So... who knows you post here?

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  1. Ummagumma

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    Ok... a few people from here I kinda aware of my little 'situation' here, but to those that aren't, my parents are, well, really really against my posting here (why I'm still living at home is a long story). How they became aware of it is... well, also a long story, although I can tell it (I think I've proven in the past that I'm very capable of 'storybook posts' :rolleyes:), but it's not really the point of me making this topic - and even if I did, I'm not sure how it would go over anyways :tongue:.

    What I'm really curious about though, is who in your life knows you come here? Spouses, girl/boyfriends, friends, family, just you? How do they feel about it?

    Any replies would be... like... totally awesome. :biggrin1:

    [I apologize if this topic has already been done (But what topic here hasn't?), I've been looking around, but it's kind of a hard subject to search and the 20 second wait between searches doesn't make it any easier]
     
  2. jeff black

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    No worries buddy.

    1) I wanted to address the parents thing. My parents know that I go somewhere online and spend a fair bit of time on there. I explained to them I wasn't doing anything wrong, wasn't downloading files and risking the computer's safety, and wasn't looking at sex sites. They are still unaware of what it is, but they respect my choice to be on.

    I feel bad that your parents don't want you on here. I can imagine they have a million reasons for it but perhaps you could just sit them down and calmly talk with them about it. That is, if you feel passionately about this place.:rolleyes: Otherwise, just go on when they aren't home and then clear the internet history:biggrin1:

    2) The people who know I am on here... the real me, are very few and far between. I can say that there is two people in real life (friends) who know I go here. One was a member, the other found out because I had to tell someone about recent discussions and revelations.
     
  3. B_Think_Kink

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    Intresting.. I'd say maybe 3 people know about me being part of LPSG... but none have actually seen it... parents will never know intentionally, thats why I have my own laptop, so I can keep links close at hand, and not have to worry about clearing history.

    Of my friends though, my gay best friend is reluctant to come and check it out, I know he would love it if he did, he's hung, but is really shy about it.
     
  4. BlowJoe

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    I would guess that, generally, people are on this site because this isn't the sort of social group one can easily find in non-Internet society. Also, it lets you be anonymous if you want. So, I'd guess most people are here unbeknownst to close friends and family. That's my situation, anyway. :cool:
     
  5. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    Absolutely no one knows I'm on this site.
    I have alluded to belonging to a bulletin board, and described some of the people here, but never really described the site in detail, and certainly would never give the site's name nor my LPSG moniker.
    I mean, the latent asshole in me needs anonymity.
     
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    I have a link to here on my blog. So pretty much everyone knows I'm here.
     
  7. Ummagumma

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    I was on here briefly last night and the 'mom's aware...' thread motivated me to create this to be honest. When I was posting here really heavily this past summer, I had the 'Bookmarks Toolbar' right under the 'Navigation Toolbar' in my firefox window... with the LPSG bookmark sandwiched, clear in the open, between Last.fm and MySpace. My porn bookmarks were well hidden of course, but I never really considered this site pornographic, despite it's gallery and subject matter.

    Anyways, my mom was using my PC (it's in my room, I pay for the net connection as well) a few months back, while I was around the house... and she clicked on it :eek: She laughed it off, made a comment about how that's "not really a productive use of your time" I laughed it off, kinda embarassed, but that was that. But about a month and a half ago when I was out one night, she came back to this site (by this point I had the bookmark hidden mind you, she was snooping) and what she found she didn't like (she definitely went through my PMs, I don't think she found my gallery but most of my PMs are about it :rolleyes:) At this point, she got my father (who's completely computer illiterate) involved, and then things got... a bit more serious.

    It was a hell of a fight to be quite honest. It was a lot like that one scene in American Beauty... except there wasn't a half naked girl watching through her window :tongue: I decided to just give the site up, took my photos down, etc. etc. But I'm stubborn, didn't want to admit defeat and put a few pictures back up the next day. I didn't come around for a few weeks, but I started posting again a week or so back, cautiously, keeping the internet history cleared. But I forgot this past weekend. And I got 'caught' again. :biggrin1:

    I really like this site. I feel like my contributions are at the very least noticed, unlike many sites I visit. LPSG isn't a monster site with millions of hits a day, but it's not ignored by it's membership either. Right in the middle, well moderated, full of intelligent posters which nowadays is kinda rare for me to find.

    My mom is cool with the site though. Earlier, when I said I'm not sure how it (this story) would go over, what I meant was this: My dad's issue with this site is what I'm having a hard time with. At first I thought it was that this site had a lot of gay posters, and him in his infinite bigotry didn't like that... but I suspect it has more to do with the penis size thing. He didn't visit the site at all, and although I don't know what my mom told him initially, I do know he knows that it's called the 'Large Penis Support Group' and he refuses to say those first two words, opting instead to call it, and I quote, "that support group". Oy vey :rolleyes:

    Beyond what I typed above, nobody else in my life knows I post here though... and I don't think they ever will (why you'll never see a face shot from me on here... sorry). I've talked about subjects that come up on here outside as well, but I just make up where I found out the info :smile:

    Thanks for the post Jeff... I had no idea this would get this long.

    Yeah... sure... :rolleyes:
     
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    Thanks to the rest of you that posted here as well... took me a while to type that, otherwise I'd of quoted more of you. :smile:
     
  9. davidjh7

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    Only a couple of friends know I come here. I don't apologize for it. You are in one of those awkward situations of being an adult and because of circumstances, having to live with you parents. And unfortunately, in that situation, mommy and daddy feel they have to play mommy and daddy again, and set restrictions on you. Obviously, for whatever reason, they came across this site and "Oh, my GOD!!! My NOT so little boy:tongue: is conversing with all kinds of preverts and homer-sexuals--the gubment, or worse, my oh so nosy neighbor will find out, and I'll never live it down" blah blah blah. If they check the site out, and you keep the same name, and pictures, then they will know you still come here. As I see it, until your personal living situation improves, you can either create a new name, and not post any revealing pictures under that name (Talk to Wonderboy about how that works :tongue: ), only come in as a guest (which limits what you can do), or stop coming here. I personally would miss you on here if you quit coming on, and I was sad to see the loss of some of your pictures:crying: , but given your situation, you have to do what is best for you. Hang in there, and hopefully your situation will improve soon!
     
  10. jeff black

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    Nah, admit it dude.. I am just special:biggrin1:

    Your post was actually very similar to what I thought it would be AND I have a feeling that my mom is also aware of the site. Plus, she does sleep with my father and she knows that support groups are interesting to me... so who knows.

    My family is great for knowing but not admitting they know., you know?:tongue:
     
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    A few friends, former lovers, and a co-worker know about my presence here. My mother would think it's kinda cool...except for her little girl's gallery and that's why she doesn't know (yes, i'm 37 and still her baby). My father would be equally panicked at my cavorting online with liberals as well as the focus on large penises.

    AA, i'm sorry to hear about all the trouble at home. You have my sympathies.
     
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    Nobody in my world knows... yet :biggrin1:

    I always held a strict rule of "no computer at home" up until July of this year, mostly as I was just being a Luddite about it, but also as I grew into a management occupation and sitting in front of one for up to 60 hours/week, I simply needed to relax my eyes/decompress. So I was imprisoned by NSFW. But I'm an active member of two other boards, both way smaller in scale (one automotive, one music).

    Part of my appearance here was sparked by reading of the internet community in William Gibson's book "Pattern Recognition". That book hit me hard for some reason, and by literally stumbling on this site after searching for who knows what, I found BlowJoe's 'social group' comment to be spot on for me. I wanted to expand my social circles in a field not previously (or easily) addressed by me.

    I say "easily" cuz I still get the rush that tells me I'm potentially damaging my character by posting, but you folks caught me at a crossroads where maybe I should be more open about things. Enjoy the ride :biggrin1:
     
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    Senor, this is funny as hell. You are funny as hell. And with that great face to boot.

    I have one IT savy straight friend who knows that I post here (am not wild about him knowing though, and don't know how much he reads), and another bi friend who might read what I say, but neither has admitted to me directly.

    I did have a problem with somebody at work who knew the moniker I used to use and googled me, pulling up these posts. Not sure if he's found the link to the new one.

    I have to admit it's made me aware of the boundaries I feel about this site. I like the intimacy here, and am honest and direct when I write. That is more important to me than the risk of unfriendly eyes seeing this, or using it against me. But it does feel like a breach of privacy if other people google me up and read these posts without telling me. I think it is sort of dishonest for them to do so, maybe a little like someone finding a hole in your curtains they can peek through.

    This site may be public, but for me it is a members only place. I think the site's security is part of what lets some people at least be transparent about things that are very personal, like dicks, but good to share. Like sex.
     
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    Yeah, I'm sorry you're having so much grief, AA.
    But I'm glad you're still coming to the site.
    As you know, I find your posts delightful ... honest, clear and personal.
     
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    Well, your avatar is not your ass, and mine is not my face, ledroit.
    But you are very kind ... and always interesting to read, savvy about motivation, imho, and fair.
     
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    I've never told anyone.

    I can say that posting here and reading lots of discussions n such has made a difference in my attitude about many issues. When it comes to the internet it's hard to find a decent place that still has smart posters with spirit and humor. thanks!
     
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    I used to be embarrassed about coming here, but I think I've been desensitized to the weirdness of it all and now I don't even care if someone is looking over my shoulder while I'm here posting in the computer labs at school.
    Not many of my friends know that I come here, but that's not because I'm keeping it a secret.... we just have better things to talk about than what internet sites we visit.
     
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    No one.... I am entitled to some privacy too.
     
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    No one that I know, knows that I knowingly visit and post on this site. There are those that I do know that would recognize me from my pics in my profile if they also knowingly visited this site.
     
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    My mom knows I post here. Actually ran and told her about the site as soon as I found it. She even had her own account ages ago. Still tell her about threads I read and people I chat with, so she's not completely out of the loop.

    And AboutAverage, your mom sounds really cool, glad she is cool with the site.
     
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