transformer_99 said:
So what's the beef, I don't assume that anyone's post is all encompassing to thier total opinion on any subject, I don't crucify anyone for that. So what would being psychic have to do with that ? Just know that it's a brief response there's much more to read between what is posted and thought.
:tongue: If you think you're being "crucified", you should read through a lot more of the old threads to gain some perspective.
The point is people are going to read your posts and assume it reflects how you feel on a topic. Duh. To complain that someone read your posts and questioned you about them without considering the fact that you might have other thoughts on the subject is weak. You've also posted repeatedly in this thread, not just one "brief" response, so you've had several opportunities to alter/expand on your earlier posts. Like I said, what you choose to post is what people will respond to - that's basically the way online message board dialogue happens.
transformer_99 said:
"The supposed definition is any woman dating/seeing/screwing any man 7+ years her junior, particularly if she has an ongoing preference in that regard."
This would be a summarized definition, it leaves out many of the important concepts and traits that the actual definition lists. When your definition becomes the hard and fast accepted overall definition of the concept, I will give you your point on the argument.
Where is this "actual definition" of which you speak? The urbandictionary.com one? Yeah, a site that allows any one to submit their own interpretation of words/phrases (one qualification listed there is that all cougars have to wear pink nail polish :tongue
; I hope you aren't using
that as a source. As I mentioned, this topic was discussed before you joined the boards here. Maybe you should check out this ABC News link interviewing the woman who first brought the term to the public eye when her book on the "phenomenon" was published...
"May 5, 2005 -- What do Samantha on "Sex and the City," and Gabrielle on "Desperate Housewives" have in common? Sex and relationships columnist Valerie Gibson would call them
"cougars" women who date men more than eight years their junior and they're part of a trend that's coming off the screen and out of the bedroom."
http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/Health/story?id=731599&page=1
That definition is purely mathetmatical. I am 31, so if I date a guy 23 or younger, I am a cougar. If mercurialbliss is with a guy nine years younger, she's a cougar. It does not break women into age groups
or cast aspersions on them, which is a lot less subjective than the definition(s) you seem to favor.
transformer_99 said:
By your definition, a 38 year old and a 30-31 year old indicate a cougar on the prowl. I'm on record as indicating as 36 &/vs 27 year old relationship may not even be a cougar situation. Your definition clearly puts mercurialbliss as a cougar, the real definition doesn't.
No, but according to the definition provided by the woman who wrote the book that brought it all to light, it does. :smile:
transformer_99 said:
"Meaning a 38 year-old man with a 24 year-old woman? Ummm, right, which is why someone had to come up with a new label to apply to women who go for younger guys (cougars), whereas when the roles are reversed and it's an older man going for a younger woman, he is referred to as... a man (if anyone even notices)."
You and any other female that feels inequity and injustices are free to coin a term for males that do similar. I'm sure they already exist, males may be unaware of them, maybe they haven't caught on. But in that regard, trust me, there are just as many guys that think it's interesting to say the least when they see it happening whether it be older male-younger female or vice versa.
Yeah, I am sure there are lots of guys who think it's "interesting" when Sean Connery is paired up with Catherine Zeta-Jones as a love interest in a movie.
There's a difference between thinking it's interesting (or being envious of it) when it's older man-younger woman and questioning it in a different way when the gender roles are reversed.
transformer_99 said:
Every cougar an "old bag" ? According to the definition wouldn't you say that's implied ?
According to the definition that was first used to break this story, I for sure would not say that's implied.
transformer_99 said:
That's odd, you quote me, yet "old bag" is clearly within quotation marks after calling me out on not doing so.
Ummmmmmm, no, scroll back to your post. It's not.
transformer_99 said:
Any of the terms I use weren't of my making, I did choose them to post, interpret them as points of references for a varied audience, but hardly something I manufactured as a definition.
No, but your choice to write "sugar daddy" (quotes) vs. old bag (no quotes) in the same sentence
implies you're denoting the first as a term used by the larger society while the second is your own personal interpretation. My reason for even calling you out on this to begin with is that there is still clearly a double standard about this, no matter how in vogue cougars may be at the moment. Maybe that's not how you meant it, but, again, people are going to respond to what you choose to post... not what you also/in addition to/if asked on another day might say on the topic. :smile: