I suppose I should start out by apologizing if I start to ramble. Maybe I'm just trying to shell out my story, and this goes against one of my rules for not ranting to internet about my problems. But I'm starting to get pretty edgy about things and in any case on with the details; Running through the cliff notes version of the story, my old man got the cancer and died back when I was twelve. Three months latter my mother's kidney's decide to bail out on her and she went into a series of dialysis treatments for five years before she was able to get a new kidney which in and of itself is proving to be only so effective. On top of that there is no extended family support what so ever given on both sides its a mix of addicts, thieves and dealers about three of which have a job of their own anyway. So in total its me and my only brother trying to float the household, which is going by at a so-so rate and we've been doing it since the old man croaked. So here I am, 21 years old, living at home partly taking care of my mother and paying 90% of every paycheck into the house. But it doesn't take much to imagine I still want a girl, hell at this point even one I put time into just for her hole. But as you can imagine it's hard to sell yourself to women when you live at home, and don't have a lot of money to spend. To top that off, I'm a virgin who's had a handful of dates in his whole life. So there's the trap of falling in too deep with the first girl who shows me her vag, let alone tells me she likes me. So the point/question I want to end with is, should a guy in my position be even trying to find a girl, or for that matter one to just bang? And advise on how do you sell, "I take care of my sick mother" as a selling point?