So my GF is getting hit on A LOT!!!

[B_BraxtonHartnabrig]

stuff like this, my buddy just told me this last night......one of her co-workers been dating this guy for 6 months, she wanted to try some black cock she said, and he fucked her.QUOTE]

damn....I guess thats 1+ for being Black, I'll surely take that....

But sticking with the topic, I don't play that flirting shit when I am with my girl, I am not insecure or nothing, but I feel as though a man should show me and my woman repect, as I would him if he and a good looking lady were together and I happen to interact with her....

I find it really does not matter what your girl wears, some chics just look good wearing a potato bag....Sometimes you have to take situations where some dude is trying to take your girlfriend, and realize how lucky/worthy you are to have her...

 

[galaxus]

My wife is a very attractive woman that is always very sharply dressed. It is hard in my mind to believe that she is even mine because she is the kind of woman that I always fantasized about all my life. That being said other men find her attractive. There is no way they could not and if that was the case chances are I would not be attracted to her either. I am not an ugly man and my appearence attracts female attention. I would say since I have been with my wife it has greatly reduced. I think it is because I put off a different vibe than I used to. So to the original poster I must say that if your girl is suddenly garnering so much more attention she may be even if accidently making herself seem approachable to these men. My wife comes off to a lot of people as being stuck up or snooty so often times people act stand offish to her. Funny thing is she is the most down to earth woman I ever met and is probally the most fun person to hang out with. You may want to consider what she is doing to have these things happen. Also why do these other men have her number in the first place?

Again, It not about her flirting with people. Its about how some people act creepy towards her. I want people to see how nice she is. I want her to see herself as beautiful. I don't want to keep her caged up. She's a free woman. She can do whatever she wants.

 

[galaxus]

stuff like this, my buddy just told me this last night......one of her co-workers been dating this guy for 6 months, she wanted to try some black cock she said, and he fucked her.

I find it really does not matter what your girl wears, some chics just look good wearing a potato bag....Sometimes you have to take situations where some dude is trying to take your girlfriend, and realize how lucky/worthy you are to have her...

Correct sir.

 

[MarkLondon]

Guys used to flirt in the past, but not this frequently or as blatantly.

Today some guy offered to be her sugar daddy, and two others later today was following her in the store trying to get her number. It's kinda creepy.

Do hot women get hit on this much?

Either you never noticed so much before, or you're making her glow. :smile:

 

[galaxus]

Either you never noticed so much before, or you're making her glow. :smile:

LMAO!!! I would like to think this is true. It might be. If it is, thats awesome. I also work out with her and bought her some perfume. Those could've helped too.

 

[petite]

That's exactly how a boyfriend should behave in that situation, sounds like you got a real man! I hate the tough guys that are really insecure that their gf is gonna leave them for some random guy hitting on them. I hate the protective whimps who just come over and start guarding their girlfriend, but can't even look you in the eye while they're doing it either.

I agree! I do have a real man. :biggrin1:

To be fair, some women in that situation may appreciate their man standing by their side to help deter interested men, like I was expecting him to do that night. Dressing up like Betty Page where alcohol is freely flowing is bound to bring out some interesting behavior from some men.

He said that he wasn't going to leave me unchaperoned because of how many of those guys were really drunk, but he just enjoyed watching that entire tableau from afar too much to end it.

My wife is a very attractive woman that is always very sharply dressed. It is hard in my mind to believe that she is even mine because she is the kind of woman that I always fantasized about all my life. That being said other men find her attractive. There is no way they could not and if that was the case chances are I would not be attracted to her either. I am not an ugly man and my appearence attracts female attention. I would say since I have been with my wife it has greatly reduced. I think it is because I put off a different vibe than I used to. So to the original poster I must say that if your girl is suddenly garnering so much more attention she may be even if accidently making herself seem approachable to these men. My wife comes off to a lot of people as being stuck up or snooty so often times people act stand offish to her. Funny thing is she is the most down to earth woman I ever met and is probally the most fun person to hang out with. You may want to consider what she is doing to have these things happen. Also why do these other men have her number in the first place?

I love the way that you talk about your wife! It's so beautiful.

It could be a case that she's consciously or unconsciously encouraging men to pursue her, not necessarily because she's interested in a new boyfriend, but just because there's a part of her that's flattered and enjoys the attention (like my first love).

She's also at an age that makes men of all ages act a little insane. When I was that age, I also got outrageous offers from men, such as offers to take me on vacations, proposals of marriage, etc. She's at the prime of her life! She may not be encouraging that behavior.

I dont know what you really want from this thread, but being in your early 20's, shes not the one you are going to marry most likely. You are not going to be her last, thats for sure. and verse vs.

I honestly dont believe girls in there 20's actually commit. ive seen it too many times. too many to count.

Most of my female cousins married in their early twenties. I know a lot of women who have done so. Different women are different about that.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I would also like to add that i saw this on MSN this evening: Four Things That Make Women Unapproachable - MSN Relationships - article

I realized that I am a smiler, even if i look down instead of looking into someones eyes if we are walking past one another in the store. It's just what i've always done since i was a child. I am always alone when im outside of the house most of the time, which makes you more approachable to men based on this article.

I'm doing all the wrong things.

 

[sbat]

I'm doing all the wrong things.

Always :tongue:

 

[sbat]

I would also like to add that i saw this on MSN this evening: Four Things That Make Women Unapproachable - MSN Relationships - article

I realized that I am a smiler, even if i look down instead of looking into someones eyes if we are walking past one another in the store. It's just what i've always done since i was a child. I am always alone when im outside of the house most of the time, which makes you more approachable to men based on this article.

I'm doing all the wrong things.

Although, after reading that article you linked, a more appropriate title would be

"Four things that make women unapproachable to pansy, fragile-ego, mama's boys"

Not a single one of those things would deter me from approaching a girl I thought gave off an interesting vibe. Especially since one girls's flirting is another girl's "just being nice".

 

[B_BraxtonHartnabrig]

Although, after reading that article you linked, a more appropriate title would be

"Four things that make women unapproachable to pansy, fragile-ego, mama's boys"

Not a single one of those things would deter me from approaching a girl I thought gave off an interesting vibe. Especially since one girls's flirting is another girl's "just being nice".

o, contraire mon fritter....

All those deter me from approaching a woman....the angry one is probably the only one that doesn't, because you can't judge a woman by her facial expression, maybe she had a bad day or something, so I see that as an opportunity for me to brighten it up....

3. You're Too Flirtatious
wow...I have seen this many times, and the girl who is too flirtatious is usually a ho...so thats a no go

 

[D_v6fg6i]

apparently your gf is smokin hot .. ur not coming off as much of a threat dude. I think u need to be a man up! knock somebody out if u have to, dont wine about it on here ......dont take that personally, i was just adding to the MAN up thing ...lots-a-luck

 

[sbat]

o, contraire mon fritter....

All those deter me from approaching a woman....the angry one is probably the only one that doesn't, because you can't judge a woman by her facial expression, maybe she had a bad day or something, so I see that as an opportunity for me to brighten it up....

3. You're Too Flirtatious
wow...I have seen this many times, and the girl who is too flirtatious is usually a ho...so thats a no go

Which one am I wrong about? We're in agreement about the first.

Locking eyes? She'll likely look you in the eyes if you go up and talk to her. So if you get knocked away because you don't originally get eye contact when you're staring her down, that's just weak.

Too flirtatious? Since when does being extremely approachable make a girl unapproachable?

Surrounded by friends? So proof that you're not a loner psycho makes you unapproachable? What, you're afraid of getting rejected in front of people? Again, weak.

None of these things would dissuade a man with any real self-confidence.

 

[galaxus]

apparently your gf is smokin hot .. ur not coming off as much of a threat dude. I think u need to be a man up! knock somebody out if u have to, dont wine about it on here ......dont take that personally, i was just adding to the MAN up thing ...lots-a-luck

I'm not gonna knock anybody out. but thanks for your input anyway....

 

[petite]

apparently your gf is smokin hot .. ur not coming off as much of a threat dude. I think u need to be a man up! knock somebody out if u have to, dont wine about it on here ......dont take that personally, i was just adding to the MAN up thing ...lots-a-luck

Uh, this kind of behavior doesn't impress me. The guys who have done this over me have made me feel like he's less of a man because he felt the need to protect his fragile little ego with machismo. It shows a lack of confidence and insecurity, and that's really not sexy or manly at all.


A Real Man doesn't behave like a cave man.

 

[D_Petherick_Poundlouder]

Pics, please.

 

[Aplus]

I'm not gonna knock anybody out. but thanks for your input anyway....

I wouldn't advise it anyway. If you tried to fight every guy that talked to or tried to talk your girl, you'd probably be fighting all the time.

You said she didn't necessarily want the attention, which makes me wonder if she generally feels safe. Not all women are comfortable talking guys down, all the time. But not like you can be with her all the time either.

Truthfully, I don't understand how some women can deal with the constant attention, almost everywhere they go. Even as a guy, I'm not sure how I'd handle it.

 

[alwaysguessing]

In the earlier part of my relationship, my girlfriend used to tell me stories about men flirting with her quite often. I'm positive she did it to make me jealous. It rarely happens these days. I'm not sure if it's becuase she has gained weight, is dressing differently, or just not telling me about it.

 

[petite]

I wouldn't advise it anyway. If you tried to fight every guy that talked to or tried to talk your girl, you'd probably be fighting all the time.

You said she didn't necessarily want the attention, which makes me wonder if she generally feels safe. Not all women are comfortable talking guys down, all the time. But not like you can be with her all the time either.

Truthfully, I don't understand how some women can deal with the constant attention, almost everywhere they go. Even as a guy, I'm not sure how I'd handle it.

This is so true, and it can be really scary sometimes.

This is a story I'll probably never tell IRL because it's just too embarrassing. I was treated very badly at a convention by drunken conventioneers and a volunteer security guy at about 9 PM in the lobby and I didn't end up going to the next two days because it was so disturbing to me. I know that sounds really wimpy, but you just don't know what it can be like. The security guy first insisted that I had to be a journalist, because the male/female ratio there is about 30:1 so he demanded that I show him my press pass. I didn't have one because I am not a journalist. Then he refused to help me clear up my security problem unless I sat on his lap. The other drunk guys standing around just laughed at this. They thought it was hilarious the way he was acting and how he was treating me. (Unrelated, but what moron treats a journalist like that anyway? Talk about bad judgment!) I just stood there, furious, angry, and humiliated, trying to figure out what the best thing to do next would be, as a tiny woman in that situation. I hated feeling like I needed a man there to make sure that I was safe, that's an awful feeling as a professional adult woman. Someone more important than me spotted me and rescued me, but I hate that I needed to be rescued at all. I never made a complaint because I was there for professional reasons, and as one of the few women, I am remembered very well. I didn't want to be remembered as that woman who made the sexual harassment complaint. I didn't want it to negatively affect me.

 

[D_JoeCockHer]

Galaxus i know exactly how u feel!!!! i have been with a girl for the last 8 months and ive noticed how much she gets hit on......its actually outstanding! sometimes u feel like shit all right and probably get paranoid about her leaving u but thats life!

i doubt anything will happen though man, i have learned to embrace it as much as possible and just think everytime it happens:

"i am fucking her, and your not"

 

[helgaleena]

I am so sad for you, petite. I know when folk are rude like that my instinctive response is to clam up and not defend myself adequately. Martial arts training might help me with that but I'm not sure if a physical response is a good instinctive alternative either.