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A lot of the bigger guys here complain about not feeling much with regular condoms yet they don't think they're big enough to move-up to a larger condom. Larger condoms generally are only slightly larger than regular ones. I highly suggest you try them out because if you're at 7x6 then you're definitely in Magnum territory.
The other thing is the whole sexuality aspect. I think so many guys here are saying the right things that I can't add much. Losing virginity is usually an experience fraught with disappointment and anxiety. Don't let one experience throw you off or make you question your sexual attractions. At the same time, don't expect fireworks with the first guy you have sex with either. It could well be much the same experience until your anxiety level comes down and you just go with the flow.
I too am pleased that you're open to questioning yourself without judgment or fear. You have come a long way in that and it's wonderful to see. Kudos to you for using this experience to learn rather than see it as a reason to heap more guilt on yourself. That's important and I'm impressed.
It seems this girl is really nice and even if she won't tell you why she thinks you might be gay, talk to her about it openly and honestly. She may have some insights to help you.
Ultimately who you are matters far more than what you are or how you pigeonhole yourself. Labels exist to fit people, not the other way around so if you don't have a label that fits you then don't sweat it. Follow your heart and your instinct.
I lost my virginity to another boy as a young teen and I really liked it. I'd had some oral sex and petting with a girl before that, but there wasn't any penetration as there was with him. For quite a long time I told myself that it was just adolescent experimentation, everyone does it, and that I was really straight. What I couldn't get over though, was that my porn had to have guys in it for me to get off. Lesbian or solo pics of women never did a thing for me. On the rare occasions when I came across bi or group porn, that would really turn me on. Eventually I bought some gay porn and it got me so hot so quickly that it made me question whether I was gay or whether it was hot because it was so forbidden. Eventually I realized that I was just plain more attracted to men than women even though I really liked the idea of having a girlfriend, maybe getting married, and having kids. I thought that somehow I'd find the right girl and my desire for her would make me never look at another man again. Wrong! Even straight guys have that saying, "I'm married, not dead," which they say when another girl catches their eye. It eventually dawned on me that I'm much better at being friends with women than caring about them sexually. It was definitely much more difficult when I was younger because becoming sexually aroused was so much easier and it confused me. I'd get turned-on by any potential sexual situation, whether with men or women so I couldn't really use my sexual response as a guide to which sex I found more attractive. For that, I had to go back to what I knew, but tried to deny.
I still consider myself technically bisexual because there are women I do find attractive and would have sex with. I accept that as just being part of who I am and enjoy that. I largely tell people I'm gay because I relate to men much better than I do to women in romantic and sexual situations. I've fallen in love with two men and one girl. My feelings for the men far outstripped those for the girl so while I have opposite sex attractions, I know that anything long-term is going to be with another man.
This long march of self-discovery is a bitch. It really is. I say since you're young and uncommitted, go out and find a guy you like and give it a go with him and see how you feel about it. Like I said, it might not be all that and a bag of chips, but you'll definitely know how you respond to him erotically. When you're with someone who stimulates you and makes your heart race with anticipation rather than reticent anxiety, you'll know who the right person is for you be it male or female.
The other thing is the whole sexuality aspect. I think so many guys here are saying the right things that I can't add much. Losing virginity is usually an experience fraught with disappointment and anxiety. Don't let one experience throw you off or make you question your sexual attractions. At the same time, don't expect fireworks with the first guy you have sex with either. It could well be much the same experience until your anxiety level comes down and you just go with the flow.
I too am pleased that you're open to questioning yourself without judgment or fear. You have come a long way in that and it's wonderful to see. Kudos to you for using this experience to learn rather than see it as a reason to heap more guilt on yourself. That's important and I'm impressed.
It seems this girl is really nice and even if she won't tell you why she thinks you might be gay, talk to her about it openly and honestly. She may have some insights to help you.
Ultimately who you are matters far more than what you are or how you pigeonhole yourself. Labels exist to fit people, not the other way around so if you don't have a label that fits you then don't sweat it. Follow your heart and your instinct.
I lost my virginity to another boy as a young teen and I really liked it. I'd had some oral sex and petting with a girl before that, but there wasn't any penetration as there was with him. For quite a long time I told myself that it was just adolescent experimentation, everyone does it, and that I was really straight. What I couldn't get over though, was that my porn had to have guys in it for me to get off. Lesbian or solo pics of women never did a thing for me. On the rare occasions when I came across bi or group porn, that would really turn me on. Eventually I bought some gay porn and it got me so hot so quickly that it made me question whether I was gay or whether it was hot because it was so forbidden. Eventually I realized that I was just plain more attracted to men than women even though I really liked the idea of having a girlfriend, maybe getting married, and having kids. I thought that somehow I'd find the right girl and my desire for her would make me never look at another man again. Wrong! Even straight guys have that saying, "I'm married, not dead," which they say when another girl catches their eye. It eventually dawned on me that I'm much better at being friends with women than caring about them sexually. It was definitely much more difficult when I was younger because becoming sexually aroused was so much easier and it confused me. I'd get turned-on by any potential sexual situation, whether with men or women so I couldn't really use my sexual response as a guide to which sex I found more attractive. For that, I had to go back to what I knew, but tried to deny.
I still consider myself technically bisexual because there are women I do find attractive and would have sex with. I accept that as just being part of who I am and enjoy that. I largely tell people I'm gay because I relate to men much better than I do to women in romantic and sexual situations. I've fallen in love with two men and one girl. My feelings for the men far outstripped those for the girl so while I have opposite sex attractions, I know that anything long-term is going to be with another man.
This long march of self-discovery is a bitch. It really is. I say since you're young and uncommitted, go out and find a guy you like and give it a go with him and see how you feel about it. Like I said, it might not be all that and a bag of chips, but you'll definitely know how you respond to him erotically. When you're with someone who stimulates you and makes your heart race with anticipation rather than reticent anxiety, you'll know who the right person is for you be it male or female.