Sleeping with a girl without having sex...(question)

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so me and this girl have been friends for a while (not close) and recently I started flirting with her, she came over to watch a movie and stayed the night in bed with me, but i didnt have sex with her that night..... what do you (women) think if you sleep in bed with a guy all night and he doesnt try to have sex with you?

(note: i got head from her in the morning, but thats beside the point :p and we layed in bed talking all morning. she's coming over this weekend.)
 

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I'm glad you know how all women think.


To the OP: She might appreciate the fact you're taking things a bit slower or she could be wondering if you think something is wrong with her that you don't want to. My best advice is just to watch for cues and go with the flow of things.
 

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since she gave you head in the morning and she is coming over this weekend chances are more than probable she wants sex.
 

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Based on what you said, it wouldn't be suprising if she wants to have sex . . . but she might still just want to give head and talk, so don't push it if she says no. Just try to do what she wants, that's usually a good way to keep her happy :wink2:
 

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just go with it... don't pressure her because thats the worst thing you can do
take small steps. try something like rubbing the area below her belly button and try to make a move down to rub her pussy if she stops you then she obviously doesnt want to but if she does take it from there
and IMO just laying with a girl naked is awesome
 

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She has already givien you head!

Mannn, and you come up here to ask the question?

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as someone who's frequently been a "cuddle buddy" with no sex or head of any kind involved...if you fooled around in the morning, and she's coming back over, you're probably still good to go. :p
 
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She gave you oral sex and you're asking? She's just been sexual with you.

I have slept with a woman who reacted like she didn't want sex at that point in time, so we didn't. Later, another night, remembering what happened previously, I tentatively advanced on her and she accepted, and we did have sex. So it's just a case of going slowly: hugs, caressing and kissing, and testing her response.
 

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She gave you head and you gave her what?

I can't speak for that woman but that would piss me off! She lays there in bed with you all night, you do nothing. She sucks your cock in the morning, you cum (hopefully not in her mouth but I may be hoping in vain), you do nothing!! Damn - I'd be fucking steamed at you! She must really like you to be coming back.

Mind you - that is me putting my interpretation onto someone else's actions. She may be totally OK with that. I guess in that situation I would have made the first move - but then she did. She sucked your cock.

:dunno:
 

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She gave you head and you gave her what?

I can't speak for that woman but that would piss me off! She lays there in bed with you all night, you do nothing. She sucks your cock in the morning, you cum (hopefully not in her mouth but I may be hoping in vain), you do nothing!! Damn - I'd be fucking steamed at you! She must really like you to be coming back.

Mind you - that is me putting my interpretation onto someone else's actions. She may be totally OK with that. I guess in that situation I would have made the first move - but then she did. She sucked your cock.

:dunno:

It's more common than you might think for women to give head without expecting any sexual favors in return. I don't know why. Maybe they see the dinner I made them and the hours of cuddling I put up with as my reciprocation. :tongue:

OP: It sounds like sex is on the menu for you this weekend to me. I say go with Snakebyte's advice... go that direction and unless she stops you, you're doing the right thing.
 

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She gave you head and you gave her what?

I can't speak for that woman but that would piss me off! She lays there in bed with you all night, you do nothing. She sucks your cock in the morning, you cum (hopefully not in her mouth but I may be hoping in vain), you do nothing!! Damn - I'd be fucking steamed at you! She must really like you to be coming back.

Mind you - that is me putting my interpretation onto someone else's actions. She may be totally OK with that. I guess in that situation I would have made the first move - but then she did. She sucked your cock.

:dunno:
im nervous about havin sex with her, shes more experienced than me :/
 

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don't act nervous even if you are lol. chicks hate insecurity. i've lost a girlfriend over that