have more than appreciation for them. There is something so raw and pleasing about a huge set of equipment. Something very impressive :p

I've had problems with my fetish though, and I was wondering what you guys think about this. I am a "size-queen" in the sense that I have a fetish. But I've met guys that were genuinely nice and charming and everything you might want in a prospective partner. But as soon as they dropped their trousers The spark just went. I've felt really ashamed of it because I wonder if I really am that vain?

So what do you guys think?

Is it a legitimate fetish that can't be gotten around or is it just vanity?

p.s. I live in a place where it is pretty darn difficult to find a fuck buddy, let alone a fuck buddy that is well endowed and likes the same things you do. So maybe I just need to get over it?
 

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I certainly wouldn't call it vanity, more just a petty preference in what turns you on and what doesn't. But sexual arousal is a mental thing so I would agree with geog that it's worth trying to get over it. If you can work your mind into a state where smaller cocks can turn you on your chances of finding a local fuck bud will certainly be much better. But don't berate yourself over your sexual preferences, we all have them.
 

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Sound advice as always, Silvertip. I don't think you should feel ashamed for liking what you like. There's really nothing wrong about being shallow to start with, after all I meet plenty of guys who are nice and charming that I feel no spark for because, you know, I'm straight. Too many people think that sex with them is like some kind of great reward for being a nice person, when in reality you'd be doing a disservice to anyone who you start developing a relationship with if you're not that in to them.

I've never loved the word 'fetish' as it's too often misused to describe a simple preference. imho when it's a problematic 'fetish' it's because it's an irrational sexual compulsion (similar to needing to touch every fence post you walk by, count the tiles on a room before you enter, etc.) Speaking as a straight man, I see this distinction made on a lot of features: many men like big boobs, but it's a fetish when breasts can just be infinitely big with almost no consideration for the woman at all (compare Angelina Jolie as a woman with big boobs, and those cartoonish string-implants you see in porn.) So if you're looking for a man with a big dick, then hey, you know what you want and more power to you. If you are just looking for a big dick and that's it, that's something you may want to talk with a sex-positive therapist about before you get too serious with anyone.
 

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yes, it sounds like your really are THAT vain. this may not be what you want to hear, but it sounds like that's exactly the answer to your question. you don't care about the person at all, you just want a big dick. did you ever have the spark instantly go out because a guy with a big dick showed a part of his personality that turned you off? like, did a guy making a racist comment or breaking a promise ever turn the spark off? because if not, then all you care about is dick size, and you shall live at the mercy of guys with big dicks for eternity, no matter how they treat you.
 

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We all have different things that turn us on sexually -- and usually they are not explainable. Some of us naturally repsond to blonds; some to brunettes; some like hairy; and some like smooth; some guys like big tits; some don't; etc. I don't think you have to be ashamed of the chemistry that gets you going, nor do you have to apologize for it as long as you have respect for others who may not fit your sexual criteria.

But i hope you talk about your expectations up front. Nothing could be more embarrassing than rejecting a guy after he gets naked in front of you.
 

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''I've had problems with my fetish though...''

This pretty much answers your own question. You'll miss out on some decent guys if you insist on them being hung. Big dicks should just be a bit of fun, not an obsession that shapes your life.
 

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It's simply unPC to say that size matters. Or even it seems to like a larger cock.

We all hold preferences. I think as long as a size queen (shouldn't the term for a man be a size king? since when were male sovereigns called queens? lol..) does not berate or bully smaller-endowed men, then they're free to enjoy as many nine/ten inchers they can get IMO.

As a tangent, I generally like women with bigger boobs (D/E range) and it's not something I can forego or relinquish easily. If somebody is "offended" at that, that's their own business, I don't see who holding a preference is evil.
 

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A friend of mine has this thing with really huge ools... Not just big but relaly huge tools. He turns 43 this summer. The fact that he keeps on looking for huge cocks, just makes him sometimes act like a junkie.... It is as if sometimes he is out of control, tottally out of control. And that is sick. On the other hand if you dont have a problem with your so called fetish, that wouldnt turn into an addiction, then i believe it is ok. Nothing is in vain as long as you are happy with your actions.
 

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In many ways I regret the day i took my first huge dick all the way...
 

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I to love big cocks, but I would prefer much more a hard cock. I'm just in aww when a guy unzips his pants and out pops a hard cock. I get this thought in my mind,"I really need to get this cock off, it's my job as a cocksucker." I dunno, can't figure it out.
 

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I'm in two minds about it. I really quite like big dicks ... I suppose significantly bigger than mine would be my definition of that.

But most of the time I'm a fairly aggressive / dominant top anyway, so it doesn't make all that much difference ... luckily I can find enough submissive men, some of whom are hung...

But for friendship, let alone romance / sex, I'm looking for very many other, more important characteristics. Intelligence would be the main one. And creativity/imagination. Being able to communicate. Interests in art and science and nature. Love of good food. Travel. Pets and so on. I think it's crazy to think that big penises are more important than any one or two of those things, let alone all of them ... :smile:
 

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macho8, do tell.

I was mostly top at that time (this is many years ago). Met this Dutch guy - he is about 8" and real tall (you know the type).

We met a couple of times - mostly we flip-flop. After the 3rd time he said he wanted to try to go balls deep. This confused me cause I thought he'd been fucking me properly! Apparently he'd only been going half in; cause he didn't want to hurt me.

At that time I didnt know about the 2nd hole (sigmoid) but we spent about 20 mins opening me up. Once I was open, he told me to tighten my ass, so everytime he went it deep, it would hit my sigmoid and pop past it. After a while of doing this, I started to cum... I never touched my dick at all and had my first handsfree.

I kept going back for more - basically only him toping and me bottoming this time. I think he had it all planned from the start. lol. he found another cutie to fuck soon after that and left me with 2 hungry holes...

I became strictly bottom soon after that. And pretty much a size king now.
 
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I to love big cocks, but I would prefer much more a hard cock. I'm just in aww when a guy unzips his pants and out pops a hard cock. I get this thought in my mind,"I really need to get this cock off, it's my job as a cocksucker." I dunno, can't figure it out.

I like to jack off to big cocks, don't really like more than 7 inches in me, and agree with this...a rock hard cock is best.
 
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I was a bottom, but not a size fan/king/queen/maniac until after one fateful night with a great, very well hung, guy who was bumping pretty hard into my sigmoid bend. I was flinching and worried about damage, but he kept telling me to relax and take it slow. Not knowing my body well enough, the right kind of relaxation never happened that night. Afterwards, I went home, did plenty of reading and started to probe with bigger toys until I was hooked on that incredible deep feeling that radiates out to buzz my whole body.

Warning, boys & girls: If you're anything like me, once you get there, there's no turning back. I've tried being with a few guys who weren't big enough to hit that spot and it just isn't satisfying any more.
 

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I was a bottom, but not a size fan/king/queen/maniac until after one fateful night with a great, very well hung, guy who was bumping pretty hard into my sigmoid bend. I was flinching and worried about damage, but he kept telling me to relax and take it slow. Not knowing my body well enough, the right kind of relaxation never happened that night. Afterwards, I went home, did plenty of reading and started to probe with bigger toys until I was hooked on that incredible deep feeling that radiates out to buzz my whole body.

Warning, boys & girls: If you're anything like me, once you get there, there's no turning back. I've tried being with a few guys who weren't big enough to hit that spot and it just isn't satisfying any more.

haha.. yeah i am the same too.. So much so, its all about the dick now.. i've slept with some real ugly guys, but hung... and i keep asking for more till he finds another btm to destroy.
 

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Can I ask a question - would it be ok to state I only look for hung guys in my online profile? Its one thing for me to accept it, but to be so open about it!?!

Its just that, I don't want to waste anyones time to get to know the guy, and find out he can't fuck my sigmoid.