Dude... these are YOUR insecurities, not hers, you realize that right? You were the one who wanted to get her the dildo, you're the one who gets off on seeing a big thing inside of her, you were the one who went out bought it and brought it home. You had these same concerns before you even bought the dildo.
My opinion is that you are insecure about your penis size, and you wanted to see her reaction to feeling a big cock fill her up. And that was more important to you than whether or not she actually was into it or not.
I get the idea... wouldn't it be hot if I could be like those guys with the huge cocks, and impress her with the feeling of a huge dick... or perhaps, you're afraid that you're not man enough to satisfy her, and that you have a secret fear that one day she will tell you that you're not enough, and that she wants to leave you for a man with a bigger penis.
Let me remind you friend, that these are YOUR insecurities. These are your issues, not hers.
You probably won't be able to really let this in, but your girlfriend doesn't need a 10 inch cock to satisfy her. Your averaged sized penis is perfectly sized to please her. I think it's you that is unsatisfied with what you have, and this type of insecurity is in your head, and unfortunately could destroy you. Women are attracted to confidence, and you are sexier when you walk into the room standing tall, and proud of who you are.
You being insecure about your penis size will make you less sexy to her.
You being confident with what you have now will benefit you more than anything else.
Even if you were to increase the size of your dick magically, would that solve your insecurity problems? What if you were 8 inches? would you wish you were 8 and a half? What if you were 10? would you wish you were 11? Would all your insecurities magically go away, or would you still be wishing you were bigger, or would you still have that feeling like you're not enough as you are..
The size of your penis matters about 100 times more to you, than it does to her.
Yes it matters to her. I'm not gonna lie about that part. But it might not matter in the way you may think. Most women are only concerned with size if you are too big or too small... The fact that you are average, means you're fine! You are perfectly equipped to satisfy her just as you are man.
I have two white female friends... both are sexually very active... and both have a thing for black guys with giant dicks... like serious jungle fever, they hunt down big dicks like its a sport... and in the last year or two, they both have fallen in love, like head over heels love... and the guys they fell for are actually white guys with average sized dicks... and they both confirm, that the sex is the best they have ever had... I didn't believe them at first, I said, wait, you've had sex with 10 inch cocks before... and your boyfriends 5 and a half incher is the best you've ever had? and they both agree, yes! Because to women, they get something more when its intimate, when its about love, and the sex is more about that than anything else.
Of course your girlfriend will prefer your dick to the dildo, a dildo means nothing to her. It's just a piece of plastic. Your dick, is attached to you, the man who she loves. Any woman would choose that over a big dildo.
If you have a fetish of watching a big dildo go inside of her. thats cool. But own that. And be cool with your own fantasy.
The most important thing in my opinion is that you love yourself, and learn to love your body as it is.
Would your sex life be better if you had a solid eight and a half inch cock? Perhaps it would... But I think that it would be better because you would feel more confident about yourself.. So really its less about the size, and more about you feeling confident. But if you had a dick that big, maybe it wouldn't be better... Maybe you would be too big, and sex wouldn't be as enjoyable for her... You did say she was a petite asian girl, and if you had a giant dick, it would probably be uncomfortable for her.
You need to own the face that you have a five and a half inch dick. Own it proudly.
I think everyone would agree that a confident man with 5.5 inches will get waay more action, than a 9 inch man who is insecure.
I am more or less average, and just got my girlfriend a 10 inch dildo. I love watching it go in her and all, but do you think she will become to love it more than me, even though she says she doesn't.
My girlfriend says that too: " I want you inside of me, don't want that dildo all the time ". She claims that having me inside of her makes for a better feel because of the intimacy etc., but I remain a sceptic.
She has always been quite open-minded, and I thought she would be curious of a large dildo, so I got her one. Plus she has a typical asian stature, so she's rather small, and I was always fond of the idea of large thing inside her.
I'm only 5.5" 4.5".