sleepsex or sexomnia?

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  1. andreaaa

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    Most of you know what I'm talking about.
    Wko doesn't can take a look at wikipedia: Sleep sex - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    My boyfriend and I we are having sex everyday; sometimes, during sleeping (even after having sex with him) I start touching his cock, sometimes I'm sucking on it too. The whole thing can last 2 minutes the longest. I sometimes give up before he becomes hard, but either he gets hard or not he is deffinately getting awake. Right after this, I turn over I I get back to my profound sleep while my bf has ussually problems getting back to sleep with his cock hard!..

    The day after I get to remember the facts only if my bf tells me about it; and sometimes not even when he tells me about it. Most often I'm in a state between sleep and awakening; I start sucking his cock while I'm still sleeping, and while doing it I slowly get sleepy and tired and get back to sleep..

    It never happened to me before this relationship; I have slept with several people before and never happened..

    Any of you have similar experiences to share?
    Does any of you have a personal (specialist) opinion about mt experience?
     
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    My wife and I went through a phase of sleep sex. I guess it was back in the early '90s when our son was a baby, and we were dog tired all the time. We'd fall asleep (usually after having sex) late at night, but then wake up an hour or so later to the realisation that we were at it again. I don't think we would often both be asleep, but one or the other would definitely be doing it in our sleep.

    She would always have my cock in her hand as she fell asleep, and fairly often (after she was asleep) I'd feel her fingers twitch. Then my cock would stir, and her fingers would squeeze my hard on and I'd feel her knee press my leg as she parted her thighs. It wouldn't be long before I'd climb over her leg and slip it into her. She'd wake up when the going became vigorous ;o) But there were also times when I'd wake up half way through the sex act :eek:)
     
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    You are very lucky to be in such good harmony with someone that it comes to you so naturally.

    It would be so different if one of you didn't want it! But both of you do enjoy it, you fortunate things.
     
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    I never knew it had a name. This happens to me more times then awake sex - honestly we would only have consious sex maybe 2-3 times a year. My partner and I have been together for over 11 years and there have been many times when I would wake up and we would be in the process of having sex such as him sucking me off or me jerking him off. I would honestly not know if I started it or not and I never wanted to insult him by asking if he started it. I know there were times that I would try to pretend to still be asleep hoping that it would stop. I would try to think if maybe I was having a sex dream and then I grabbed him because he was right there.
     
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    Your situation is more similar to my situation.
    In fact, I tend to see it as a problem, because I stop what I'm starting while sleeping, as soon as I realize what I'm doing.
    Is like during sleep, I would like to have sex; as I'm waking up I prefer to get back to sleep..
     
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    it's happened to me. my partner and i were both completely asleep through the whole thing. after we woke up the next morning we both thought it was a dream and had no idea who initiated it.
     
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    Damned I feel better. I thought me and my wife were the only ones to go through that.
     
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    I don't know if it's the same thing, but after a very boisterous episode I'll be awakened a couple of hours later with hubby rooting around again. Sometimes he's already initiated it, and all I can do is hold on for the rest. He isn't looking for anything reciprocal; more like "I'll let you know when I'm finished."

    Sometimes a pleasant way to wake up; sometimes not. It's holy hell if he's taken any kind of ED med. Then I'll just expect it.
     
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    Yes. My hubby is a sleepwalker. The last time it happened my hubby told me that he woke up and his tongue was on my clit so he just went with it. He's always a little bit rougher and more grabby with his hands when he's asleep and he always wakes up if we start having sex. He makes a lot more grunting sounds too. It's TheZombieSex.

    He also talks in his sleep and can carry on "conversations" but it really doesn't matter what you say to him. He either believes that you've said something else and he goes on with his dream conversation, or he'll look confused for a moment and then lie down again.
     
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    Incubus/succubus...wife and I both have a fair share of "sleeping sex" episodes. Sometimes we're both completely asleep and fully wake up mid sex act,and just enjoy the experience.
     
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    I'm still analizyng this issue: I'm starting to think it happens when I'm tired and when I hadn't had sex the evening before.. Anyone of you has similar ideas?
     
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    somnophilia, when consent has been established, is hot.
    so very, very hot.
     
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    My ex used to do it all the time. If it was really late and I wasn't in the mood I could usually discourage him, but occasionally I'd wake up to discover he'd already initiated, and I'd accepted. He often wouldn't wake up til halfway through :p
     
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