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All of the deceit, lies, dishonesty,and gaslighting involved with cheating , and the total disregard for the person they are supposed to love, is just seriously abusive behaviour. I never have and never will knowingly have sex with a married person. If someone is willing to do that to their partner, then they are not someone I want to know.
Why don't they either end the relationship or try honesty? Because they would just rather lie and feel smug about getting away with something. I hope anyone reading this comment and sleeping with someone who is already spoken for will at least spare a thought for the person who is being lied to. It isn't okay as long as they don't find out, because if their perception of reality wasn't being deliberately skewed then they would be free to make their own choices about their life and their body and their finances etc. For the person cheating, I think often a lot of it is about control rather than 'not wanting to upset anyone'.
Why don't they either end the relationship or try honesty? Because they would just rather lie and feel smug about getting away with something. I hope anyone reading this comment and sleeping with someone who is already spoken for will at least spare a thought for the person who is being lied to. It isn't okay as long as they don't find out, because if their perception of reality wasn't being deliberately skewed then they would be free to make their own choices about their life and their body and their finances etc. For the person cheating, I think often a lot of it is about control rather than 'not wanting to upset anyone'.