So, you’ve had a gay fantasy…

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by greekgott, Jul 12, 2009.

  1. greekgott

    greekgott New Member

    Jul 6, 2009
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    Here is an article I found on the net today. Is from a paper in India.

    The title of the story is the same as that of this thread. Here is the article with all its typo flaws and everything.

    WHAT’S wrong with loving and being loved the way you wish to? Why should the land’s law sit in judgement over the way we love? Why should society object to the way I want to be touched and made to feel good about myself? Or, for that matter, why should my religion determine my sexual leaning?

    Even as the high court judgement legalising homosexuality between consenting adults is widely celebrated, how many of us have really opened our hearts and minds to the world and choices of the gay community? Are not most of us merely making politically correct sounds?

    Despite present euphoria, the gay community is sceptical that anything will change for them. The only thing that changes is that now a gay person can move around without fear of arrest. Cop harassment will decrease if not disappear and nobody can hold another to ransom with knowledge of his or her homosexual leanings.

    Says designer Suneet Varma, “The judgement will make changes at grassroot levels where people will realise homosexuality is not a crime, nor a disease and not even a choice. It’s just the way some people are born. One cannot help it just as one cannot help being born with either brown or blue eyes. More effective changes in society will take a longer time because these have to do with comfort factor, habits and prejudices.” Unfortunately the law doesn’t necessarily lead or change social opinion. Does religion? Maybe to some extent, but what really has the power to deal with deep-rooted prejudices is enlightened individuals stepping forth and creating movements for the right causes. People like actor Celina Jaitley, who though straight herself, had the guts to step forth and support openly in media (through her blog on, a community that has given her a lot of friends and colleagues.

    The other way is to catch young, flexible minds. We all know children who, influenced by peer pressure and teachers, have become sensitised to the environment and say no to crackers at Diwali or have turned vegetarian even when parents haven’t.

    Need more inspiration? Just look within. Isn’t there a homosexual within us all? We say gays are people trapped emotionally in the wrong sex body. But isn’t there a bit of man and a bit of woman in all of us? A yin and a yang? Haven’t we all wondered what it would be like to be touched by a person of the same sex, who would know exactly how good it feels where?

    In a small experiment, I asked lots of colleagues and friends if they had ever been attracted to same sex people or fantasised about making love with a person of the same sex. To my surprise, not just did everyone I spoke to admit to gay fantasies, but most of them shared stories of straight friends who had indulged at least once in life in a homosexual encounter!

    Talking of her fantasy, a colleague said, “In the Woody Allen film, Vicky Christy Barcelona, Penelope Cruz shares an intimate relationship with Scarlett Johansson. Both women are in love with the same man and they claim that this threesome heightens lovemaking with the man they share. The tender touch of Cruz made me wonder whether this kind of intimacy is possible only within the same gender…”

    Two girls spoke of men they knew who had had at least one homosexual encounter each apart from a normally straight life otherwise. A male colleague remembered an uncle who in return for chocolates had French kissed all the boys in the neighbourhood after filling his own mouth with chocolate. “It was only years later that I realised that the experience can be termed as a homosexual indulgence,” says the colleague. “I am sure most of us have had some same sex encounter or the other in childhood.”

    A close female friend confessed, “There have been times when I have felt attracted to close same sex friends and often I have felt them attracted to me. One has just not ever acted on the attraction for fear of complications.” A confession that goes to show that apart from those born homosexuals, many otherwise straight people too may get the urge once in a while, if not often.

    What really rocked me was that not a single person I asked denied ever having thought of a same sex indulgence! Suneet smiles, “Ten years ago nobody even understood what being gay meant. In this last week just before the landmark judgement, awareness levels have risen more than they did in the last decade! Maybe that’s what has caused these people to shed inhibitions when they talked to you!”

    The Hite Report on Male Sexuality claims that 43 per cent American males confessed to having had sex with other boys while they were children or teenagers. However, the report declares that there was no correlation between whether a boy had had sexual experience with other boys and whether he considers himself homosexual or heterosexual in later life.

    A tarot card reader at a recent party when asked the most common question she was asked, replied, “You wouldn’t believe this but most men, married or single, come up and ask me how to deal with an attraction they have for some other man!”

    A bit farfetched that, but again, does go to show that probably homosexuality is a closer reality to all of us than even we imagine.
  2. B_curiousaboutthis

    B_curiousaboutthis New Member

    Jul 4, 2009
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    AHHHH!, The land of the Kama Sutra and the celebration of sexuality.
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