So how do you know if you’re a sex addicted or not?

[sgtrock]

This past weekend seemed like a normal one to me; I mean Friday was like any other Friday in the gym at 5:00AM. Home by 6 or 6:30, on this site getting off before taking a shower and starting my day and then again maybe before noon. Picked up my date for Friday night from her work and fooled around with her at her apartment before we showered together and got dressed. We went out for dinner and a movie and then home for some wine and to fuck our brains out again and then off to sleep.

As I got up in the morning before running (about 4:30AM) went down on her and then made love to her from behind as I propped her up on some pillows with that beautiful ass in the air. No, no anal just rear entry love a nice butt.

Anyway came home made her breakfast, she got dressed and I dropped her off at her place.

Came home did some house cleaning and went on line and got off on pornhub then got dressed and went to the grocery.

Saturday night about 5:30 had another woman I am seeing over for dinner and then movie on the sofa with some wine and lots of heated making out before eating her out and then doing her on the sofa. She got up to go the shower to rinse off before leaving and I guess my guest from last night had left her panties on the towel rack to dry or whatever – anyway this started a heated conversation.

“What are you some kind of sex addicted”?...shit I had never thought about it before. I mean I have been around a while and I just like sex what can I say. She asked me how many times a week I thought I got off and I said by myself or with someone. She about freaked out saying she never plays with herself anymore.

Well Sunday morning while I was having my first cup of coffee and waiting on the paper boy I tried to think about it – was I a sex addict? I mean I freely admit to playing with myself with little or no provocation and I tried to have sex at least every other day if possible that’s kind of why I have stayed single so I could see a couple of different people instead of just one (I know I can already hear the woman call me a sleaze bag but at least I am honest and I always tell my partners there is no exclusivity). As for porn its alright but not my favorite way to get off although I do like real people that’s why I like this site especially the video chat room.

I am a avid exhibitionist and nudist and I am clean shaven so I do like to show off when appropriate and this can cause quite a turn-on as well but am I addicted?

Do I love sex – YES! Do I love woman’s body – YES! Do I like my own solo performance – YES with an audience makes it better but I am a functioning person in society. I am active in my community, work-out religiously six days a week, coach track and work at my own business too. Not addicted to any drugs although I like a good glass of wine and I always love good food.

…am I a sex addict? Maybe in some peoples eyes but not mine I just think I am normal.

 

[sandiasky9]

Testing developed so far has a long way to go in classifying correctly whether or not someone is a sex addict.
So far the text books say to look at privates. If there is a penis there then the person is a sex addict. If there is not a penis there then it is unknown whether person is a sex addict or not.

 

[D_Pomeroy Pokingstick]

Doesn't sound like a problem of sex addiction to me, rather a high sex drive. But if the need to get off is a distraction, affecting your work, school, professional life etc you might have a issue. I'm no expert, but that's the type of thing I've heard Drew Pinsky say.

If your being straight up with those women your with I can't see why anyone would call you a sleeze bag

 

[nedly32]

I think your just a good healthy male thats just not ready to settel down yet. If sex starts to become a all for you and put you or others, job,ect in harm ways then that then is a addiction

 

[earllogjam]

Sexual Addiction? Hey, it's better than being addicted to watching TV, and it's way more pleasurable.

 

[rbkwp]

by the amount of succesful orgasms achieved, i imagine...
and or if the partner is satisfied..assuming we are not talking solo.
ENJOY & WELCOME to a sex addicted club.
( i am not a member btw)
enz

have to admit i got a bit worried when you mentioned .. waiting for the paper ...y

 

[D_Dietrich Dipper]

I've come to ask myself the same thing

 

[JO_Bud]

I don't think you're a sex addict. I think you're just a normal, horny guy that has good game and can get laid alot. More power to you! And if you jerk off a few times a day, so what. Ain't nothing wrong with playing with your dick. That's what we have 'em for! So don't worry... you're not an addict. You're just a guy. Women don't get it, but that's what we do.

 

[coolhungluke]

I know I am a sex addict... so I cope with the disorder by spending time with other sex addicts… including my GF.

 

[Charles Finn]

no your healthy
i am a sex addict

 

[RawDog]

Sex addiction, any addiction for that matter, is any vice that interferes with your day to day life responsibilities. Furthermore, it is also an addiction if life seems almost unbearable if you don't get your fix.

There's a thin line between obsession, addiction, and passion.

I consider it my passion, but if I didn't already change my life to revolve around this obsession (no kids and my weekends pretty much involve as much inside time with my wife as possible), I would consider myself an addict.

 

[green carnation]

How old are you?
And do you ever feel fulfilled after sex?

 

[Drifterwood]

I think sex addiction is a bullshit US invention to excuse celebs caught with their pants down and somehow to exonerate them and make them the victim. Otherwise, I am who I am and from time to time I like to fuck anything that moves. Sex addiction is some people's sexuality out of the cosy US prude box.

 

[B_subgirrl]

As others have said, it only becomes an 'addiction' if your life and responsibilities are significantly disrupted because of it.

And you said you were only having sex every other day? Definitely not addiction material.

As long as you are honest with your partners I don't see any problem with what you're doing.

 

[maxcok]

I've come to ask myself the same thing

I don't think you can be a sex addict if you're a virgin: What's a Vagina Like

 

[B_subgirrl]

As others have said, it only becomes an 'addiction' if your life and responsibilities are significantly disrupted because of it.

And you said you were only having sex every other day? Definitely not addiction material.

As long as you are honest with your partners I don't see any problem with what you're doing.

To expand on this, the DSM IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders IV) doesn't even have 'sexual addiction' listed, but these are the proposed changes for the DSM V (from what you've said here, you don't fit the criteria):


Proposed Revision | APA DSM-5

 

[helgaleena]

A sex addict would spend all their energy and thinking on sex and be very anxious if they could not orgasm until they were exhausted. You on the other hand have plenty of energy left over for the rest of your life and get quite a lot of work done, spread enjoyment to your partners, and it sounds like without sex you'd be positively UNWELL.

For you it is not an addiction, it's a part of your balanced life. And the problem with that girl is that like the rest of us she simply isn't blessed with your extremely good and vital level of health. Add to that she is probably shocked that you can satisfy more than one partner. Perhaps she didn't know you had more than one girl and is trying to guilt-trip you into being all hers. That won't ever work for someone like you because you have this very high energy level, not only for sex but for all of living.

I on the other hand have always had a greatly fluctuating level of vitality overall, so much so that there are times that I cannot function at all except to crawl out of bed to the can and back. This is very frustrating and my lovers let me be as I am, in exchange for which I let them be as they are. There are two males in my life at this time and one is blessed with similar vitality to yours. He rarely sleeps more than four hours and he has many women he enjoys all around the world. I am just on his list. The other has a more usual sex drive and sleeps with me the standard eight hours, those times when he visits for companionship as well as fun.

No, I would not say you are 'normal'-- I'd say you are blessed!

 

[B_thickjohnny]

I might have a problem - I admit. I've noticed that I need to see porn almost daily - to the point where I do it at work now. I also think about it all the time and wish that I could have sex every day. I could go out, meet some stranger and have sex every day. I'm guessing that's addictive behavior.

 

[helgaleena]

I might have a problem - I admit. I've noticed that I need to see porn almost daily - to the point where I do it at work now. I also think about it all the time and wish that I could have sex every day. I could go out, meet some stranger and have sex every day. I'm guessing that's addictive behavior.

What about masturbating? That's sex. It's quite 'normal' to masturbate daily. If you give it the status in your mind of 'real' sex, you are taking the pressure off yourself and accepting your real nature.

 

[DasLeezard]

Hi, I'm DasLeezard, and I'm a sex addict.

I did not become a sex addict until I was somewhere in my first Active Duty enlistment. I grew up as the ugly child, was the last of my friends to lose my virginity, and the guy that I lost my virginity to was very abusive and manipulative. For the first 19 years of my life, I hated myself, knew myself as ugly, was told often that I was 'too cool' or 'too much of a good friend' to even be seen as dating material. To my ex, I was fat and ugly, and he had sex with me out of pity, and nobody else would want me.

In the Army, while I was in Basic, I had sex with a guy in my company on Graduation Day. In AIT, it was a few different dudes. I was assaulted by one guy, but part of me believed my 1SG and Company Commander, that it was my fault. I graduate, go home for a month, and receive the virginity of a guy I used to go to church with.

I get to my first duty station, and it was more dudes, until I got with the man who would eventually become the father of my son. I knew him from back home. I loved him deeply, was completely devoted to him, never felt the urge to stray. I get pregnant, he gets deployed, and eventually killed.

I get out of Active Duty.

Somewhere in there, I'm with more dudes. I became a firefighter/emt. More dudes. Back on active duty again. First day in Oklahoma, I bang a Drill Sergeant. I hadn't been off the road more than 4 hours.

Overall, my work was often fucked up due to who I did or how often I did it. I had been assaulted twice since 2002, but nothing ever happened because of how promiscuous I was. The State threw out my case because of that fact, and it's hard to find a lawyer in a conservative area to help you out if you've been known to sleep around.

Sex Addiction is true shit. I'm thankful that I didn't come out with all manners of the fire crotch, and honestly, I'm a little surprised. But I'm clean, and intend to stay that way.

I've been free from the bullshit for almost two years now, and now I'm back to wanting THE ONE. One. Besides my left hand, anyway. So I may seem like a picky and prudish bitch at times, but I've not always been so. Destructively so. I'll stick with being picky.


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