So a Gay Guy Doesn't Take No For an Answer?

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  1. playainda336

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    I hope nobody takes some kind of sarcastic/elitist approach to answer this cause it's really not that serious. I just don't understand. Of course off line, I don't get hit on by gay people. They look and that's the end of it.

    ...Online, not so much. I get hit on by gay people from nude websites...expected right? Not the issue.

    Well, I'm on the Facebook and guys (nobody on here, of course...lol) keep messaging me and hitting on me. Of course on Facebook, I have no naked pictures. Hell, I don't even have any shirtless pictures. But I guess, I'm hot enough to turn someone one without it or something? (Whatever, I could care less) I tell them, "No." and they keep coming back over and over and over. The same guys.

    And I keep having to tell them "No.", "I don't appreciate what you're doing.", etc.

    I feel like I'm trying to be respectful instead of regressing to explicatives and derrogatory terms. I'll more than likely just block them as time goes on. To be honest, I don't even know how they saw my page to begin with.

    But I guess, my question is...aside from the fact that gay men are men first, and thus persistant....why would a gay person be SO persistant about pulling a straight guy? Is this a type of fetish or something?
     
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    Don't know, I seem to mostly get hit on by straight guys, do you consider that a fetish?
     
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    I think those straight guys might not be so straight :)

    lol
     
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    It's one of many mysteries as for example...
    why would a straight guy be SO persistant having sex with a lesbian?
     
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    How about, why are straight guys SO persistent about hitting on women that are obviously taken?
     
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    So it's nothing more than the fact that they're "men" is what you're saying.

    So the only way to get them off my back is to be an asshole? I'm looking for alternatives to that, but if that's the only way...
     
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    Maybe people that persist in hitting when told not interested are themselves assholes.
     
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    Good point.
     
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    Persistently pursuing a nail, without regard to availability, self-proclaimed sexual oreintation, or even whether or not their advances are initially well-received? Yeah, that's just cuz they're men.

    The fact that they're gay only factors in as far as that they're effectively cyber-humping your leg instead of some chicas.

    About them not being able to take a hint? That's not so much on account of them being men, or gay, or gay men. It's cuz they're desperate.

    Block'm, dude. That's what that feature was invented for.
     
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    I'm glad you know no one from here is hitting on you on facebook. LOL

    Blocking seems to be the best solution, I dunno why the same group is after you....maybe they are desperate?
     
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    Maybe a lot of men do not respect each other to know when No means "Leave me alone--I'm not interested!" Using myself as an example, when I was younger coming out I fell in love with a lot of straight guys because I didn't know any better. I also didn't know that you have to be selective in who you are attracted to. You can't just fall in love with every guy that comes your way. Every guy you see is not yours to have.

    Well, you must look really good to get gay men's attention. You will have to just tell these guys "No, no, no, no, and the infinite NO." Then, you block them. You may have to pull your pics or make them so unappealing like put some women in there with you. (A lot of women. :smile: )

    There are a lot of "gay for pay" theme oriented sites that feature "Straight" men having sex with men and on occasion with women. Maybe they think that "straight men" are better than using gay men. I personally do not involve myself sexually with straight guys even if they are attractive. (Note: Even though there are straight guys I know who I am attractive to but I know that they're straight. I respect that.) Why be attracted to someone who isn't attracted to you? Save your energies for people who can appreciate your love.
     
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    I've always wondered about that. Once I find out a hot guy is gay I back off. Sometimes we become friends, but JUST friends nothing else.
     
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    1) Why wait block them now! Avoid future aggravation.

    2) I am acquainted with a very attractive gay man and he is known for hitting on straight men. He also enjoys breaking up or causing friction between gay couples. Is this a gay thing? No, he's just an asshole.

     
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    I have never wanted to have sex with a lesbian. Why on earth would you. I have however had a relationship with a bi-sexual, but of course I was having sex with her str8 side, she had sex with women for her lesbian side. It's not that complicated.

    I don't blame Gay guys for hitting on str8 guys, especially if they are horny :wink: , because many str8 guys as stated above are not exactly 100% str8, if any of us are at all, and the gay guys clearly have experience of "str8" guys coming on to them - so why not chance your arm - but if you don't take a polite No Thank You, then you are a sex pest like any str8 guy pestering women who are not interested.
     
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    This is an accurate flow of logic. Some men are just thick headed asses. Orientation notwithstanding.
     
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    LOL...Of course not!
    Well, it's not as many people as I might make it seem. LOL.

    Out of my...what...800 Facebook friends(?), it's less than 20. Most of them take no and go on with their lives. But this one guy lately keeps sending messages. Yeah...he's so blocked right now.
    Well, to be honest I dunno what is "sexy" and what is "not"...but my most recent pics had the guy saying "hot new pix"...and I took them with the girl of my interest. Like a lot of them. Like so many that my friends on campus sent me messages asking if we were an item.

    *shakes head* lol
    That's how I feel.

    Most of those sites though I'm not too sure if the guy was straight in the first place though. Porn is soooo scripted. Besides, they wouldn't be able to put the video up (legally) unless they consented.

    I don't know why they a gay person would think that sex with a straight guy would be any better than with a gay person though. Their both men. Find one that likes you, right?

    Thanks for all the replies, though.
     
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    It may have been said but what about the fact that "straight men" are (stereotype alert!!) rugged and "manly"?

    Perhaps the gay man sees this masculinity and strives to have some of it, whether he find it attractive or whatever. I will agree that guys are guys and when they are attracted to something, not all of them are able to be classy and take no for an answer.

    In the past, Playainda336, I have just politely told people "thank you for the compliment but I am not interested." If they respond to that or try again, I just smile and say, " no thanks". Should they continue to bother me, I put them on ignore or just stop talking to them.
     
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    EXACTLY! what I was going to say, Lex, but you said it so much better and with lots less words than I wouldve had to use, as I tend to drift when trying to explain what I mean while writing my response, they get sometimes wordy!!:biggrin1:

    But yes, it has nothing to do with sexual orientation whatsoever- it has to do with the asshole factor of the ones who won't accept polite rejection.

    Also, whats facebook??:confused:
     
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    I know all gay people aren't like that. I have friends from High School who came out and they don't act like that at all. Only time they approach a "straight" dude is if he's been dropping hints.

    It's just a few bad apples making the whole bunch look bad online, though.

    And Facebook is a college website. Well...it USED to be. LOL. Anyone can join, but it's definitely geared towards College Students.
     
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    I've got propositions from gay guys on dating sites after I was specific that I only wanted women. I always send them a nasty message back.
     
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