SO on Sniffies

[stonerbonerxo]

Sup yall. Kinda in a bind. SO and I have great sex life, been together for years now. I’ve always wanted something more open, involved him in a couple 3somes, etc., but he’s insisted on monogamy throughout. I’ll admit I’m not the best at it, and while I’ve maintained it mostly, I def still got that horn in me and have played on the side a little throughout whenever Bruiser’s lookin for extra attention


Usually let it be natural hookups and cruising, never downloaded Grindr, but I heard bout sniffies from a snap mutual, and though wth why not. So I get on n who do I see but my bf, fully made profile w pics n everything. Last thing I’d expect from someone like him.


Tbh it made me excited at first not betrayed. I’d hoped he was getting his rocks off like me cuz I think people need it sometimes. Still love him, wanna back home to him at end of the day. Looks like he’s into frotting oral n freeballing which is all hot asf. Honestly, I hope this leads us to being more open and honest bout what we want, what our boundaries are, and hopefully a more open and healthy and masculine sexual dynamic. I’d love to cruise w him, share him, get worshipped by two or more bottoms, explore his fantasies as well as mine. Idk how to breach the topic tho. I don’t wanna “catch” him and make him feel like we need to break up; the contrary, I think it’s hot and we should be safe and open bout it. Anyone experienced something like this before? Any thoughts or advice for ol stoney?

 

[Rob1hallz]

Maybe he's just a bit of an exhibitionist. My experience of Sniffies, lots of talk, no action.

 

[stonerbonerxo]

Maybe he's just a bit of an exhibitionist. My experience of Sniffies, lots of talk, no action.

I guess that’s a possibility, but while flaky I still find plenty of action on there so I’m guessing he would too. Still wondering how exactly to breach the topic with him w/o scaring him or makin him defensive

 

[JackHardlong]

Sup yall. Kinda in a bind. SO and I have great sex life, been together for years now. I’ve always wanted something more open, involved him in a couple 3somes, etc., but he’s insisted on monogamy throughout. I’ll admit I’m not the best at it, and while I’ve maintained it mostly, I def still got that horn in me and have played on the side a little throughout

I feel for you. Do you know why he wants monogamy? Is he maybe feeling insecure in some way, maybe about himself or about your relationship?

Also, you mentioned that you don't want to make him defensive. Is he kind of an avoidant type of person?

 

[Bluegoon21]

I wonder if he was looking for you, to see if you were on. I'm assuming you don't live together since you would see each other in the same area.

 

[stonerbonerxo]

I feel for you. Do you know why he wants monogamy? Is he maybe feeling insecure in some way, maybe about himself or about your relationship?

Also, you mentioned that you don't want to make him defensive. Is he kind of an avoidant type of person?

Thanks man. I think he prefers it for the security? There’s plenty for him to feel insecure about. I’m younger in an age gap, and sometimes I think my physique might make him self conscious. He doesn’t exactly appreciate a lot of the attention I get either, and while there’s definitely assholes out there who purposefully ignore him to talk to me, I think those bitchy experiences cloud other ones where possible fun for us both is right there but he’s too closed off to the possibility to entertain it.

A lot of those insecurities feed into the defensive bit. So that’s kinda my catch 22. He’s dating a guy who can pull basically anyone, but doesn’t seem to want to fully enjoy the benefits of that. So he puts a kibosh on that, but obviously still wants extra-relationship fun if he’s on Sniffies with pics uploaded on the profile w/jewelry I’ve gifted him within the last year. Right?? Like I feel like that’s the wall im running into. Clearly he wants anon sex, nsa fun, fun outside of just us, which I want as well, and he’s probably engaging in it too, but still acting like and holding me to a different standard. Which I kinda get, I’m a little secretive with my one-offs and anon fun too, but wouldn’t this just be better w more communication and safety and maybe some mutual play involved too? Does that make sense? Like we’re already doing it, he just needs to own up to it and we need to own up to what we do to each other so it’s not hypocritical, and I’m ready, but I’m not sure he’s ready. It’s that lack of preparation that I feel could trigger a really defensive reaction when all I’m tryna accomplish is a summer with more and honest fun.

Fkn love 2025 lmao

 

[Beanie]

Sup yall. Kinda in a bind. SO and I have great sex life, been together for years now. I’ve always wanted something more open, involved him in a couple 3somes, etc., but he’s insisted on monogamy throughout. I’ll admit I’m not the best at it, and while I’ve maintained it mostly, I def still got that horn in me and have played on the side a little throughout whenever Bruiser’s lookin for extra attention


Usually let it be natural hookups and cruising, never downloaded Grindr, but I heard bout sniffies from a snap mutual, and though wth why not. So I get on n who do I see but my bf, fully made profile w pics n everything. Last thing I’d expect from someone like him.


Tbh it made me excited at first not betrayed. I’d hoped he was getting his rocks off like me cuz I think people need it sometimes. Still love him, wanna back home to him at end of the day. Looks like he’s into frotting oral n freeballing which is all hot asf. Honestly, I hope this leads us to being more open and honest bout what we want, what our boundaries are, and hopefully a more open and healthy and masculine sexual dynamic. I’d love to cruise w him, share him, get worshipped by two or more bottoms, explore his fantasies as well as mine. Idk how to breach the topic tho. I don’t wanna “catch” him and make him feel like we need to break up; the contrary, I think it’s hot and we should be safe and open bout it. Anyone experienced something like this before? Any thoughts or advice for ol stoney?

Personally, if I had tried to explore the idea of no monogamy. To the point that my SO specifically stated that he wanted nothing but monogamy, I would expect my SO to be suspicious as fuck.

If I then found him on a, left face it, sleazy hookups app, the first thing I would think of would be that he’s looking out for you and he’s out identifiable pictures on his profile so you’ll know it’s him and you’ve been caught.

 

[WilliamG]

Any thoughts or advice for ol stoney?

Put your own Sniffies profile up (without your face of course) using a non descript background. You might be surprised. Note... this might be the modern version of the Pina Colada Song

 

[stonerbonerxo]

Put your own Sniffies profile up (without your face of course) using a non descript background. You might be surprised. Note... this might be the modern version of the Pina Colada Song

Ngl have thought about doing that! I think it’d be sexy hahaa

 

[WilliamG]

Ngl have thought about doing that! I think it’d be sexy hahaa

It can be productive... Just stroked two guys within an hour at the park.