So You Want a Show on Cam, Eh?

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  1. D_Martin van Burden

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    Okay, so with the latest surge in webcam threads and discussions concerning the showing off of one's wares to the public, I thought I'd run some information by you all. It might come across as helpful advice or bitching. I'm not sure yet; just take it how you will.

    There's no hard-set rule describing what we as web cammers require of the people who watch us. I'll say this. It's particularly nice to have a two-way show, meaning we get to see you and you get to see us, whether or not we're clothed. I look at it this way. I love to know who I'm talking to on the other end of the Internet line, and what better way to establish that than with an instant cam-to-cam connection. That's not to say pictures, preferably those including a face, aren't appreciated, but... we know that people fake those sometimes, and well, it might get us a bit cautious.

    And I know the "hung" thing is a person-by-person call, meaning that some cammers insist that the guy on the other hand have an ample package of his own. I can't fully dispute this one. The only nice rationale I can come up with is that, to maintain a sense of mutual respect and appreciation for each other's wares, it's nice to see a comparable dong on the other end. I even extend this comparability to builds, if you're in good shape or particularly muscular. In any case, be aware of the cammer's preferences; inquire first, offer yourself, and if you're turned down, just dismiss yourself and move on. (In other words, what one cammer may not like will be readily liked by someone else, so there's no need for frustration.)

    So, if you're set to see some action on a cam, at least come with as comprehensive an identification palette of your own before even considering that request. Cam-to-cam is optimal; several pictures, REAL ones, are nice; and for those who don't have access, you can always fall back to as complete a profile as possible. State your name, where you're from, your age, stuff like that -- so we know who we're talking to.

    Second, it's particularly tacky to get an IM from a complete stranger that reads, "can i see your cock?"

    Why should I? I don't know a damn thing about you and you think you're in a position to make demands. Furthermore, people who make those requests and then get attitude because you won't instantly comply... well, that's "killfile" material, isn't it? So, before you start envisioning a porn fest for your greedy little eyes, take a little time to get to know us cammers first.

    Then again, if we're that horny and frisky and ready to show, we'll just do it. It still doesn't hurt to open up the conversation politely.

    Be respectful of what the cammer feels ready and ill-prepared to show. If the cammer's shy about showing his face, it's not your place to assume that he or she is sinfully ugly. (There's absolutely no nice way to voice that, so just keep the thought to yourself.) Understand that while cammers feel comfortable exhibiting their wares, some choose to do so under more discretionary terms. It's not your place to question or demand that they acquiesce to your requests.

    Speaking of requests, barraging us with "Show me this," "Show me that," "Stand up," "Show your ass," "Fight, fight, fight!" isn't fun. We try to accommodate your requests as best as we can. In some instances, we might have more than one person watching, so we want to help satisfy everyone. In other cases, hey, I'm not showing off my ass. It's just that simple. So, while understanding that we want to please, don't feel authorized to fire demands at fifty-five miles an hour. Unless you've got some arrangement with IFriends.net, we're not being paid. ;D

    Also, be sensitive to the cammer's environment. Though cams are precious little marvels, sometimes they don't work to the fullest of their capacity. It may not be focusing properly or set a little too far away from whomever. The lighting in the room might be too dark to grant a fully visible show. And, trust me, it's awkward trying to position your camera just right, so expect a degree of "whirlygig" -- i.e., when the cammer's moving the camera to the right place and the slow refresh rate makes the image look nauseatingly distorted. Hey, we're trying to get comfortable too.

    Also, if the show quits abruptly, take a moment to consider why. A roommate might have walked in. The connection might be poor. Or maybe in the throes of all that is masturbatory, maybe the cam popped out of the USB port. Send an inquiring message such as, "Are you still there?" If you don't get a response, instead of getting angry, just bow out of the conversation.

    [Ok... damn, that was a lot. If I brainstorm any other suggestions or tips, I'll bring them up.]
     
  2. Imported

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    an8x7: interesting! so how and where do we "cam" together?
     
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    Javierdude22: [quote author=DeeBlackthorne link=board=meetgreet;num=1079426513;start=0#0 date=03/16/04 at 00:32:53][Ok... damn, that was a lot.]
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    Hell yeah...
     
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    finally!!!!

    someone has said it, i hope everyone in the world will get to read this, they need to!!!!!!!!!!
     
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    Nicely said, Dee! Cams are wonderful and its better if everyone enjoys himself in the way he want to.
     
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    AUncut10in: deeblackthorne, I enjoyed your posting. It was very complete and very defined. I think you have outlined what you like and maybe what many guys like. But it is also important to remember that those rules are not rules but just your preferences. Personally, I dont really care what the other person looks like, and if a guy politely asks to see my dick, then I have no problem in showing him. I dont find that question particularly tacky, since I am on webcam with my dick out, jerkin off. It's not like I am at the grocery store. And I don't really care how big his dick is. I actually can really get into guys that have little cocks. Sometimes the contrast is a big turn on for me and for him. I do like guys that are in shape, but when I am web camming, I am not dating. so its not really that important. There is a big difference from messin around on a web cam and having a real personal connection. I like going on webcamnow.com. I dont watch other guys, just like showing off for others
    As always, it is important to remember that we are all different and all like different things. There are no rules, for everyone. But there is also nothing wrong with having you own set of rules. Maybe when you webcam, if someone asks to connect with you, you could forward him your set of rules before you connect. As for me, if you see me on webcamnow, say hello and join in.
     
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    Solis24: Well there are particular details that vary from person to person, that's for sure, one can't write a set of fixed rules because everybody thinks a bit differently on that matter. And I do believe it was more so meant as a guideline. I don't think anyone will be committing any mistakes by following these guidelines. Finally someone took the time and patience to write something up like this. I can only understand Dee's position myself. DON'T EVER pop up and ask to see my goods, it jest don't werk.
    Thanks Dee!
     
  8. D_Martin van Burden

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    I have to add something that's a bit off-topic, but please bear with me.

    I have to say this to any of you who have seen me on cam. It's not about the dick; it never was. I know my size. I'm well aware of it in fact, and though I'm gracious to accept praise and compliment when I whip it out, something matters a lot more to me. As some of you may know, in recent months I have decided to start working out. I can accept with some facticity that I'll always be a tall, thin type of guy. That's the genetics. And even though I'm proud of my own gains, it's really, utterly, and truly phenomenal to have those of you from here who have watched me say, "You look really good, Dee."

    No, damn it, I'm serious. Girls aren't the only ones that like compliments, and I'm sure we clarified that in a thread from a little while back.

    Gang, I've been sensitive about my body as long as I can remember, and I think it didn't help knowing that I would never, ever turn out to be the jock type. Don't get me wrong. I adore volleyball, and I'll play it endlessly, but I had come to terms with never being that particularly well built guy with the shapely pecs and the irresistably flat stomach. But a few of you out there with whom I have had the privilege of chatting and camming, your compliments mean a lot to me. I don't like at those compliments as a catalyst to showing my wares -- an appropriate opener before asking the inevitable, "Can you drop your pants?"

    It's not self-esteem. I don't hate myself. I like myself a lot, actually. It's just... indescribable... to have someone positively acknowledge that you're a good looking guy, that you're more than just words on a screen but that you're really this great and great looking guy who's probably got the chicks falling at his feet (Hah, yeah right!).

    You fuckers are too much, God damn it, and I love you all for it. I can't begin to express how warm and how good you all make me feel. So, to those of you who have made me feel much incredible about my skin, thank you from the bottom of my toes.

    I mean it.
     
  9. jonb

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    Thanks for the explanations. You could make a FAQ about webcam ettiquette, then you could just respond with this link followed by a quick plonk.

    Seriously, I always hated when people ask me to show it too. I sometimes get these creeps IRL too, where they tend to compliment my body; sadly, I can't just make them disappear with the drop of a From: line the way I can online.

    Say, I know this place in Seattle which serves the best plonked salmon.
     
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    rgear2: [quote author=auncut10in link=board=meetgreet;num=1079426513;start=0#5 date=03/16/04 at 13:24:15]deeblackthorne, I enjoyed your posting.  It was very complete and very defined.  I think you have outlined what you like and maybe what many guys like.  But it is also important to remember that those rules are not rules but just your preferences.  Personally, I dont really care what the other person looks like, and if a guy politely asks to see my dick, then I have no problem in showing him.  I dont find that question particularly tacky, since I am on webcam with my dick out, jerkin off.  It's not like I am at the grocery store.  And I don't really care how big his dick is.  I actually can really get into guys that have little cocks.  Sometimes the contrast is a big turn on for me and for him.   I do like guys that are in shape, but when I am web camming, I am not dating. so its not really that important.  There is a big difference from messin around on a web cam and having a real personal connection.  I like going on webcamnow.com.  I dont watch other guys, just like showing off for others
    As always, it is important to remember that we are all different and all like different things.  There are no rules, for everyone.  But there is also nothing wrong with having you own set of rules.  Maybe when you webcam, if someone asks to connect with you, you could forward him your set of rules before you connect.  As for me, if you see me on webcamnow, say hello and join in.
    [/quote]

    What do you call yourself on Webcamnow?
     
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