Sleeping Together

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Yes get to know someone first. Fall in love with their mind and heart and everything else will fall into place on its own.:smile:
Bullshit! I'm feeling cynical tonight.


With my husband now we both have our own blankets when we sleep.
How does that work exactly? :confused: It seems like the blankets would get all bunched up, plus how do you tuck them in?


Despite nasal surgery and faddish anti-snore treatments my wife snores loudly. Like a chainsaw. She's also a restless sleeper, tosses and turns, sighs frequently, gets up to use the restroom several times a night, etc. Has she tried having her uvula removed? I've heard that works for some people. I was diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnea a few years ago & sleeping with a CPAP has been my saving grace.
Exposure to all that was ruining my sleep and, thus, my health. Yup, that will happen. People don't realize just how important a good nights sleep is for them. As a result we haven't regularly slept in the same room together in 5 years and, yah, it does hurt the relationship. It makes it very difficult for us to travel together since we either have to purchase separate hotel rooms, or, I just don't get much sleep for the duration of the trip.

This is the largest hurdle my relationship suffers from and its a bad one. I'm sorry that sucks. :frown1: My cousin and her husband have slept in differnt rooms since about 6 months after they got married as well because he snores like a freight train. He does shift work and when he's on nights you can tell cause she gets real bitchy. :redface:

She has put on weight during that time. Its the one thing that she hasn't tried to "fix" to stop the snoring. And there's no way I can gently suggest she try dropping some pounds. In my experience women react violently to even the gentlest suggestion they try losing weight. You are wise beyond your years SpeedoGuy! I was hoping one of her doctors would suggest it. You need to speak to her doctors. They may have already told her to lose weight but she ignored them. Also there is a remote possibility that with her specific condition weight loss won't make a difference. :redface:
 

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I cannot sleep with another person.

I mean, sure, I can sleep in her company, meaning in my half of a large bed or in one of two smaller ones, but I can't sleep while holding her.

Not that I wouldn't like it, mind you, but I need to be able to move while I sleep.

Me and my GF usually hold each other until we're almost asleep, then part and each sleeps on his bed.
 

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Although I have never slept with anyone yet, I know in my heart that it would be very important for me that they are someone who loves to share a bed and sleep together close. I am a cuddler and love affection so having someone who loves to touch, cuddle and caress as we drift off to sleep is a must, and spooning is on the top of my list as it would be wonderful to have someone kiss and nuzzle my neck and the back of my ear as I drift off to sleep. It would make me relax and safe enough to let my guard down and drift off to la la land in peace.

WellHung says it perfectly. If the sleeping together part is really good then that person usually ends up being my lover. It's all about compatiblity. My g/f & I sleep very well together, and I find that I rest better when I'm in the same bed with her. Same for her. It's usually a deep satisfying kind of sleep. I guess we're in love! :biggrin1:
 

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Me and my BF have been together for almost 4 years and i use to be able to sleep in the same bed with him. Until we got a puppy, thats when i started sleeping on the couch with the puppy in fear that either one of us would roll over and squish him, he was only a pound when got him.. After a few months of this our puppy started wanting to sleep in the bed with my BF. I then move back in the bed room with him but found it hard to sleep in bed with him again. I roll around in my sleep alot (sometimes i would wake up unside down where my head is at his feet) but it was more difficult with our puppy in bed. So after a few days i just started sleeping on the couch in the living room and been doing so for the last 8 months. We are both fine with it since we get better sleep. Even when we go on vacation we make sure that we get doubles instead of a single king cause we sleep more comfortable separately. I get cold easily, he gets hot easily. I like alot of blankets he likes a single blanket... Yes i do miss cuddling with him but its difficult cause of our different comfort levels and our puppy kinda made it even more difficult. But i wouldnt change anything though.

BTW just got a kitten too.. lol
 

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It's pretty important for me - as is all physical contact. I'm a very intimate person, and can gain just as much pleasure actually sleeping with someone, as most people get by 'sleeping' with someone. :tongue:

I'm a huge fan of snuggling. If the temperature is high I will eventually find my way to my own side of the bed but I like to keep my hand somewhere on him: back side, thigh, etc.

I agree. I find it much easier to sleep laying on my front facing the edge of the bed, particularly if it's a hot night. If I choose to sleep like that with someone I love, such as how I'm in love you, I'll be sure to leave an arm behind me to holds hands, or place it on your waist. :wink:
 

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* sniff *

My BF almost never sleeps with me. He always went to sleep on the sofa with the TV on.

Is that good or bad?

Sounds bad to me.

I work on the computer (laptop), read and watch TV (with headphones), in bed, long after my wife is asleep in our bed, but she enjoys going to sleep next to me. The only thing that drives her away is when I snore after finally going to sleep. Sometimes my snoring isn't so bad but she says other times it's way to loud.