So, I'm strongly considering paying for sex

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I think if I ever hired someone to have sex with, before the sex I would just be too curious about why she decided to sell herself.

They're not "selling" themselves. You might say they're renting themselves, but they're not selling anything other than time with them.
 

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I have had very loooonnnnggg amounts of time without sex and I would never stoop to paying for it. I think it is pathetic. There are many woman who would be happy to have you and would enjoy what you have to offer. A whore just wants your cash and could care less what else you have to offer. She wont even care how big your dick is.

And I suppose this is the strongest counter-point to paying for sex. For me anyway.

I think you need to follow the yellow brick road.

It doesn't exist - at least not for you.
You seem like the kind of guy who doesn't play games and doesn't lie to women to get into their pants. The kind of guy who women say they want but the one they leave in the dust to jump into bed with a lying player.

(I have my flame proof suit on because I know someone isn't going to like what I just said)

No need to get on the flame suit with me at least. I know I'm not on the Yellow Brick Road. Right now it's like I'm on Broken Down Road with the potholes and broken glass, in the part of town nobody wants to be in after dark.

Why not work on yourself and your life first? There are a whole lot of people out there that are taking care of it themselves. Don't believe ones who claim they never do. A doc told me that 95% of men admit they masturbate, and the other 5% lie. Even married guys do it a lot. You are worth waiting for don't just go pay money for it because of a stress reason.

Oh, believe me- there has not been any shortage of masturbation around here.

At this point, it really is a question of how much more work I can do on my life. I mean, that's what I've been doing for most of these years.
 

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THERE are several reasons people pay for sex. THE lame excuse you're not good looking doesn't stick no longer...
I've payed for sex in my life just because that's what I wanted: SEX! I wasn't looking for nothing else apart from physical relation. and WHEN paying you have the ability to choose, in a easier way, your sex partner...
OK, that sounds lame as well, but it's true, IF you're looking to have sex, and have the time and pleasure of going out to get it the 'regular' way, go, have some drinks, chat with a girl|boy and see if it works and goes there. but in a very stupid and accounting way, if you sum up all the money YOU spend on a date [even if it is just some drinks in a bar] YOU'LL end up spending the same amount of money you'd do when paying for sex.

so, what are the advantages of paying? YOU get better served [never forget you're dealing with professionals...], have the ability to choose and GET IT [money does wonder for your outer beauty], don't have the need to get stuck in a awkward position [not the kamasutra one, the morning after I mean..] and CAN do all of YOUR inner, most secret, sexual fantasies and ambitions without being turned down.. [sex professional CAN'T be picky.. IT'S a hard market out there...]

SO, enjoy sex anyway [the safe one] payed or for free...
 
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Well there seem to be two camps here: one side who finds it inexplicable that I can't be getting laid, and the other more realistic camp.

I'll address the the former camp first, because it seems like I have a bit more explaining to do to this side:

Hey, why bother paying for it?
I'm sure that there are plenty people on here who would let you do them for free.
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Well, if I'm to judge from my private messages, that's correct. However, it seems to be from mostly gay or bi men that these solicitations are coming from- and I'm still way too straight for my own good, apparently. Nor do I think this is likely to change in the future.

Dude - find someone on craigslist and get laid for free! You're a cute guy with a hot body and a nice cock. The dry spell is solely in your head!

Well, I think the dry spell is pretty much a physical reality, but anyway...I've mentioned it in another post, but Craigslist, at least when it comes to random hooking up- is not known for being anywhere near reliable. Fakes and flakes abound there. Ditto for AFF. Though it does have the edge over AFF in not being a drain on the wallet.

What little genuine response I have gotten has been from gay men. And that will not be of much help to the 90-99% straight guy.

you are too cute for words...people should be paying you

Well whenever the porn industry decides to set up shop in Chicago...I'll be around. I won't be holding my breath though. I don't think SoCal or Miami need to worry about the industry relocating to the Corn Belt.
 

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My view is that I don't condone or condemn. d-low1 you mentioned you've been in a drought for a while. What if you do meet a regular girl and get a chance to nail her, you might be a little rusty. So seeking an escort might be the best thing, so you can hit the ground running when you get your chance with a regular girl. Also as mentioned many celebreties who would have no problem getting women uses these services from Charlie Sheen (who used Heidi Fleiss' escort agency so often, that he must have had a discount card) to NHL hockey player Sean Avery. Even pornstar Rocco Siffredi mentioned in his autobiography that when he did take some time from working in front of the camera, was horny as hell and his really hot wife was not on location with him, he got an escort. I mean this is Rocco Siffredi, he has nailed over 1,000 women. He could easily use his fame to pick up any hot girl he wants, but he'd rather call a hot escort and to get laid.

Here's an interesting article from a site called NoMarriage.com - NoMarriage.com - Fucking decent mid-priced whores twice a week is a lot less expensive than a wife. - the article states that it is cheaper for a guy financially to get an escort twice a week than having a wife.

One more piece of advice to d-low1, if you're going to get an escort, do some research, check web forums so you know which services to hit and which to avoid in order to have the best experience.
 

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Just for clarification purposes, I have no moral problem with your paying for sex. It's your life, your decision and nobody has the right to tell you otherwise. My only point is that you're hot and that, perhaps, addressing the underlying reasons for the dry spell is a better approach to long-term happiness than paying for sex now, simply because you're horny. Yes, you're right, it'd be 1000x easier if you were trying to find a guy to hook up with, but I still say there are plenty of real girls online who would gladly give it up for free. Rather than spending your money on a whore, why not spend it on new clothes, a haircut . . .or a therapist! At the very least, buy a mirror and take a good long look! The only REAL impediment to your getting laid is yourself and whatever's going on in your head.
 

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check in the illinois section. one word of advice. if u dont wanna get busted by cops only see girl that have the "check my reviews" link above their pictures. do not discuss rates over the phone...most will have them on the ad already. expect a 200-300 an hour rate.
 

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Well, D-low, you get a lot of comments on how good looking you are and what a huge dick you have. But what most people forget here is that we don't walk naked in the streets so that everyone could see what we have hanging between our legs.

Well, that does seem to be the thing here: people seem to think that what goes on here on this board is somehow translatable to real-life. It isn't.

And besides: it is not as if I'm the only person in the world with a body, a cock, and a personality.

You are a goodlooking man, but maybe a bit more introvert around girls. That makes the difference. People say to me here that it is weird that I'm a virgin because my looks are awesome and that I have an awesome dick, and I appreciate their comments, but it isn't that easy for every person to get laid like it is nothing.
Well you are correct IMO.

Right now, I'm trying to figure out what sort of parallel, alternate universe some of the other posters think I'm living in where women should be pursuing me as if I'm some god.

If you are considering paying for sex and you know you won't regret it later, why not then. It is a good experience to learn from probably. Don't forgot to tell us about it :)
If it happens, you will know for sure.



dude! you're a good looking guy with a big dick....you shouldn't have to pay for sex! put yourself out there...

I guess that's one problem; I've been "out there" for years now, and frankly, I'm getting tired of people telling me what a funny, handsome, well-spoken, etc. etc. etc. guy I am- and then continue getting blown off, shot down, and so on.

I'm sick of bars, and other than there or work, there's no other real venue to meet anybody, unless my online fortune improves or one of my female friends decides to end their relationship(s) to go for me. Frankly that policy has not worked. I will continue to do what I can, but I'm not holding my breath either.

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I'm wondering if you guys actually think like that? If you think that just because you have a huge cock, any woman you encounter is going to want to jump into bed with you, you're so incredibly deluded. lmao Women don't work like that, generally speaking (sure there are some but they are few and far between).

I don't know why no one else gets this except you and me and Pieter, but this is right.

As others have said, avoid the streetwalkers. They're usually drug addicts, practice very little safe sex, and many already have an STD. Some don't, but you're literally in the middle of a crap shoot trying to pick out one that doesn't fit that profile. Plus the cops are always watching them, so you're liable to end up in the middle of a bust in many cities.

There are plenty of ad sites for escorts on the web. Go to one of those, select your city, make a call and set up an appointment. As the person who pointed out what Jack Nicholson had to say on the subject, you're paying for them to go away when you're done. You're guaranteed to get laid. Plus, escorts are professionals and they know what they're doing in bed, and most know how to handle a larger cock! They all are tested routinely as well, so you run very little risk of catching something.

Two of the best sites to find escorts are The Erotic Review and Bigdoggie dot net. You can do searches in your city and find providers with good reviews and go from there. On both of them you have to pay to be able to see the detailed reviews, but even with the free accounts, you can get an idea of who to see and who to avoid.

If you use Craigslist or Backpage, watch out because there are a lot of bait-and-switches on those sites. If you find someone that interests you on one of those sites, find them on TER or BD and make sure they're legitimate.

I actually do escort work, so if you have any questions about how it all works, PM me and I'll try to help you out.
I've checked out TER and Bigdoggie, thanks for the resource info!


I think the point that most of us on this thread have been trying to make is this: Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? It's a really simple concept - and the fact that the OP is good looking with a great body and cock makes that even more appropriate to bring up. It's a lot harder to get the milk if you're ugly. . .he's not.

Well the problem seems to be that most of the cows I see are spoken for already, aren't attractive, or aren't around here for me to milk.


I understand that. But in those situations he's going to have to work to get her in bed. If he wants to do that, then great. I get the impression he doesn't, though. He's not going to be able to walk into some place, find a girl, flash her his cock and have her magically say, "Hey, let's go fuck."

Well, you're wrong about the not wanting to work part; if nothing that's all it's been has been a lot of work put into, in the end, practically nothing. Of course most of the past years have been devoted to finding a relationship and not just sex, inherently a more difficult task. But your last sentence is spot-on right and I've said it myself to people IRL with whom I've had this discussion.


No, flashing girls his cock is something best left to internet sites like craigslist. The point is - there are plenty of people online more than happy to give it away for free.

Well, all I can say is lead the horse to water and he will drink it. I'm just not seeing all this available sex that I'm supposedly missing. I could have missed something somewhere, but there are few stones left to be unturned.
 

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check in the illinois section. one word of advice. if u dont wanna get busted by cops only see girl that have the "check my reviews" link above their pictures. do not discuss rates over the phone...most will have them on the ad already. expect a 200-300 an hour rate.

Sorry but those prices are way out of line for an hour with anyone!
The prices usually run about $175.00 for an hour of half n half or more depending what specifically you are looking for.
Of course specialties like sado-masochism or golden and showers are extra.
Do check out the services and make sure the girl theyr'e sending is the one you requested.
Serpent 13's view is absurd. How long should you wait? Years maybe? Don't listen to those views they are not realistic IMO.
It is not pathetic to pay for sex it is smart sensible and reasonable considering the drought you've had babe! You also don't have to be rich either, most of the guys I saw certainly were'nt rich. They were working class guys like most of the people you run into.
Don't let guys who claim they would never pay influence you.
Everyone pays one way or some other.
Happy fucking!
d-low1 you sound like a smart and cool guy and you will get laid my way or Alyssa's!
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so, what are the advantages of paying? YOU get better served [never forget you're dealing with professionals...]...
But if what he wants is someone that actually likes him and wants to have sex with him, then it's pretty hard to serve that up. If he knows that she is only with him because he is paying, then that may not satisfy his emotional needs. On the other hand, if she was able to act like she really liked him, maybe that wouldn't be too bad. I don't have any experience paying money for sex, so I don't know.

dlow-1, if you want to find a real girlfriend, then I think you have to change things up. I'm not sure what that means in your case because it sounds like you socialize and have male and female friends. I'm thinking you should talk to some of your close friends, men and women, and ask them for advice. Maybe you already do that. Sometimes they will only give you small clues on what you can do differently. But it's good to have friends that you can call to get advice from if you meet a girl and don't know exactly how to get with her.
 

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Jovial getting laid isn't all that complicated! He calls a service chooses a girl
girl comes to house is acceptable or not,if she is they agree on a price and viola
D low-1 gets laid! It is about having a relationship. A relationship with a woman to get sex from whenever he wants it.
I'm not sure why you think the woman wouldn't actually like him, he seems like a really nice sensible guy. Which has nothing to do in the real world with finding a girlfriend.
Eventually he will find somebody or they will find him but until then he shouldn't deny himself sex if he can afford it!
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My best friend decided to hire a prostitute. Now that was years ago so I have no Idea how much it cost him. He said he did it just to see what it would be like. He said she asked what he wanted he said, "I don't know what are you offering". She said, " round the world, straight, anal and blow job", he told me he had no idea so he said, "round the world". She started by Sucking him. He said he couldn't get hard because he was high on pot and nervous about the whole situation. She told him she didn't deal with limp noodles and kicked him out of the hotel room. He said she didn't really even try all she wanted was the money and she didn't care anything for him. He said he would never do it again. He told me if he was having sex with a woman he wanted it to be someone who cared about him in the future.

That has been my rule all along no emotional attachment no sex. I don't even think I could have sex with someone I didn't care for. I would find it very strange to have sex with someone I didn't know. But that's just me I'll tell you that no worries sex is a whole lot more fun. Who want's to think about STD's and the like and the possibility of getting arrested. In many cities they go right into the rooms and take the partners straight to jail no clothes. WHen I lived in Nashville that became policy They arrested both parties took them straight to night court in the state of dress they were in, "buck naked" then published their names in the paper.

Everybody has to make their own decisions though. You are good looking enough find somebody interested.
 

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He said she didn't really even try all she wanted was the money and she didn't care anything for him.

Sadly, there are some prostitutes who are like that, yes. The vast majority aren't, though.

Who want's to think about STD's and the like
With the exception of streetwalkers, professional prostitutes very, very rarely spread STDs. According to the CDC, only 2% of STD transmissions in this country occur as a result of prostitution (including those involving streetwalkers). That's far less than random sexual encounters with "civilians." Professional prostitutes practice safe sex because becoming infected would deprive them of their livelihood.

WHen I lived in Nashville that became policy They arrested both parties took them straight to night court in the state of dress they were in, "buck naked"
Funny. I lived in Nashville for several years and don't recall that happening. They did arrest them, yes, but didn't haul them into court "buck naked."

As I think I've said here before, you have to do your research (using the review sites and other forums) and stay away from CL.
 

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She told him she didn't deal with limp noodles and kicked him out of the hotel room.
Rejected by a prostitute. That's got to hurt one's ego.
With the exception of streetwalkers, professional prostitutes very, very rarely spread STDs. According to the CDC, only 2% of STD transmissions in this country occur as a result of prostitution (including those involving streetwalkers). That's far less than random sexual encounters with "civilians." Professional prostitutes practice safe sex because becoming infected would deprive them of their livelihood.
But probably far less than 2% of all sexual encounters are with prostitutes, so it is still riskier than sex with someone random.

I can't help but think a lot of prostitutes have oral or genital herpes because it can be spread even when someone doesn't have an outbreak. Herpes can be spread even with condoms. If they used condoms for oral that would cut back on the transmission rate. I've never seen any statistics on how many prostitutes have herpes. Do they carry current test results with them including blood tests for herpes?
 

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Rejected by a prostitute. That's got to hurt one's ego.

lol

If they used condoms for oral that would cut back on the transmission rate.
Some do, some don't.

Do they carry current test results with them including blood tests for herpes?
I carry mine (I get tested monthly), but have never been asked to see them.
 

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I just went out for drinks with some millionaire clients.... holy fuck, I guess whores are just normal fare for millionaires. I was shocked by how loose their tongues got, and once they started going, and laughing about all their adventures and orgies, I was just floored. One was married, and one in a relationship, but it was obvious, neither had ever had an inkling of commitment in them. Of course, I guess if you are 6'2"+, and make over $300G a year, the temptations have to be too great... so I will not judge.
 

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I'm fucking married, been paying for sex as long as I said I do.... everyone pays for sex, some people just cut out the bullshit like dinner and a movie! Get a hooker and bang that bitch like it's the end of the god-damn world!!!!!
 

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I don't really think that the issue to me is paying for something like this. The problems are the complications it can have. The first chance one takes with something like this is the transmission of STD's. There is no way one can guarantee this one paid or not, but meeting a person who is not having sex with partners measured in exponential numbers certainly reduces the chances of problems.

Indpendent operator OR service based can be an invitation to legal problems if records of your transaction exist. Some jurisdictions do prosecute the customers as well as the "purveyors of pleasure".

Your third problem is a possibility of meeting some individual with less than honorable intentions.

Usually paying for sex is not something you end up doing once. It is easy, it has no complications and no hang ups at least by implication. Many crimes have been committed against males and females both by escort services and the gender of the "service provider" is not the issue.

All one can do is go for it and hope for the best.

As the price of the "encounter" goes down the chances for problems rise dramatically. A $1,000 a night 'specialist" may be no problem at all. The $75-150 dollar variety may have personal problems they bring with them that may be left behind with you.

Food for thought........................
 

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Indpendent operator OR service based can be an invitation to legal problems if records of your transaction exist. Some jurisdictions do prosecute the customers as well as the "purveyors of pleasure".

Independents generally don't keep those kinds of records (and most agencies keep coded records, if any). Doing so would allow LE to screw with the provider more so than the clients. LE tends to go after the larger operations and the folks who run them rather than the girls who work for them and the clients (see the Spitzer case and the case involving Debra Jean Palfrey).

Your third problem is a possibility of meeting some individual with less than honorable intentions.
That happens even when meeting people who aren't pros. Again, read the reviews and do your research.

As the price of the "encounter" goes down the chances for problems rise dramatically. A $1,000 a night 'specialist" may be no problem at all. The $75-150 dollar variety may have personal problems they bring with them that may be left behind with you.
That is a broad and largely untrue statement. There are just as many on the "high end" who have personal problems as there are on the low-end, and very, very rarely do they have any impact on the client. They're usually more interested in completing the transaction and getting out of there than they are laying their personal issues/problems on you.

It's amazing how many of you who've never been to see a professional have these ideas about what it is like and what is involved. lol