I just wanted to have a bit of a rant really, so please bear with me. I am part of this group of 'friends', 9 of us. Men and women. There is myself and mrs_average, a guy 'A' and his girlfriend, 'A's brother 'B' and his boyfriend, two guys and a girl. Now we have been friends for about 6 years and used to do most things together, and hang around together constantly. It just seems that lately I've been kinda phased out. I didnt do anything in particular to offend anybody, or piss anybody off. Now, it has always been the case that the friendships seem to more one sided. By that I mean it seems that i have done most of the running and fetching with these people. I used to call into their houses a couple times a week and go to their house drinking on the weekend etc. Im the kind of person who will do anything for their friends, and they know that and take advantage of it regularly.
For example, last year 'A's girlfriend was 21. He didnt know what to get her for her birthday present. So i brought him shopping to the nearest big town. I had to ask all the jewellers the questions. I decided he should get her a chain with a pendant with her birthstone on it, because he said he hadnt a clue. Thats fine. I picked out a pendant and we went to the banklink to get money. He came back and said he had no money in the bank so i gave him the money to get the present for his girlfriend. He gave the money back which was grand. I then told him he should get her some flowers for her party. He goes ' i dont know anything about flowers' so I got a glass vase and arranged some flowers in it and wrapped it up for him to give to her, saving him half the money the bouquet would have cost him. Not as much as a thank you did i get. I basically did everything for him for the birthday, for which he showed no gratitude at all.
So i decided to pull back a bit. To see would they contact me if i didnt make the first move. Its been about 2 months now and the answer is basically no. I dont get texts, i dont get phonecalls, I didnt even get a happy birthday this year!!!!!!!! So I guess my question is....are they friends? Should i be upset? should i just let them go? am i right to be mad with them? I just dont know.
For example, last year 'A's girlfriend was 21. He didnt know what to get her for her birthday present. So i brought him shopping to the nearest big town. I had to ask all the jewellers the questions. I decided he should get her a chain with a pendant with her birthstone on it, because he said he hadnt a clue. Thats fine. I picked out a pendant and we went to the banklink to get money. He came back and said he had no money in the bank so i gave him the money to get the present for his girlfriend. He gave the money back which was grand. I then told him he should get her some flowers for her party. He goes ' i dont know anything about flowers' so I got a glass vase and arranged some flowers in it and wrapped it up for him to give to her, saving him half the money the bouquet would have cost him. Not as much as a thank you did i get. I basically did everything for him for the birthday, for which he showed no gratitude at all.
So i decided to pull back a bit. To see would they contact me if i didnt make the first move. Its been about 2 months now and the answer is basically no. I dont get texts, i dont get phonecalls, I didnt even get a happy birthday this year!!!!!!!! So I guess my question is....are they friends? Should i be upset? should i just let them go? am i right to be mad with them? I just dont know.