slapping/smacking her ass during sex?

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I've obviously seen this done in pornos, but I've heard of a few women from this site who seem to enjoy a mild slap on the butt during sex/doggystyle.

I personally have no experience with this, so I was hoping to try to get the whole story from the rest of your guys and girls. Is it enjoyable? For the guy? Girl? How do you know when its appropriate?


I personally can't imagine ever hitting a female, especially while making love, doggystyle or otherwise. I can just see it going horribly wrong if I so much as attempted this maneuver on a lady!

Are there some girls who dont like this, too?
 

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I've obviously seen this done in pornos, but I've heard of a few women from this site who seem to enjoy a mild slap on the butt during sex/doggystyle. Be careful thinking women on here are mainstream...

I personally have no experience with this, so I was hoping to try to get the whole story from the rest of your guys and girls. Is it enjoyable? For the guy? Girl? How do you know when its appropriate? Hmm... Maybe if you try out a mild slap - jokingly - at first? If she doesn't like it, you can always wink at her and laugh it away (I'm a firm believer that laughing TOGETHER is absolutely wonderful - even in bed). If, however, she does like it... Go with the flow...

I personally can't imagine ever hitting a female, especially while making love, doggystyle or otherwise. I can just see it going horribly wrong if I so much as attempted this maneuver on a lady! Don't go at it with all your force the first time... Also, if you don't like it, don't go for it.

Are there some girls who dont like this, too? Can't say I love it...


Slapping is not for everyone, don't worry if you or your girlfriend aren't that into it. You can always try it out and see if you like it - if you're insecure about what she likes, try asking (as you may freak her out if you suddenly appear in black leather pants, masked up, whip in hand... :wink:)
 
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My gf likes it. It's not like an everytime thing though. Occasionally we get a little rough and she likes a little bit of hair pulling and ass slappin.
 

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I guess I watch too much goddamned porn, but everytime I have gotten close to a girl I have slapped her with my dick...I am a virgin. They always lose interest.
 

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my girlfriend has one of the most perfect asses i've ever seen. but we began our relationship only a moth ago so we are still learning each other preferences (and in order to learn more...we do it like there is no tomorrow..lol). Sometimes i hit her gently, i'm not sure if she likes it or not a bit harder yet...but she sure seems to enjoy when i fuck her hard in doggystlyle and i "slap" her with my own body/legs

just try to slap a bit...if she likes it increase the intensity :p



big butts are my sin... :p
 

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my girlfriend loves when i smack her one on the ass, especially if she is riding me or if we're doing it doggy, and she also loves when I grab a big ol' handfull of her thick curly hair and pull back so i can nibble on her neck while we're doing it from behind.

but not all women like these things.
 

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I guess I watch too much goddamned porn, but everytime I have gotten close to a girl I have slapped her with my dick...I am a virgin. They always lose interest.

:lmao:


Seriously - just feel your way... If impatient (or unsure you can take a hint): Ask her what she likes!
 

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lots of women like it.
you could talk about it or you could just try the lightest of slaps and see how she reacts.

your issues with hitting a woman...
i admire the atttude but there's a difference between lashing out and erotic spanking.
consent.
sex without consent is rape. striking without consent is abuse.
you can accept that she'll enjoy the consensual sex. the consensual spanking is no different.
 

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Ok why do i manage to pick men who don't slap ass? I see this all the time in vids and i have to admit i'm a little jealous. I guess because i equate it when being incredibly excited. I've asked my husband of almost 10 years if he's ever had the urge to slap my ass and he said "Only when you're doing dishes"

I think it would pleasantly surprise the hell out of me if he did it. I suppose i'll have to settle with all the other great things he does and get over the fact that he isnt going to be slapping my ass!
 
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My girlfriend likes her ass slapped, neck squeezed and hair pulled....anything that is high intensity.
 

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it's probubly a good idea to ask before sex you know
just thinking
I sure like a girls ass tho
if she's hot
 

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Ok why do i manage to pick men who don't slap ass? I see this all the time in vids and i have to admit i'm a little jealous. I guess because i equate it when being incredibly excited. I've asked my husband of almost 10 years if he's ever had the urge to slap my ass and he said "Only when you're doing dishes"

I think it would pleasantly surprise the hell out of me if he did it. I suppose i'll have to settle with all the other great things he does and get over the fact that he isnt going to be slapping my ass!

you know, after being with him a decade I don't think you would be out of line to request an ass smacking
to be honest, it is a little selfish of you to want your fantacy of him just 'knowing' you out of the blue w/out you telling him to infringe on his ability to give you pleasure
and yes I know that is every womans fantacy but believe me you don't REALLY want it cus I often know women better then they know themselves and all it does is make you uncomfortable around a man anyway
so get it right the hell out of your mind, tell him you want that ass smacked and trust me he'll do it
 

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and yes I know that is every womans fantacy

1. it is not every woman's fantasy. my current girlfriend (we've been together about a year) loves being smacked on the ass and I love doing it, especially when she's on top (i too love giving her a little swat on the booty while she's doing dishes :tongue:) and she has even asked me to slap her face once or twice but I haven't found the balls to really give her a good one. However, i tried to give my last girlfriend a little swat on the ass while we were doing doggy style, and she looked back at me and said DON'T YOU DO THAT.

but believe me you don't REALLY want it cus I often know women better then they know themselves

2. Oh man, don't ever say you know a woman better than she knows herself. It's just arrogant to assume you know anyone better than they know themselves, and borders on misogynistic to say it about women.
 

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:lmao:


Seriously - just feel your way... If impatient (or unsure you can take a hint): Ask her what she likes!

It wasn't really impatience, I just need to work on listening skills. The first couple of times I got close to someone I missed my opportunity and they ended up cuddling with me, so I thought it would be funny to spank them with my dick.

I will do the asking thing next time I get a chance. Actually there was a time that went further for me and I didn't try to spank her with my dick at all. There was a lot more communication involved.

I just always thought it would be hotter to not say anything at all. If she just knows and I know and sex happens.
 

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Not just yes, But

HELL YES!!
During the hot heavy animal fucking, the ass slapping (the harder the better) hair yanking until my neck is pulled right back and hair is breaking in his hand and teeth and nails dragged over my shoulders and neck is just perfect, blissful torture in the heat of the moment and helps heightens my pleasure.
Mind you this is done with a discussion first and with a partner who is well versed in this kind of pleasure.
My pain thresholds are abnormally high and I happen to like more extreme forms of S&M.
Your best bet is to just ask the Lass during the act, spank her lightly in the heat of the moment and with a chuckle and a sensual voice ask her "do you like that Sweetheart?"
If it is a yes continue, if a NO then don't do it.
It's as simple as that.
Hope this helps,
Dragonfly.
 

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Like Jules in Pulp Fiction, who was the "foot-fuckin' MASTAH", I am the self-proclaimed: "ASS-SLAPPIN MASTAH"

dude if she is into it, have fun. Some chicks get it, but many don't.

Proceed with caution, but once the light turns green, be sure to give her what she wants
 

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My wife loves for me to spank her ass when she is riding reverse cowgirl. She also likes to let down her hair and have me pull it. Seems that she comes harder when I do that....

Freaky! That is why she is my wife! :biggrin1:
 

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i quite like it, but not repetitively - one of the hottest memories i have of my man is me on all fours giving him head in his car (from the side), him rubbing my pussy and ass from behind and suddenly this sharp slap across my rear ;) made me moan around his cock a treat. so yeah, i like it when it's maybe 2 or 3 sharp unexpected slaps in the heat of the moment, but the idea of actual repetitive spanking doesn't turn me on. you know like, spanking for the sake of spanking.
 

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Not just ass-slapping, I grab the flogger from the hook above the bed and lash her across the ass, the back, and the shoulder while doing her doggy-style (or as I call it, Discovery-Channel-style). It drives her wild and brings her to shaking, thrashing, quivering orgasms.

A previous lover had waist length hair, and I would wrap it around my wrist and forearm numerous times, so that I could pull her head back hard like reining in a horse as I was fucking her from behind.

Some girls love it; some hate it; some are indifferent.

But I would never do so without having discussed it first at some point and coming to an understanding about what was liked, wanted, desired, tolerated, and what was disliked, frowned upon, and verboten. But as a practitioner of BDSM I am used to having *lots* of communication beforehand about the yesses and nos of various activities.

You shouldn't be afraid to have the casual conversation "Hey, by the way, do you like to have your ass slapped?" Or even during sex, as things are getting hot panting "Wan' me to slap your ass?" You can avoid all the uncertainty and problems of misinterpreted and unfulfilled expectations just by having a conversation about what you and she like.