Small Penis Making Me Asexual?

[deleted1025121]

I'm encountering something as a single, gay older male that I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

I'm finding that I'm so embarrassed by my smaller size (and really more my pencil dick thickness than length and that I have super small balls which even prevent me from wearing a cockring or those c-cup underwear where your balls are supposed to fall into the pouch which only happens if you have balls that hang) that I'm not engaging in any kind of dating or hookup or sexual activity. Thus I've lost my desire and I honestly feel like I've become asexual.

Has anyone ever felt this way? I'm not looking for penis enlargement or pumping advice. I've tried to no avail. I just dont know if its my age diminishing my libido compounded by the fact I dont like my body ...or if I'm truly becoming asexual with age and not interested in sex anymore.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

I m sorry to hear that you aren't liking your body. I know plenty about that...

Honestly what it sounds like is possible depression creeping in. I looked at your pics and there's nothing wrong with your dick size. It's not small or thin. Staying on sites like this however will make you have some terrible body dysmorphia. You get bombarded with pics of all these men with massive dicks and hard bodies and they get all the attention. It makes you want to shy away since "I can't compete".

It's much easier said than done but I think this is a case of needing to learn to love yourself. I personally saw a fine man in your album and see you have a lot of comments and likes/support that backs up my opinion.

It is possible that you are getting older and your testosterone levels are dropping which would lessen your desire and libido. Less testosterone also causes depression which could cause the issues I mentioned at first.

But it's also possible to just be totally content and celibate. I've heard from men that weight lifting causes them to feel better about themselves and even raises their libido. Perhaps that can help? Whatever the case I hope you can pull through. Be well.

 

[Sagittarius84]

I think not enough attention is given to men in general on this front. I definitely experience it to a much lesser degree as a married heterosexual man.
What doesn't get talked about enough is how being the object of attraction is a huge motivator of our libido, and that no amount of masturbation or self pleasure can stave off the aversion(or resentment) to sexual things from setting in when we are not recipients of this desire or attraction from others. I don't think OP is becoming a sexual, I think he's just starting to mirror the real or perceived sexual rejection that has piled up.
I'd like to offer solutions of the self help variety(working out/improving overall health are definitely universal beginning steps to make)...but even I only see those as stopgap measures unless they're reinforced by actual outside interest, which I almost guarantee would boost your libido....so I'm all ears for solutions too..lol

 

[spike117]

I agree with finding a solution to this problem

 

[Gj816]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Sometimes we as men get into a funk where we are stuck in a rut. Sometimes it's difficult to know where to start.

Might be a good idea to take stock in where we are in life. A visit to the Dr. could be a good start. It could be that your testosterone levels are low, which can have an effect on energy levels as well as libido. Hormones being off a little can have an impact on how we feel.

I can definitely relate to body issues. I also realize that we are sometimes our own worst critic.
After looking at your albums. I don't see you as you see you. You say you've got a pencil dick, but it doesn't look like that to me. I wish you good luck.

 

[superduper1111]

I suggest you get off this site and get therapy, this place is a breeding ground for body dysmorphia.
I have similar dimensions to you, and while the girth is less than ideal, you have to remember its in the 25th percentile, so literally 1 out of 4 men have the same size or thinner. And your length is longer than 50% of men, so 1 out of 2 half a shorter length. Overall, your penis VOLUME is right in the middle of the bell curve.

You're good enough. Trust me I understand the insecurity, but the problem is once you have that in your head, it becomes a confirmation bias. You'll spend all your time reading people praising girth, talking bad about pencil dicks, etc. You'll ignore the positive feedback, because your complex will be stuck on keeping itself around.

We don't have to be perfect to be great, dicks are not all-or-nothing. You can be a B student and graduate with a degree.

 

[artboyd]

I also, like the rest of the comments, think:
1. You have a great size
2. Have an awesome body
3. Believe its maybe some depression
4. You are being yourself your worst critic.

it happens to me as well. Some of us wish we were different and sometimes think we’re not good enough BUT, we are… and you are awesome!

 

[spike117]

I also, like the rest of the comments, think:
1. You have a great size
2. Have an awesome body
3. Believe its maybe some depression
4. You are being yourself your worst critic.

it happens to me as well. Some of us wish we were different and sometimes think we’re not good enough BUT, we are… and you are awesome!

I agree

 

[littlestiffy]

As others have said, you don't seem small. Erect you're over 6. maybe 6.5. That's bigger than me, unless I'm really pressing it to the bone. I've just started some PE (i've got both concerns about safety and massive doubt about getting positive results, but I figure why not try in this socially distant world. I'm not dating, so... Anyway, maybe I'm just being more precise, but I'm maybe not as thin as I thought -- at least if the data online is meaningful. I'll say that I'm thinner than almost any dude I've hooked up with, but that's more about seeking out bigger guys to begin with. My fetish, not a fair slice of humanity. Your dick doesn't look thinner than mine, so maybe you're not giving yourself enough credit or a fair measure. You do look like you haven't spent much if any time in a gym. If you want to transform yourself, that seems a more promising route. I'm a bit of a mesomorph and respond quickly to workouts, but anyone can change their shape and you're thin, so you've got a good starting point. Losing weight is the hardest thing. That said, libido fades. And porn probably isn't helping any of us. Requires ever more extreme stimuli to achieve the same results. Confidence surely plays a role, but the COVID downtime isn't helping any of us...

 

[spike117]

As others have said, you don't seem small. Erect you're over 6. maybe 6.5. That's bigger than me, unless I'm really pressing it to the bone. I've just started some PE (i've got both concerns about safety and massive doubt about getting positive results, but I figure why not try in this socially distant world. I'm not dating, so... Anyway, maybe I'm just being more precise, but I'm maybe not as thin as I thought -- at least if the data online is meaningful. I'll say that I'm thinner than almost any dude I've hooked up with, but that's more about seeking out bigger guys to begin with. My fetish, not a fair slice of humanity. Your dick doesn't look thinner than mine, so maybe you're not giving yourself enough credit or a fair measure. You do look like you haven't spent much if any time in a gym. If you want to transform yourself, that seems a more promising route. I'm a bit of a mesomorph and respond quickly to workouts, but anyone can change their shape and you're thin, so you've got a good starting point. Losing weight is the hardest thing. That said, libido fades. And porn probably isn't helping any of us. Requires ever more extreme stimuli to achieve the same results. Confidence surely plays a role, but the COVID downtime isn't helping any of us...

Yes definitely

 

[deleted1025121]

As others have said, you don't seem small. Erect you're over 6. maybe 6.5. That's bigger than me, unless I'm really pressing it to the bone. I've just started some PE (i've got both concerns about safety and massive doubt about getting positive results, but I figure why not try in this socially distant world. I'm not dating, so... Anyway, maybe I'm just being more precise, but I'm maybe not as thin as I thought -- at least if the data online is meaningful. I'll say that I'm thinner than almost any dude I've hooked up with, but that's more about seeking out bigger guys to begin with. My fetish, not a fair slice of humanity. Your dick doesn't look thinner than mine, so maybe you're not giving yourself enough credit or a fair measure. You do look like you haven't spent much if any time in a gym. If you want to transform yourself, that seems a more promising route. I'm a bit of a mesomorph and respond quickly to workouts, but anyone can change their shape and you're thin, so you've got a good starting point. Losing weight is the hardest thing. That said, libido fades. And porn probably isn't helping any of us. Requires ever more extreme stimuli to achieve the same results. Confidence surely plays a role, but the COVID downtime isn't helping any of us...

You're right....I dont spend any time in the gym. Even in my 20s and 30s when I did I saw little results. I'm thinner or what you call skinny fat. So I never built muscle definition. All that happened was toning. So that made me upset and I ended up stop going and just hiked a lot. Now I just turned 50 and live in a place where there really arent many opporutnities for easy quick hikes. And on top of that I have Crohns Disease which makes things worse. So no...I've never put much weight in my physique. And these pics are just pics. They make you look bigger than you are in real life. I have a very thin cock. Maybe 4.25" which is skinny. My dick is shrinking too. In my youth I topped at 6.25. But for some reason I'm a hair below 6 now. I wouldn't doubt some of it is depression or the lack of confidence. Most of that is trying to date and find a significant other for what...25 years now with no luck? And now that I'm 50 the libido is just gone.

Thanks for your advice though. I do appreciate it.

 

[Ito]

I'm encountering something as a single, gay older male that I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

I'm finding that I'm so embarrassed by my smaller size (and really more my pencil dick thickness than length and that I have super small balls which even prevent me from wearing a cockring or those c-cup underwear where your balls are supposed to fall into the pouch which only happens if you have balls that hang) that I'm not engaging in any kind of dating or hookup or sexual activity. Thus I've lost my desire and I honestly feel like I've become asexual.

Has anyone ever felt this way? I'm not looking for penis enlargement or pumping advice. I've tried to no avail. I just dont know if its my age diminishing my libido compounded by the fact I dont like my body ...or if I'm truly becoming asexual with age and not interested in sex anymore.

I feel the exact see way as you do and I could have written the exact same post with the only difference of being straight.

 

[VIIby5]

I'm encountering something as a single, gay older male that I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

I'm finding that I'm so embarrassed by my smaller size (and really more my pencil dick thickness than length and that I have super small balls which even prevent me from wearing a cockring or those c-cup underwear where your balls are supposed to fall into the pouch which only happens if you have balls that hang) that I'm not engaging in any kind of dating or hookup or sexual activity. Thus I've lost my desire and I honestly feel like I've become asexual.

Has anyone ever felt this way? I'm not looking for penis enlargement or pumping advice. I've tried to no avail. I just dont know if its my age diminishing my libido compounded by the fact I dont like my body ...or if I'm truly becoming asexual with age and not interested in sex anymore.

Your not alone thinking this way but I don't think your as bad off as you think you are.

Im Straight and married but have many of the same size anxiety issues. My libido is either hot or cold depending on how inadequate im feeling that day. Small nuts also but my package is shorter than yours. I would be thrilled if I was 6.5" NBP like yours. Sounds crazy but sometimes I wish I had zero sex drive hoping then that my size anxiety would go away. This place helps at times but it also often does the opposite making me feel even more inadequate.

One thing im thankful of is being married. There is no way I could face any dating scene with women's expectations nowadays.

 

[deleted1025121]

Your not alone thinking this way but I don't think your as bad off as you think you are.

Im Straight and married but have many of the same size anxiety issues. My libido is either hot or cold depending on how inadequate im feeling that day. Small nuts also but my package is shorter than yours. I would be thrilled if I was 6.5" NBP like yours. Sounds crazy but sometimes I wish I had zero sex drive hoping then that my size anxiety would go away. This place helps at times but it also often does the opposite making me feel even more inadequate.

One thing im thankful of is being married. There is no way I could face any dating scene with women's expectations nowadays.

Your pics look pretty good to me and you dont look small at all. I'm only 6x4.25 on a good day and I'm quite thin. You have girth at least according to your pics.
But yea...you're married so at least you dont really have to worry about comparing to others or impressing someone in bed. Even with low libido, you have someone there that wont judge you on your size.

 

[deleted15378851]

That makes me sad. First of all, you are decidedly average, not small.
I am fairly hung my myself (just over 8” and 6.4” around) and even though size isn’t important to me, I definitely prefer smaller or just average and small penis humiliation is definitely not my thing.
I am hardly alone in this. Your diminishing sex drive is psychological, it has nothing to do with your dick.

And I will add that one of my huge turn ons is seeing guys with small dicks confidently showing it off around other men. That is extremely manly for me. Boys are always insecure and shy at some point. You are a man, own it.

 

[deleted1025121]

That makes me sad. First of all, you are decidedly average, not small.
I am fairly hung my myself (just over 8” and 6.4” around) and even though size isn’t important to me, I definitely prefer smaller or just average and small penis humiliation is definitely not my thing.
I am hardly alone in this. Your diminishing sex drive is psychological, it has nothing to do with your dick.

And I will add that one of my huge turn ons is seeing guys with small dicks confidently showing it off around other men. That is extremely manly for me. Boys are always insecure and shy at some point. You are a man, own it.

My dick is thin so that avg 6" make it even smaller and I have small balls that are constantly sucked up in me. So I would qualify myself as below average. But regardless, thanks for your words and insight. You might be right. There could be a psychological component but I'm still going to see my urologist and see if there is anything he can do with my below avg (yet within range) testosterone. But really..I have to force myself to just jack off. Never used to be that way.

 

[PennyLou]

I’m sorry for your troubles. I’ve had similar concerns that as I age and lose some of my youthful good looks/fall out of shape I’ll find fewer folks that look past my subpar penis because I’m good in bed and my looks carry me the rest of the way.

I’ve found what helps is focusing on the number of sexual encounters I’ve had without any mention of my small member. Out of the couple dozen hookups I’ve had only one of them mentioned something, and even he wasn’t directly criticizing me. He told me after that he was “so tired of being disappointed when he sees his partner’s package”, and that “for once he wishes he could pull a dude’s cock out and be satisfied with the size”. Granted, this guy had a coke can cock that would literally tear the edges of my lips any time I sucked it, so I guess it’s a blessing and a curse. Who knows. Anyway, hope this helps!

 

[deleted1025121]

I mean ultimately it doesn't matter I guess. I'm older and definitely not as sexually active. But the weird thing is there are a lot of younger guys that like older men like myself...but they expect us to have huge horse cocks. Like just cause we're older we're supposed to be big. But that just inhibits me more. I've just pulled away from sexual experiences altogether. That solves the problem. haha

 

[nhguy78]

Hey, just seeing this i think.

What would happen if someone you met couldn't get enough of you? Would you enjoy the sex? Would you have sex regardless of sexual attraction?

 

[deleted1025121]

Hey, just seeing this i think.

What would happen if someone you met couldn't get enough of you? Would you enjoy the sex? Would you have sex regardless of sexual attraction?

Couldn't get enough of me? I wouldn't know. That has never happened before. All my sexual experiences in life have been hookups or brief dating experiences that lasted 2-3 dates.