Okay, so with the latest surge in webcam threads and discussions concerning the showing off of one's wares to the public, I thought I'd run some information by you all. It might come across as helpful advice or bitching. I'm not sure yet; just take it how you will.
There's no hard-set rule describing what we as web cammers require of the people who watch us. I'll say this. It's particularly nice to have a two-way show, meaning we get to see you and you get to see us, whether or not we're clothed. I look at it this way. I love to know who I'm talking to on the other end of the Internet line, and what better way to establish that than with an instant cam-to-cam connection. That's not to say pictures, preferably those including a face, aren't appreciated, but... we know that people fake those sometimes, and well, it might get us a bit cautious.
And I know the "hung" thing is a person-by-person call, meaning that some cammers insist that the guy on the other hand have an ample package of his own. I can't fully dispute this one. The only nice rationale I can come up with is that, to maintain a sense of mutual respect and appreciation for each other's wares, it's nice to see a comparable dong on the other end. I even extend this comparability to builds, if you're in good shape or particularly muscular. In any case, be aware of the cammer's preferences; inquire first, offer yourself, and if you're turned down, just dismiss yourself and move on. (In other words, what one cammer may not like will be readily liked by someone else, so there's no need for frustration.)
So, if you're set to see some action on a cam, at least come with as comprehensive an identification palette of your own before even considering that request. Cam-to-cam is optimal; several pictures, REAL ones, are nice; and for those who don't have access, you can always fall back to as complete a profile as possible. State your name, where you're from, your age, stuff like that -- so we know who we're talking to.
Second, it's particularly tacky to get an IM from a complete stranger that reads, "can i see your cock?"
Why should I? I don't know a damn thing about you and you think you're in a position to make demands. Furthermore, people who make those requests and then get attitude because you won't instantly comply... well, that's "killfile" material, isn't it? So, before you start envisioning a porn fest for your greedy little eyes, take a little time to get to know us cammers first.
Then again, if we're that horny and frisky and ready to show, we'll just do it. It still doesn't hurt to open up the conversation politely.
Be respectful of what the cammer feels ready and ill-prepared to show. If the cammer's shy about showing his face, it's not your place to assume that he or she is sinfully ugly. (There's absolutely no nice way to voice that, so just keep the thought to yourself.) Understand that while cammers feel comfortable exhibiting their wares, some choose to do so under more discretionary terms. It's not your place to question or demand that they acquiesce to your requests.
Speaking of requests, barraging us with "Show me this," "Show me that," "Stand up," "Show your ass," "Fight, fight, fight!" isn't fun. We try to accommodate your requests as best as we can. In some instances, we might have more than one person watching, so we want to help satisfy everyone. In other cases, hey, I'm not showing off my ass. It's just that simple. So, while understanding that we want to please, don't feel authorized to fire demands at fifty-five miles an hour. Unless you've got some arrangement with IFriends.net, we're not being paid. ;D
Also, be sensitive to the cammer's environment. Though cams are precious little marvels, sometimes they don't work to the fullest of their capacity. It may not be focusing properly or set a little too far away from whomever. The lighting in the room might be too dark to grant a fully visible show. And, trust me, it's awkward trying to position your camera just right, so expect a degree of "whirlygig" -- i.e., when the cammer's moving the camera to the right place and the slow refresh rate makes the image look nauseatingly distorted. Hey, we're trying to get comfortable too.
Also, if the show quits abruptly, take a moment to consider why. A roommate might have walked in. The connection might be poor. Or maybe in the throes of all that is masturbatory, maybe the cam popped out of the USB port. Send an inquiring message such as, "Are you still there?" If you don't get a response, instead of getting angry, just bow out of the conversation.
[Ok... damn, that was a lot. If I brainstorm any other suggestions or tips, I'll bring them up.]
There's no hard-set rule describing what we as web cammers require of the people who watch us. I'll say this. It's particularly nice to have a two-way show, meaning we get to see you and you get to see us, whether or not we're clothed. I look at it this way. I love to know who I'm talking to on the other end of the Internet line, and what better way to establish that than with an instant cam-to-cam connection. That's not to say pictures, preferably those including a face, aren't appreciated, but... we know that people fake those sometimes, and well, it might get us a bit cautious.
And I know the "hung" thing is a person-by-person call, meaning that some cammers insist that the guy on the other hand have an ample package of his own. I can't fully dispute this one. The only nice rationale I can come up with is that, to maintain a sense of mutual respect and appreciation for each other's wares, it's nice to see a comparable dong on the other end. I even extend this comparability to builds, if you're in good shape or particularly muscular. In any case, be aware of the cammer's preferences; inquire first, offer yourself, and if you're turned down, just dismiss yourself and move on. (In other words, what one cammer may not like will be readily liked by someone else, so there's no need for frustration.)
So, if you're set to see some action on a cam, at least come with as comprehensive an identification palette of your own before even considering that request. Cam-to-cam is optimal; several pictures, REAL ones, are nice; and for those who don't have access, you can always fall back to as complete a profile as possible. State your name, where you're from, your age, stuff like that -- so we know who we're talking to.
Second, it's particularly tacky to get an IM from a complete stranger that reads, "can i see your cock?"
Why should I? I don't know a damn thing about you and you think you're in a position to make demands. Furthermore, people who make those requests and then get attitude because you won't instantly comply... well, that's "killfile" material, isn't it? So, before you start envisioning a porn fest for your greedy little eyes, take a little time to get to know us cammers first.
Then again, if we're that horny and frisky and ready to show, we'll just do it. It still doesn't hurt to open up the conversation politely.
Be respectful of what the cammer feels ready and ill-prepared to show. If the cammer's shy about showing his face, it's not your place to assume that he or she is sinfully ugly. (There's absolutely no nice way to voice that, so just keep the thought to yourself.) Understand that while cammers feel comfortable exhibiting their wares, some choose to do so under more discretionary terms. It's not your place to question or demand that they acquiesce to your requests.
Speaking of requests, barraging us with "Show me this," "Show me that," "Stand up," "Show your ass," "Fight, fight, fight!" isn't fun. We try to accommodate your requests as best as we can. In some instances, we might have more than one person watching, so we want to help satisfy everyone. In other cases, hey, I'm not showing off my ass. It's just that simple. So, while understanding that we want to please, don't feel authorized to fire demands at fifty-five miles an hour. Unless you've got some arrangement with IFriends.net, we're not being paid. ;D
Also, be sensitive to the cammer's environment. Though cams are precious little marvels, sometimes they don't work to the fullest of their capacity. It may not be focusing properly or set a little too far away from whomever. The lighting in the room might be too dark to grant a fully visible show. And, trust me, it's awkward trying to position your camera just right, so expect a degree of "whirlygig" -- i.e., when the cammer's moving the camera to the right place and the slow refresh rate makes the image look nauseatingly distorted. Hey, we're trying to get comfortable too.
Also, if the show quits abruptly, take a moment to consider why. A roommate might have walked in. The connection might be poor. Or maybe in the throes of all that is masturbatory, maybe the cam popped out of the USB port. Send an inquiring message such as, "Are you still there?" If you don't get a response, instead of getting angry, just bow out of the conversation.
[Ok... damn, that was a lot. If I brainstorm any other suggestions or tips, I'll bring them up.]
