Social Attitudes towards Hairy Guys

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There is a difference between personal preference for yourself and shaming other guys. If a guy wants to shave because he likes it for himself, either looks or feels, that's no problem. Just as if a guy wants to keep himself furry, it's no problem. Really the issue is when people put down a hairy guy for not trimming/shaving.
Even getting shot down for being hairy, it sucks but also there's a different if someone tells me hairy just aren't their preference versus telling me that I'm gross because I'm hairy.
 

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There is a difference between personal preference for yourself and shaming other guys. If a guy wants to shave because he likes it for himself, either looks or feels, that's no problem. Just as if a guy wants to keep himself furry, it's no problem. Really the issue is when people put down a hairy guy for not trimming/shaving.
Even getting shot down for being hairy, it sucks but also there's a different if someone tells me hairy just aren't their preference versus telling me that I'm gross because I'm hairy.
 

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A few weeks ago, in the “Ask a Woman” forum, a thread was started by a guy who recounted incidents when a woman/girlfriend rejected sex because he had a hairy back. The advice given was that confidence was the key to overcoming this.

This thread is about the SOCIAL (not sexual) aspects of being hairy and I’m posting this in both the “Ask a Woman” and “Ask a Man” forums to gauge opinion.

Decades ago, while having a hairy back and shoulders, while a bit unusual, were nevertheless seen from time to time (guys in their gardens, at the swimming pool or on the beach). Furthermore, they were not really made to feel self-conscious about it. Fast forward to modern times and there seems to be a substantial tide against hairy guys at the social level. It has got to the point that hairy guys have all but disappeared from public view.

In this age against body-shaming, hairy backs are the one area that seem to be exempt from this and that many people have no hesitation in being rude about. The implication is that guys who are much hairier than average are brutal, apelike, ugly, dirty, smelly and “do not care” about their appearance. I have been likened to a gorilla on more than one occasion.

I’m a member of British Naturism, and on the forums on their website so many would parrot the “just be yourself” line, but it is never advice they follow themselves, being depilated to the hilt, saying how clean being hair-free is.

I can either conform to this mentality and wax, shave or just keep covered, or (as I’m inclined to do) be defiant and not hide it away. After all, its only hair and also a perfectly normal and natural part of the way I’m made. However, am I violating some unwritten rule that by going shirtless or in a vest (US – tank top), that I’m being perhaps indecent whereas a smooth guy would get away with it.

The attached pics (downloaded from Flickr) show a guy showing impressive fur in public. From the context, he is (or was) a groundsman in the Central Cemetery in Vienna. This cemetery, which is rather larger than the Principality of Monaco would be no doubt attract many tourists owing to the famous people buried in the cemetery – notably classical composers such as Beethoven and Schubert. It is impressive that this guy seems completely at ease in his hirsuteness being on show to all. Also, he does not look brutal or bearish and nobody would suspect such body hair if he was wearing a suit.

It would be great if more hairy guys would have the same nonchalance about his fur and that others who post to internet forums and make personal comments be less weird about it.

Thoughts, please.
I shave my very hairy back after being called a monster.
 

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A few weeks ago, in the “Ask a Woman” forum, a thread was started by a guy who recounted incidents when a woman/girlfriend rejected sex because he had a hairy back. The advice given was that confidence was the key to overcoming this.

This thread is about the SOCIAL (not sexual) aspects of being hairy and I’m posting this in both the “Ask a Woman” and “Ask a Man” forums to gauge opinion.

Decades ago, while having a hairy back and shoulders, while a bit unusual, were nevertheless seen from time to time (guys in their gardens, at the swimming pool or on the beach). Furthermore, they were not really made to feel self-conscious about it. Fast forward to modern times and there seems to be a substantial tide against hairy guys at the social level. It has got to the point that hairy guys have all but disappeared from public view.

In this age against body-shaming, hairy backs are the one area that seem to be exempt from this and that many people have no hesitation in being rude about. The implication is that guys who are much hairier than average are brutal, apelike, ugly, dirty, smelly and “do not care” about their appearance. I have been likened to a gorilla on more than one occasion.

I’m a member of British Naturism, and on the forums on their website so many would parrot the “just be yourself” line, but it is never advice they follow themselves, being depilated to the hilt, saying how clean being hair-free is.

I can either conform to this mentality and wax, shave or just keep covered, or (as I’m inclined to do) be defiant and not hide it away. After all, its only hair and also a perfectly normal and natural part of the way I’m made. However, am I violating some unwritten rule that by going shirtless or in a vest (US – tank top), that I’m being perhaps indecent whereas a smooth guy would get away with it.

The attached pics (downloaded from Flickr) show a guy showing impressive fur in public. From the context, he is (or was) a groundsman in the Central Cemetery in Vienna. This cemetery, which is rather larger than the Principality of Monaco would be no doubt attract many tourists owing to the famous people buried in the cemetery – notably classical composers such as Beethoven and Schubert. It is impressive that this guy seems completely at ease in his hirsuteness being on show to all. Also, he does not look brutal or bearish and nobody would suspect such body hair if he was wearing a suit.

It would be great if more hairy guys would have the same nonchalance about his fur and that others who post to internet forums and make personal comments be less weird about it. After about 15 minutes of that torture, I said, "STOP!", then grabbed my belongings, and walked out on him.

Thoughts, please.

Excellent post, @Trevor1961

My first "true love", (a very wonderful man), was eight years older than I was when we got together, and therefore, he was naturally, more hairy than I was when we first started having sex together.

To be honest, at first, I was a bit put-off by the patches of hair on the upper shoulders of his back, as I had not seen that on a man's body before I met him.

I have to say, that the way he so passionately made love to me, like nothing else that I had ever experienced, I stopped even thinking about it, and grew to love every single, beautiful hairy inch of his body, as Nature had given him.

Many years later, the very worst sexual experience that I've had with a man, was with a guy that shaved-off all of his body hair... It was like painfully having sex with very coarse sandpaper.

A/B
 
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Always been a fan of hairy men as far back as I can remember, and couldn't wait to get my own growing up.
Unfortunately, as a nudist, I quickly discovered that body hair is not liked in the nudist world. It has been out of fashion for many, many years. To see anyone on a nude beach with a pubic bush is a rarity.
The subject comes up from time to time in nudist discussion when a hairy guy asks if it's ok to be hairy - no doubt puzzled by all the shaved bodies. They will be polite and say just be what you want to be, but really they don't like hair.
I'm the odd one out at the beach with a full bush, and yes am rejected by others because of this. But, I won't be shaving or trimming to fit in, and the interesting thing is the comments I get from some shaved guys saying how impressive my bush is. It would seem they would like to grow a bush, but are afraid to buck the hairless trend.
 

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You seem pretty hairy yourself:rolleyes: :imp:
i am indeed :)

i think the problem with gay men is the fact that most of them are selfhating hypocrites.

ive never met a woman who ever had an issue with me having a hair chest and belly, or arse or legs and arms.

gay men tho? "eww you need to sbave, so gross"
 

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i am indeed :)

i think the problem with gay men is the fact that most of them are selfhating hypocrites.

ive never met a woman who ever had an issue with me having a hair chest and belly, or arse or legs and arms.

gay men tho? "eww you need to sbave, so gross"
Fuck their p3*0 asses, I want a man not a boy
 

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i am indeed :)

i think the problem with gay men is the fact that most of them are selfhating hypocrites.

ive never met a woman who ever had an issue with me having a hair chest and belly, or arse or legs and arms.

gay men tho? "eww you need to sbave, so gross"
Bi guy here, I absolutely love hairy men.
 

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Always been a fan of hairy men as far back as I can remember, and couldn't wait to get my own growing up.
Unfortunately, as a nudist, I quickly discovered that body hair is not liked in the nudist world. It has been out of fashion for many, many years. To see anyone on a nude beach with a pubic bush is a rarity.
The subject comes up from time to time in nudist discussion when a hairy guy asks if it's ok to be hairy - no doubt puzzled by all the shaved bodies. They will be polite and say just be what you want to be, but really they don't like hair.
I'm the odd one out at the beach with a full bush, and yes am rejected by others because of this. But, I won't be shaving or trimming to fit in, and the interesting thing is the comments I get from some shaved guys saying how impressive my bush is. It would seem they would like to grow a bush, but are afraid to buck the hairless trend.
Rejected? As in people won't talk to you? Or is this nude beach more of a pick-up joint than a place to enjoy being naked outdoors?
 
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Always been a fan of hairy men as far back as I can remember, and couldn't wait to get my own growing up.
Unfortunately, as a nudist, I quickly discovered that body hair is not liked in the nudist world. It has been out of fashion for many, many years. To see anyone on a nude beach with a pubic bush is a rarity.
The subject comes up from time to time in nudist discussion when a hairy guy asks if it's ok to be hairy - no doubt puzzled by all the shaved bodies. They will be polite and say just be what you want to be, but really they don't like hair.
I'm the odd one out at the beach with a full bush, and yes am rejected by others because of this. But, I won't be shaving or trimming to fit in, and the interesting thing is the comments I get from some shaved guys saying how impressive my bush is. It would seem they would like to grow a bush, but are afraid to buck the hairless trend.

Hear ye! Hear ye!... I have considered myself a "nudist" since I was a teenager. Once that, much older, I joined online Nudist websites, I noticed a constant conflict with members who claim to be all about natural "body acceptance", but then insisted on men shaving-off their body hair.

Many nudists call themselves "Naturists", but then can not appreciate men being their "natural" selves, with their body hair, AS IS.

It is a ridiculous contradiction: "Naturists" who are offended by and not attracted to men who are just fine with their body hair, AS IS. Frankly, I think those types of guys are actually "Body Hair Shaving Fetishists", and not true "Naturists"

Why the hell they claim to be "Naturists", but are offended by a full, un-shaven, un-trimmed, natural and masculine pubic bush is, in my opinion, ignorant and weird.

A/B
 

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Rejected? As in people won't talk to you? Or is this nude beach more of a pick-up joint than a place to enjoy being naked outdoors?
Yes, they can be a bit standoffish with me, but quite sociable with other shaved guys. Sometimes I get asked "do you ever shave or trim?". I can see it sometimes when they look down at my bush and their 'interest' changes. As for nude beaches being pick joints, all of them have that potential - but the dislike of pubic hair is evident whether trying to pick up or not.
 
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Many nudists call themselves "Naturists", but then can not appreciate men being their "natural" selves, with their body hair, AS IS.

It is a ridiculous contradiction: "Naturists" who are offended by and not attracted to men who are just fine with their body hair, AS IS. Frankly, I think those types of guys are actually "Body Hair Shaving Fetishists", and not true "Naturists"
Precisely. With their emphasis on being "natural", it seems rather odd to alter the body's natural growth. Yes, I definitely agree there's a shaving fetish, which is concentrated particularly with the genitals.
 

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That's stupid, and it's the same as the obsession with pearly white teeth and zero body odor: Manufacturers convinced the general public that there was something wrong with their bodies and needed to buy products to "fix" them.

I would look stupid with a shaved crotch because I'm hairy all over. I have seen pictures of guys like that who shaved their bush and just had a weird bald spot in the middle of their body. I also have a skin condition that causes me a very uncomfortable and unsightly rash when I shave, which is half the reason a keep a beard.

Fortunately for me, I've never met a guy who didn't like my natural body, and my local nude beach isn't really a place to socialize with strangers, just to hang out and have a good time. It's the kind of nude beach where everyone is welcome; I've seen people bring their kids there, so it's hardly a place to look for sex. I've walked that place completely naked without so much as a funny look.
Yes, they can be a bit standoffish with me, but quite sociable with other shaved guys. Sometimes I get asked "do you ever shave or trim?". I can see it sometimes when they look down at my bush and their 'interest' changes. As for nude beaches being pick joints, all of them have that potential - but the dislike of pubic hair is evident whether trying to pick up or not.