So I have this friend......

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by lonerider, Apr 16, 2011.

  1. lonerider

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    and he's "straight". But the thing is, when he gets drunk, he tells me he loves me, and says stuff like I'd like his dick and how big his dick is, and that he'd love to put it up my ass and all this, and I play it off because, he's drunk, lol.

    Thing is, he's said this stuff when he's sober too. But he's clearly straight, and he's had a history with a string of girlfriends. But he's told me I'm the only guy he's ever wanted to fuck, but then he'll go on later so homophobic, I just kinda dismiss it, and I play it off.

    But like we'll be on the phone together and he won't even leave the phone, when he's pissing and it's so hot or he'll mention that he has a raging hardon randomly.

    So the thing is, I care about him as a friend, but damn if I'm not majorly turned on when he gets going about his dick.

    So mostly I just dismiss it, because I know he's drunk, but do you have any ideas on how I can broach the subject with him that I wouldn't mind so much if he did do exactly as he told me he wants to do? lol I dunno if he'd freak out or not, it's weird. But I want him, lol.
     
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    Warning: Let him control the agenda. If it's really gonna happen, let him clearly initiate it.

    Don't bring it up either.

    Nothing may ever happen, but, believe me, you'll be saving yourself from a lot of trouble.
     
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    Agreed. Playing with fire. You have to assess right away the value of the relationship. If you decide on friends, do it and don't waver. If you decide on possible sexy times? Be prepared for the possibility of a rough and permanent outcome. It's gambling sir.
     
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    He's clearly not straight, and he's lying to himself and probably to you as well, about more things than this. Keep it fun and don't trust him any farther than you can throw him.
     
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    he may be curious about being with a guy, specifically you. I had a similar situation but I actually gave in one night. We never really mentioned it after but his "curiosity" must have been satisfied as he didn't really joke the same way after that. Also I have to say my best friend is straight and we joke like this back and forth all the time. I know he's straight and I would never do anything with him sexually. But we joke all the time trying to one up each other mostly. Before you wonder too much make sure he isn't just fucking with you as in teasing. Either way it sounds like a lot more drama involved if you do anything with him and he really feels homophobic after.
     
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    He's a douchebag. Tell him to either shit or get off the pot.

    EDIT: And not just that, but if he's saying homophobic things at other times, then he's got issues that he needs to sort the fuck out before he can ever expect to get any of your openly gay ass.
     
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    Ypur friend is either gay or a bisexual. I have had a similar relationship. They go aorund with girls just not to attract attention.
     
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    What you do depends on if you are willing to potentially lose a friendship?

    Best case scenario is that he is serious and wants a relationship/fling. But worst case scenerio is that he is a straight man looking for an ego boost and does freak out the second you make a move.

    Either way it sounds like toy need to tell him to stop being a prick tease and either buck up or shut up
     
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    What lvsxy808 said. He's obviously not completely straight, and he's obviously interested in fooling around with you. Otherwise, he wouldn't keep dropping these pretty obvious hints that he wants you, but he's just afraid to make the first move. I should know - I'm someone most people would think is completely straight, and I would have been too afraid to make the first move on a friend like you. Next time he starts talking sexy talk, cut him off and say: "All this talk is making me pretty hot, and I can tell it's making you hot, too, otherwise you wouldn't be talking like this. Next time I see you, you're going to come back to my apartment. You're going to drop your pants, and I'm going to rock your world." He might say, "No, I'm not." And, you should say "Yes, you are. And you're gonna love it."

    But, if he's saying homophobic things - he doesn't deserve you, unless he stops that right now. You gotta make it clear that that kind of talk has got to stop or you can't be friends with him any more.
     
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    I say orchestrate a scenario where you are both drining a bit, then turn on the porn, start jerking off and take it from there....he clearly wants it.
     
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    Your friend sounds like one of the millions of confused dudes who are sexually attracted to other dudes...and don't be fooled by the fact that he's had girlfriends...some of these guys will even get married & have kids to avoid anyone finding out the truth about them.

    You might consider telling him that if he really wants anything to happen, he needs to man up & make it happen...otherwise, he should keep his fantasies to himself.

    Don't tolerate his homophobic crap either.

    I say, you let him figure himself out on his own & you tell him to cut the BS with you.

    Don't waste your time with people who are unable or unwilling to be real.
     
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