You know what, normally I'm inclined to stay out of other people's public feuds. Yet I'm fed up with this shit.
Mrs. Ed. I understand you are offended at the term "trailer trash." I understand you were offended at whatever comments NJ had to write about your husband. It's unfortunate that it happened.
However your expectations of people to be sympathetic to you are UNREALISTIC, if you are going to gloss over that this started with an unwarranted personal attack on NJ in another thread. In this case, Mr. Ed (sorry I chuckle writing Mr. Ed, thinking of the horse on Nick at Nite) made a mean-spirited and malicious comment about NJ on another thread...and to be clear...she did not provoke Ed directly. All the females were asked for typical how big how small before you say no to a dude.
NJ - gave an opinion to the topic of the thread period.
Ed - you were mean. you wrote
"that's why NJ's single, 41 and living at home with her parents, no one wants a woman like that in his bed."
NJ said nothing to you directly to warrant that comment. She also has every right to defend herself against an accusation about why she's living at home. She gave more information than I would have - but that's her business. She's taking care of a parent with Parkinson's. If you have a relative with that disease it's really tough on the family and they deteriorate is stressful.
NJ was justifiably angry and responded and made an accusation of her own - that he wouldn't take care of a family member if he were in her shoes.
So that's the comment that prompted the private messaging of calling , NJ a true-blue-bitch, for putting Ed back in his place?
I appreciate your loyalty to your husband and I'm not saying you should never have said a word. Though if you're going to call foul - you need to be upfront about the WHOLE story.
I like you and Mr. Ed and your contributions, you're honest as a couple about your experiences. My comments are not to take one side over the other.
Yet this morphed from one thread to another thread to private messages and then again on another thread about what someone said in private.
I think it was between Mr. Ed and NJ.
I know that NJ can be abrasive at times, but no more than anyone of us at any time. She's even called me a man for my opinions, but I say my peace and let it go....and later on we'll laugh about something else.
While you're fuming about being called trailer trash, how do you think NJ felt getting that personal attack for nothing but obliging someone that asked her preference about dick? Her being 41 and living with her parents, is because of her preference for dick? So when she's taking care of a parent, it's insulting and just mean, IMO. So I have a hard time sympathizing with how you found her reply to his comment offensive, especially if it started with you calling her a true-blue-bitch.
Again I like you guys both, but if you're going to cry foul that the forum sucks and that's why your lurking because someone called you trailer trash and gloss over the 41 and single living at home desperate...true blue bitch... contributions from you both, it's disingenuous.
and Mrs. Ed, it doesn't mean you should not say anything and keep your mouth shut. What it means is that if you want someone else to recognize that they over-stepped their bounds and offended you - you have to be honest and give a mea culpa when you go too far as well. IT's the only way someone can reasonably expect to give a mea culpa.
....totally unrelated.... I felt the same way with cinnamon's thread ... it feels voyeuristic reading this shit. Public spat - goes private and then goes public again.
