Slow and deep, or quick and shallow?

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I don't know per se if it's just me, but that's all during the entire session. Recently a woman started off wanting to give me a bj, so I had an erection for her. BJ's really don't do much for me anyway, so she sucked away until her jaw was sore. So from there, we moved on to missionary and eventually doggy style positions for penetrative sex. Even when I'm delivering oral, I'm erect, you never know when she'll make the demand that I do the penetrative portion of any session. I enjoy the penetrative moreso, much like you do, but if the woman feels inclined to demand she perform oral on me, I guess she's entitled to do so and I'll oblige until she's tired of it, who knows maybe she's that good. I'd also tell you that had I ejaculated from the oral before any penetration, penetration probably wouldn't happen. I probably need about 20 minutes to recycle before I can ejaculate anything again after the first and I'd definitely say the sperm count on subsequent ejaculations would be significantly lower if there was much at all. After the first ejaculation, I can maintain an erection for awhile, but it may be semi or even a forced erection. The 45 minute sessions, yeah, I'm holding back the ejaculation for the sake of a longer session. I figure my goal is to stay as long and hard as possible for her pleasure, I know I can get mine when I want to, anytime and at a moment's notice, even when she's called the two minute warning. Who knows maybe some of these sessions lasted way too long and we were both being overly generous and waiting for the other to get off. In that regard, in general, I perceive it takes women longer to climax than it does for a man to ejaculate, that's why I hold off on that, so that she gets hers and has no complaints in that regard.

Thank you for taking the time Chrysalis and Transformer...:wink:

I do ask because I do not get anything really from oral in me, or fingering or manual, plus I do confess that in the past even not bother to pleasure most of my ex parteners oraly..and only 2 I really crave to pleasure and it was good for them.

But as much I know routine is not agood thing and enjoy explore men's penis mostly to know every bit of it not to pleasure it to cum...be tactile as playing all the time but not so much taking long time and be all sore to acomplish it. Nah...I'm very impatient as to not like stay much in preliminaries and go for what I enjoy most and hopefuly he enjoy the same..when I'm satysfied than we can explore but still..if I'm aroused and horny I want penis inside ASAP.

Than my foreplay of preference would be 'brain' exchanges during the day by antecipate the encounter, foreplay as head approaching rubbing, kisses and hugs passionate and penetration.

Than if a man is much into oral it may be a 'problem' to me if he wants that and enjoy greatly that than penetration, because I get into it if I really crave his penis to do oral...and in a 100% I just really enjoy doing it in 2%...

But I'm learning...:smile:
 

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I like a slow groove an inch at a time. Sometime even teasing them with it,when they want more of it. Never really having all my dick inside till the very end. This drives my girlfriend crazy. She loves it.:wink:
 

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I like a slow groove an inch at a time. Sometime even teasing them with it,when they want more of it. Never really having all my dick inside till the very end. This drives my girlfriend crazy. She loves it.:wink:

See that is sort of what I like to do and do naturally. Maybe I've just been extremely lucky, but it seemed to drive most (definitely not all) crazy with me too. So much so, that they were practically begging for it, which is both mentally and especially physically satisfying for me. Interesting that I don't have nearly the size you have, but the results have been virturally the same.

I'd agree with Jeff Black, there is a definite satisfaction there with me also.
 

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I think every woman's vagina is different. I've heard over and over that "the inner walls are numb" and "only the first few inches are sensitive," but that's not true of me.

When I masturbate (which I guess would be the best indication of my "steady diet"), I generally use a glass dildo with an enlarged head, and fully penetrate past the cervix on every stroke. With my other hand, I rub my clit. I generally find that this combination brings on the quickest and best orgasms. I wouldn't characterize the speed as either slow or fast -- somewhere in between.

I've experimented with various speeds, angles, and depths of penetration, and full penetration is the best for me, hands down.

But one characteristic of my glass dildos is that they're slender. My favorite one only has a circumference of 3.75 inches. So there's a lot more opportunity for repeated deep strokes without the friction soreness I get from my husband's cock.

I do prefer to fuck in pretty much the same way, though. Deep, hard, long strokes at medium speed. It was funny, just the other day we had been fucking and I had a monster orgasm. Then TM said, "So, you like it slow." and I said, "Slow? I thought that was fast!"

So I guess we all have our own ideas of what "slow" and "fast" mean. :smile:

I do get sore easily, though, so we can't do that kind of stroking for more than about... 1/2 hour. If he or I still want more orgasms, we switch to oral sex or anal sex to give my vagina a break. It's just what works for us.

It's nice to hear this because of all you hear about the clit, the clit, the clit. I am like you cuz I have lots of sensation deep especially in the back near my cervix. My bf teases me cuz he says I nag him during sex, like if he does just 1 or 2 medium thrusts I beg him to go deeper. I know a lot of the women here say they like variety but I like every thrust really deep and that's the only thing that makes me orgasm cuz my cervical area is sensitive. I like variety in the speed though. He usually starts off slower and gets faster. When I get to where I'm about to orgasm I like it faster for sure.
 

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Even when I'm delivering oral, I'm erect, you never know when she'll make the demand that I do the penetrative portion of any session. I enjoy the penetrative moreso, much like you do, but if the woman feels inclined to demand she perform oral on me, I guess she's entitled to do so and I'll oblige until she's tired of it, who knows maybe she's that good. I'd also tell you that had I ejaculated from the oral before any penetration, penetration probably wouldn't happen. I probably need about 20 minutes to recycle before I can ejaculate anything again after the first and I'd definitely say the sperm count on subsequent ejaculations would be significantly lower if there was much at all. After the first ejaculation, I can maintain an erection for awhile, but it may be semi or even a forced erection. The 45 minute sessions, yeah, I'm holding back the ejaculation for the sake of a longer session. I figure my goal is to stay as long and hard as possible for her pleasure, I know I can get mine when I want to, anytime and at a moment's notice, even when she's called the two minute warning.

That's funny, my bf and me are sorta of the opposite. He really likes getting oral so I give it to him a lot but my favorite is penetration. I like when he stays hard longer too so when I give him oral he usually lets me know when to stop so he can stay hard a long time during sex.