So Frustrated!

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by namel, Mar 1, 2008.

  1. namel

    namel New Member

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    I've been with my girlfriend for years. The sex has never been great. She's just way too proper and shy. She doesn't want it 99% of the time. There have been times when we haven't had sex for a month or longer. Then when we do it is just a few minutes and she's done. I'm sooo horny all the time! It's one of the most important things to me! It's ok when it's every day or every few days at the least. But I just can't focus well on anything else unless the sex is taken care of. Honestly I don't compare to other guys and don't really consider myself big. I mean I look at it every day and it hasn't jumped out at me like, "whoa, whered that thing hide?" But everyone tells me I'm big. 9" long, 7.5 girth. Lately I just feel like I'm wasting my time. If that is so big and I'm soo fucking horny all the time and its so important to me. What the hell am I doing not getting laid? It's like a waste of life. Waste of big dick. I'm just frustrated and need to vent and see if anyone is in the same ball park.
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    OK - for a start 9x7.5 is fairly fucking huge in most peoples' books - so either you have never seen another penis or you only watch monster cock porn (or the very remote change you are telling porkie pies, but we'll ignore that possibility for now).

    Maybe you and your girlfriend are incompatible. Maybe you can sort it out. You give no indication whether you have talked to her about it. Likewise you give no indication if there is a known reason for her lack of interest (previous abuse, pain from intercourse due to size issues, other emotional factors). You don't even say if you love her (despite being together 'years') or if you think / know she loves you.

    It's very hard to suggest anything with so many unknowns. I know you're not alone in being frustrated in an apparently sexually mismatched relationship - there are several previous topics if you care to havea browse with the search function. Really the only thing I can suggest is you talk to her. Explain it as gently as you can and don't bandy about any silly ultimata like 'our sex life needs to improve or I'm outa here' because that just puts unnecessary pressure on her, and yourself ultimately.
     
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    I think I know what you mean when you say you don't feel big. It's not like you've ever been smaller, right? But whatever, apparently you aren't a match and you should find someone to have a fullfilling sexual relationship with. I'm not going to tell you how to do that, like you should leave the current or take some path. Just do what feels good man. There will be a moment one day when you realize the majority of all the views you have held are null and void
     
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    either fish or cut bait
    meaning work it out or break up.
     
  5. Principessa

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    If he hasn't done it by now, he never will. He needs to leave and tell her why, You give no indication whether you have talked to her about it. Likewise you give no indication if there is a known reason for her lack of interest (previous abuse, pain from intercourse due to size issues, other emotional factors). You don't even say if you love her (despite being together 'years') or if you think / know she loves you. Sounds to me like they are both in a comfortable rut.

    It's very hard to suggest anything with so many unknowns. I know you're not alone in being frustrated in an apparently sexually mismatched relationship - there are several previous topics if you care to havea browse with the search function. Really the only thing I can suggest is you talk to her. Explain it as gently as you can and don't bandy about any silly ultimata like 'our sex life needs to improve or I'm outa here' because that just puts unnecessary pressure on her, and yourself ultimately.[/quote] Well said! Ultimatums are always a no-no.
     
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