Social Attitudes towards Hairy Guys

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A few weeks ago, in the “Ask a Woman” forum, a thread was started by a guy who recounted incidents when a woman/girlfriend rejected sex because he had a hairy back. The advice given was that confidence was the key to overcoming this.

This thread is about the SOCIAL (not sexual) aspects of being hairy and I’m posting this in both the “Ask a Woman” and “Ask a Man” forums to gauge opinion.

Decades ago, while having a hairy back and shoulders, while a bit unusual, were nevertheless seen from time to time (guys in their gardens, at the swimming pool or on the beach). Furthermore, they were not really made to feel self-conscious about it. Fast forward to modern times and there seems to be a substantial tide against hairy guys at the social level. It has got to the point that hairy guys have all but disappeared from public view.

In this age against body-shaming, hairy backs are the one area that seem to be exempt from this and that many people have no hesitation in being rude about. The implication is that guys who are much hairier than average are brutal, apelike, ugly, dirty, smelly and “do not care” about their appearance. I have been likened to a gorilla on more than one occasion.

I’m a member of British Naturism, and on the forums on their website so many would parrot the “just be yourself” line, but it is never advice they follow themselves, being depilated to the hilt, saying how clean being hair-free is.

I can either conform to this mentality and wax, shave or just keep covered, or (as I’m inclined to do) be defiant and not hide it away. After all, its only hair and also a perfectly normal and natural part of the way I’m made. However, am I violating some unwritten rule that by going shirtless or in a vest (US – tank top), that I’m being perhaps indecent whereas a smooth guy would get away with it.

The attached pics (downloaded from Flickr) show a guy showing impressive fur in public. From the context, he is (or was) a groundsman in the Central Cemetery in Vienna. This cemetery, which is rather larger than the Principality of Monaco would be no doubt attract many tourists owing to the famous people buried in the cemetery – notably classical composers such as Beethoven and Schubert. It is impressive that this guy seems completely at ease in his hirsuteness being on show to all. Also, he does not look brutal or bearish and nobody would suspect such body hair if he was wearing a suit.

It would be great if more hairy guys would have the same nonchalance about his fur and that others who post to internet forums and make personal comments be less weird about it.

Thoughts, please.
 

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I love that I’m hairy, but hate my shoulder and back hair. I always joke with the wife that you know it’s getting to be summertime when she pulls the Nair out!

She doesn’t care for the record, but I’m very self conscious about it. Probably because you never see anyone in public with shoulder and back hair. If you do, they’re immediately made fun of by everyone you are with.
 

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I love that I’m hairy, but hate my shoulder and back hair. I always joke with the wife that you know it’s getting to be summertime when she pulls the Nair out!

She doesn’t care for the record, but I’m very self conscious about it. Probably because you never see anyone in public with shoulder and back hair. If you do, they’re immediately made fun of by everyone you are with.
Only if everyone you are with sucks.
 

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Hey, I'm the guy that started that other thread.

Being confident in ourselves is still really important for the social acceptance of hairy guys. If people tease us, then I think the right way to react is to either ignore it or remind that person that they're the one being rude. My buddies tease me sometimes and with them I know they don't mean anything and are just joking around. But yea unless the person knows the hairy guy well enough, then making fun of a person is their bad.

Maybe if enough of us are confident, and don't shave, then the attitudes of people will change.

I've decided I like being a hairy guy and I own it. I can't control other people so I just have to be me.
 

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For the most part I love hairy dudes. If they have a little shoulder and/or back hair is not bad. Full gorilla style is a bit much for me, but there are a lot of people that like it.
I looove them!!! My bf is a real sasquatch extremely hairy back & shoulders & my fav thing to do is to come up from behind and lay my face & kiss his hairy shoulder specially when he's cooking
 

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I absolutely love body hair on a man. Hairy back, shoulders, arms, and hands are just awesome to me. I have had a hairy back since puberty and was super self conscious about it. I remember my sister making fun of the fact I had hair on my back and shoulders. Ugh did she flair up anxiety when she did! Luckily I grew out of it and love my body hair. I want a lot more haha

I know this is about non sexual situations but even in regular social situations such as when at work and meeting other men I notice if they have really hairy arms. I love seeing it and sometimes when I see some men who are almost like a "gorilla" it just drive my mind wild thinking how awesome it would be to explore his body lol. But I would never make fun of someone for their body hair. I hate that some hairy men ever feel bad about having it, especially a hairy back and shoulders! I know it's not as common to see as most people have a shirt on, but it doesn't mean they are some freak or anything!
 
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I'm a pretty hairy guy, including patches of hair on my shoulders. If I'm at the beach, I strut my stuff and to hell with anyone who doesn't like it. I also don't shy away from wearing tank tops.

It's something I enjoy on other men, as well.

Maybe it's a regional thing, because nobody's said anything to me about it. Nothing negative, anyway.
 

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I've always found chest hair to be cool/ sexy on men, to the extent that I really wanted hairy pecs myself- more so than big muscles or a big cock- eventually they sprouted but that was one train that was a long time coming!

When I first started swimming seriously (C2015) I noticed that I was the hairiest guy there on my first pool visit. This was prob because it was a college pool so there were swim teams using it and the average age would have been about 20. It was cool to be the hairy dude, it made me feel just that bit more alpha, but also disconcerting; I think humans like to have some of their own kind to identify with. Over the years I noticed how chest hair seemed to become more common at that pool. I stopped swimming in lockdown and have yet to go back there.

Shoulder hair I'm less keen on, although I did once have a hot session with a hairy shouldered leather man and that was horny.

I'm not keen on male back hair EXCEPT for a clump at the base of the spine. I have a bit there and am quite proud of it; photo isn't too good,
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I've seen this hair referred to as a "Devil's tail" which is quite cool and I think it can look hot on men.
 

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I am also a hairy guy and sometimes I have feel weird about it but most of them I think "if someone doesn't like, it is his/her problem" and I stop thinking.

The fun think is I have some friends who get angry when I have trimmed it...
 
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I am also a hairy guy and sometimes I have feel weird about it but most of them I think "if someone doesn't like, it is his/her problem" and I stop thinking.

The fun think is I have some friends who get angry when I have trimmed it...
I get mad too :sob:
 
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Love chest hair. Some shoulder hair is fine if it's under control. Same with some hair on the back around the traps. If it's carting to curl, it's too long for my liking. Some guys are so hot that they can pull off anything. But for most of us, wherever there's hair, it needs to be maintained. I don't have a hair fetish and I'm not interested in attracting guys who have a hair fetish. So every few weeks, I tame the hair with clippers and a back blade.