So my best friend and I fooled around

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by justcurious80, May 20, 2008.

  1. justcurious80

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    So heres the short story,

    This guy has been one of my best friends for many years, hes gay, and im str8 (if u were gonna classify us using clear cut labels, but not getting into that argument). A couple of months ago, we compared dicks talked about penis and sex stuff and i was nuts over the fact that he was uncircumcised. I mean i have a lot of self confidence issues, and foreskin envy. So we have been really open with each other, and a couple of weeks ago experimenting came up and i told him that i was curious about jerking off with another guy, or jerking each other off. And of course he didnt care, he told me that we would take it at my pace and that it wouldnt be awkward or anything which i think is a great thing to say as a friend. Well this weekend, i asked him if he wanted to try it, so he grabbed the lube (since im cut, even though i dont use it having someone else jack me off dry would be difficult. so he thought lube would make it easy)
    So he put some lube on his fingers and grabbed my cock and started jerking off. we were laying next to each other in a 69 position kinda which was a little awkward. For one thing i was nervous and i can never get fully hard when laying on my side. I was reluctant at first but i grabbed his uncut cock and started jerking it off. Well ill get to my opinion of the event later, but i just want to say that jerking an uncut cock is so much easier and "better" (dont start a war) than jerking a cut cock. The foreskin is something i couldn't have imagined in my life. i mean i could jerk him off with two fingers at ease. it was crazy. its also weird getting an active touch of a penis in my hand, usually when jerking off, you get a passive touch of the hand onto your penis, so you feel more sensation in your penis than you can feel the penis in your hand. his cock felt so much harder than mine ever did, and it was so warm. after time went by we finally came and sorta silently cleaned up and didn't discuss it yet cause we were tired. since then we've been so busy we havent had a chance to bring it up but here is my reaction and opinion.

    i had been jerking off to other guy videos and such lately as equally as girl vids. I had thought "hey, maybe i am bicurious, because i was never attracted to the man itself, just the sexual and penis part. After jerking with my friend, these feelings diminished, and i wasn't really wow'd by the whole experimentation. I mean, im still very envious of the foreskin, but i think jerking him off kind of answered my question. I know i dont want to be with a guy, and for my life i dont want a penis in my bed every night (besides mine). Im not asking a specific question to the posters, moreso i just needed a place to write down my thoughts. Im glad i experimented, and i might try it again but its definitely not permanent. Im still a little attracted to penises, but i only see it as a fantasy. My attraction to pornography and sexual fantasies has created this image in my head. But when it comes to real life, those desires are really non existent. Thanks for listenin guys, and i hope i put this in the right subforum.

    has anyone else had a similar situation, experience, or change in their life? Im not expecting much out of people but im interested in responses and opinions.

    thanks guys:31:
     
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    i cant read all that...


    but thats always great to hook up with a girl you have been "friends" with for a long time.. i wanted to fuck my girlfriends best friend forever, 3 years..afetr we broke up.. like 5 months later..i got with her, unfortunatley no sex, but she gave me a hell of a blowjob and her tits were just as perfect as i thought they were , was great, wish i could fuck her sstill
     
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    i really enjoyed reading what you had to write, really interesting, i feel kinda similar with being interested in guys penises but not the guy and what not.

    o and i'm uncut..... ha ha.
    kidding man, thanks for that thread.
     
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    thanks for the comments guys, im surprised there have been 300 views and only two responses.
     
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    I liked your story. It had a beginning, middle, and end. You seemed to answer most of the questions you raised. Most of us read it, digested it and moved on. It's like a "coming of age" thing, without the drama.

    I'll also add that it's great you're so honest with yourself and are that way with your friend. It's great that he's obliging. You're a lucky guy.

    Finally, you really should be happy with your penis. Mourn your missing foreskin and move on. :smile:
     
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    The human psyche has endless "normal" variations. Why should a man not be interested in penises? To have no curiosity about other penises seems to indicate a certain lack of interest in his own. They are marvelous organs built for function and pleasure. I personally believe that just because a man might have an occassional or reoccurring same sexual experience he can very much not be homosexual. If a man enjoys anal stimulation what better instrument for that stimulation than a penis. So much more enjoyable than a cold inanimate object. Even to the point of oral gratification. Penises are very enjoyable to suck on.

    I feel that as long as a person primarily prefers the nurtuting and company of persons of the oppsite sex to the point of being able to have and enjoy sexual relations with the opposite sex and desiring to spend the majority of ones life with the opposite sex that person is definately heterosexual. I don't think this person would even be considered bi-sexual.

    I think the primary emotional links are much more important than occassional physical trysts. To me bi-sexual would indicat the desire and ability to have the same emotional and physical relationship with persons of either sex, emphasis on emotional.

    So you see sexual labels require much more criteria that just the single or even occassional activity with another person that would result in placing a person in a particular catagory.

    Personally, I prefer the elimination of these labels. Just do it and have fun. Though if you are in a committed relationship it is important to be honest, and maybe include the partner in the extracurricular activities.
     
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    You tried it and found out it wasn't for you. No big deal. I'm in a similar situation. The fantasy of experimenting with another man is on my mind but the actual thought of it happening doesn't do it for me. I'm attracted to cocks and love watching them in porn but I feel like if presented with one face to face :p then I don't see myself as actually doing anything. I've never been attracted to another man beyond the cock. It's weird but that's how it is.
     
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    Wow ---

    My best friend and I fooled around. No big deal....

    I was about 25 - him 23 - and well - we had been friends since a LONG while. It had come up early in our friendship that he hated gays. It was one reason I waited until I was 23 to come out. Well I did.

    I guess he was curious and one night - after a few cocktails - we fooled around. It was fun - a lot of fun. Hell - kissed even - and then we fell asleep. The next morning i had to be at work EARLY - and left. The day after that he wanted coffee....

    And when I showed up at our coffee place I saw the look on his face. Right away I told him - it was no big deal - it was fooling around and all that and to chill....and he sighed. "And for a moment I was worried you'd want a relationship."

    We laugh about it to this day. That was a long time ago - 10 years or more - and you know - it's no big deal. He's getting married in August - and I have a wonderful man in my life....

    But it was fun....
     
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